Why do men on OLD ask for my phone number but only text and don't call?

[Anonymous]

These men are in their 30s but all they do is text me and never call and it's not sext but regular texts. Maybe only 2 out of 10 I gave my number to called. I called one and it went straight to voicemail. He said he's not much of a phone person and usually only talks to family. He wants to meet soon and to fly out here. He's in another state. Is not talking before meeting becoming the norm?

[Anonymous]

In understood texting is now the norm for communicating for those under 40s. Are you telling us it’s not?

[Anonymous]

Easier and more convenient. I'm a woman in my thirties and I prefer texting

[Anonymous]

Comparing the two, texting is more impersonal than calling. One man I spoke to sounded very shy on the phone. I carried the conversation. So younger people lack social skills?

[Anonymous]

People hate phone calls. This is normal.

[Anonymous]

It’s a low effort way for men to communicate with multiple women at the same time. I’m not shading them for it, it’s just a fact. You have to state your preference for phone calls if you want them to get to know you that way (better yet, make these guys get to know you in person. I do not let anybody that I don’t know well occupy my time over text.). If they can’t do that, it’s probably a pretty good screening tool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Comparing the two, texting is more impersonal than calling. One man I spoke to sounded very shy on the phone. I carried the conversation. So younger people lack social skills?

Yes, they do. I thought that was well known.

[Anonymous]

You maybe an outlier but vast majority of women I've matched on OLD prefer texting and hate calling or meeting irl. This is why I ask if they're interested meeting in person as soon as there is enough mutual interest.

I hate texting/calling and getting nowhere. I'm too damn busy and old.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's abnormal. There should be a happy medium though. You shouldn't call randomly without coordinating a time via text, but they also shouldn't expect you to meet in person without so much as a phone call if you request one.

[Anonymous]

I have always hated talking on the phone. I'm so happy tech offers us other ways to communicate now.

- woman.

[Anonymous]

Yes this is the norm. I'm a woman and prefer texting, but only a little before first date after meeting. There are some men (maybe women too) who enjoy the text flirtations and have no intention of ever dating, so you have to cull them early by not feeding their need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is the norm. I'm a woman and prefer texting, but only a little before first date after meeting. There are some men (maybe women too) who enjoy the text flirtations and have no intention of ever dating, so you have to cull them early by not feeding their need.

So you never hear their voice before actually meeting them in person? and you continue only texting after meeting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is the norm. I'm a woman and prefer texting, but only a little before first date after meeting. There are some men (maybe women too) who enjoy the text flirtations and have no intention of ever dating, so you have to cull them early by not feeding their need.

So you never hear their voice before actually meeting them in person? and you continue only texting after meeting?

Yes. This is the norm now.

[Anonymous]

I'm 53 and the only people I know who prefer phone calls are 1) behind on technology or 2) people who want to monologue at you.

That said, a dating situation may be different. If you are local texting only before a meet up seems normal. But the guy who wants to fly out to meet you without speaking on the phone first (or even facetiming) is super sus. He is likely either married/in a relationship or catfishing you in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 53 and the only people I know who prefer phone calls are 1) behind on technology or 2) people who want to monologue at you.

That said, a dating situation may be different. If you are local texting only before a meet up seems normal. But the guy who wants to fly out to meet you without speaking on the phone first (or even facetiming) is super sus. He is likely either married/in a relationship or catfishing you in some way.

Don’t you think people just want to talk to a real person ? Hearing my man’s voice is a huge turn on to me. In all serious relationships I had video calls with partners several times a week discussing out day etc . Texts just don’t transmit that level of emotion and it’s sad to see so many people not wanting social interaction