How to be a good girlfriend in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Hello,
I haven’t been in a relationship in a while, I’m looking for advice on how to be in a healthy relationship and what are actions your gf/wife took that made you go long term.

I just entered a relationship after months of dating and it feels great. Just want to do my best.

[Anonymous]

Stop trying so hard to please. Be yourself.

[Anonymous]

Be direct. Don't play games. Don't say things like "if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you." Pick your battles.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be direct. Don't play games. Don't say things like "if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you." Pick your battles.

You should know that no one likes a direct woman...exhbit a is Hilary Clinton

You should ask is your boyfriend doing enough to please you? If not, move on

[Anonymous]

GGG

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.

My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.

He treats me the same.

[Anonymous]

Communicate and tell the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop trying so hard to please. Be yourself.

This. Please yourself. Have a life that doesn't revolve around a man. Take good care of you, and meet your own needs.

Takes the pressure off your partner, who should be doing the same. Enabling someone's mediocrity by "taking care of them" isn't good partnership.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.

My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.

He treats me the same.

Being a good partner doesn’t mean removing your agency around sex, and this is a weird thing to include in a list of partnership qualities. A physical relationship is very important. That means being communicative, not subservient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello,
I haven’t been in a relationship in a while, I’m looking for advice on how to be in a healthy relationship and what are actions your gf/wife took that made you go long term.

I just entered a relationship after months of dating and it feels great. Just want to do my best.

Trust. If you commit to being exclusive, be that.
Don't act as if you are settling or waiting for something better to come along.
Risk putting your heart out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.

My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.

He treats me the same.

Being a good partner doesn’t mean removing your agency around sex, and this is a weird thing to include in a list of partnership qualities. A physical relationship is very important. That means being communicative, not subservient.

I do not remove my agency around sex. I CHOOSE to not turn down his advances, and that includes more than sex. For instance, I don’t shut down kisses if we are having a disagreement. The fact that we are both generous with affection and take pleasing each other seriously has been great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.

My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.

He treats me the same.

Being a good partner doesn’t mean removing your agency around sex, and this is a weird thing to include in a list of partnership qualities. A physical relationship is very important. That means being communicative, not subservient.

I do not remove my agency around sex. I CHOOSE to not turn down his advances, and that includes more than sex. For instance, I don’t shut down kisses if we are having a disagreement. The fact that we are both generous with affection and take pleasing each other seriously has been great.

Choosing to remove your own choice is exactly that. Whether you’re discussing sex or affection during a disagreement. That’s entirely separate from being generous with affection. Since this OP is clearly a young person seeking guidance, establishing the difference between a healthy physical relationship that includes generosity and carte blanche for physicality of any kind seems important, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice is to learn what your partner likes. What is their love language? Try and give love in those ways.

My BF says I’m the best GF he’s had. I love him a lot, and always try to show it. I do things to make his life easier. Cook his favorite food when he’s had a bad day, run errands for him if he’s overwhelmed, offer a listening ear, happy to be an activity partner in his interests. I never say no to his physical advances and let him know he is a priority to me.

He treats me the same.

Love language is a myth

https://bethrowles.com/5-love-languages-debunked/