"it's not that deep"
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Anonymous
| is my ds's favorite sentence right now. Everything is "not that deep", from an essay due he didn't start to band practice to coming home by a certain time. Everything is a conversation ending in him dismissing whatever I am saying. He's just so sure everything always will work out, that nothing matters that much. I am so sick of it and worried as we approach the college process. He's 17,a good student, has a nice girlfriend we like a lot, he does his sport and music, but he hasn't found a summer job yet and the attitude is just SO annoying. I feel like I am always walking on eggshells with him. |
Anonymous
| Why eggshells? Whats going to happen? Sure, most things aren't that deep. If he needs a summer job for spending money, he'll find one or bot have any $ to take his GF to get food/movies etc. |
Anonymous
| Quit nagging him. |
Anonymous
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I'd agree with him.
Some of those things are shallow behavior |
Anonymous
| Why does he need a job? |
Anonymous
| kid is being rude. You are in control. Call him out on it. duh |
Anonymous
| Just set your boundaries, follow through, and try to get some emotional distance. |
Anonymous
| I do not get it. He is not late for the essay so who cares when he starts it? If it is late, a bad grade or does not get turned in, set consequences as you see fits but I can not see staying on top of him at the age of 17. You will not always be there to catch these minor falls that are....well, not that deep. |
Anonymous
100% this. |
Anonymous
| My girlfriend is not that deep. |
Anonymous
| I hear the same here from my 17yo junior. I just don't take it personally. It's not that deep. |
Anonymous
What? I'm not OP but if he wants to go out with GF or friends he's got to have money to spend. |
Anonymous
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+1.
Some idiot doesn't think a job is necessary? |
Anonymous
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My now 19 yr old used to say that a lot, and it was annoying. We then started using it back on him when he would complain about something. He laughed.
As for getting started with the college process, yes, he should. And yes, it's freakin annoying when they don't realize how important it is. But, you get out of it what you put into it, so if he puts little effort into it, he won't get the high results he might be expecting, that's assuming he is expecting a lot. But, if he's not expecting a lot for college, like his aim is in state non flagship, then that could be why "it's not that deep" for him. You can only push them so far. They have to really want it and work for it on their own volition. I also have an almost junior whom I will be dealing with now for college apps. |
Anonymous
It's called dcum bubble privilege |