Did Carrie Bradshaw miss out on babies due to chasing Mr. Big?

[Anonymous]

Earlier in the series she looks at Stanford’s grandmothers family photos and muses about having a family of her own. Then she falls in love with Big and he rules out a relationship let alone a family. She spends the next several years of her thirties chasing him and breaking up with Aiden.

At 38 when she meets the Russian she seems a bit sad that children are not on the horizon for him either.

At the end of the series she ends up with Big in her late thirties and when we see her in her 40smon the movies it’s apparent they are child free.

Did Carries lifestyle and choices just let that option be…no more?

[Anonymous]

I just rewatched that episode along with other early episodes and I had the same thought—she did seem to want a family.

[Anonymous]

She was ambivalent about kids and married someone very set in his ways who didn’t want them. That settled it. She never seemed to have any particular longing for kids. The fact that she and Aiden never discussed the issue before getting engaged was completely unrealistic. Obviously would have been a dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

Nah she never wanted kids. Not compatible with her lifestyle and that’s ok.

[Anonymous]

She preferred shoe babies. Classic aunt material not mother material.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, and she's fortunate.

[Anonymous]

She is just not healthy psychologically (not sure how to express it better).
Her fixation on someone who doesn’t love her. Her fear of having kids. All her drinking, smoking, and changing sexual partners. Spoken as someone who used to be a lot like her and went to therapy because I wanted to be able to have a family and settle down.

So no, she didn’t miss out on kids by being with Big, but by not fixing her trauma or whatever it was.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of women have mixed feelings about having kids. I don't think she was adamantly against it, but if kids had been a priority for her she would have married Aidan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is just not healthy psychologically (not sure how to express it better).
Her fixation on someone who doesn’t love her. Her fear of having kids. All her drinking, smoking, and changing sexual partners. Spoken as someone who used to be a lot like her and went to therapy because I wanted to be able to have a family and settle down.

So no, she didn’t miss out on kids by being with Big, but by not fixing her trauma or whatever it was.

Didn’t she mention her father left her family in passing at one point? Would explain the years-long pursuit of a toxic relationship with an unavailable man. Even if everything eventually evolved.

[Anonymous]

She didn’t want kids.

[Anonymous]

But she never explicitly say she did not want kids. In the episode with Stanford’s grandmother she says she does want a family.

Then she she starts dating Big she tells him it’s important for her to have marriage in her future. She does not mention children but I’d imagine it’s implied.

With the Russian as soon as she sleeps with him she’s thinking…babies. She even asks him if he can reverse his vasectomy.

Babies and marriage was not on her mind with Aiden because she wanted someone wealthy and sophisticated who could open up her world; similar to the Russian and Big. With both of them she begins to think of family.

I think she ran out of time chasing Big and wanted him too much to scare him away with talk of babies.

[Anonymous]

The happiest people are single women with no kids.

[Anonymous]

Yes, OP. Carrie was ambivalent about kids. She worked through it and ended up married to Big with no kids. It works for her.

Some women really want kids and some women really don't. Some women are on the fence and circumstances nudge them one way or the other.

[Anonymous]

Nobody “misses out on babies” anymore than I missed out on not getting to be childless.

[Anonymous]

I think she is more of the fun aunt type. I think she might wonder what might have been but in the end, doesn’t regret not having kids.