Is it weird to look up new coworkers on FB?

[Anonymous]

Just to see if you have any random friends in common? I discovered an interesting link with someone, but only by looking on FB, which I’d have to admit to doing in order to bring it up. This person is my superior so I don’t want to make it weird.

[Anonymous]

Yea it’s a bit odd.

[Anonymous]

Yes, weird. It's weird because you are taking a work relationship and making it more personal. You're sort of forcing that relationship to be more than it is.

[Anonymous]

Facebook makes “friend suggestions” based on who visits your page. So your boss might be able to deduce that you’ve looked her up because Facebook will likely suggest you as a friend.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it is weird. But like a pp said, if you show up in the "friend suggestions" they will know you looked them up. No one looks at those though.

[Anonymous]

It's not remotely weird. I look up lots of people I work with on facebook, including my boss.

[Anonymous]

It gets weird because if you do have people in common, how do you ever bring that up. Everyone knows the “oh haha you came up as a suggested mutual friend” is BS.

[Anonymous]

Better than looking for them on OnlyFans

[Anonymous]

It’s the kind of thing you do but definitely pdon’t admit to anyone that you do.

[Anonymous]

I look people up all the time, but I also look up their home address and get pictures of their house. I know what everyone’s house is worth, where their kids go to school, what activities they were involved in during college (thanks to LinkedIn), and I know one person had a DUI.

For some of them, I know how old their parents are and where their parents live.

For one guy, I found reviews he left on Amazon for different products.

[Anonymous]

I look up everyone. I need it for my job if I'm going into a meeting with them but also my personal nosiness. My coworkers told me they looked me up before I started.

[Anonymous]

Yes! And then you’ll show up in their suggested friends so they will know you stalked them. I’d only do it if you become work friends then want to be Facebook friends.

[Anonymous]

I too, like other PPs, look up anybody and everybody on FB and google and often dig deep if I feel like it. I assume others do too so I keep my FB page mostly private.

You could say to your superior that you noticed on your friend's page that they also were friends with them, that would be kind of normal without looking like stalking behavior. As in, Do you know Jack Smith? I noticed on his FB page that you are a friend of his.

[Anonymous]

It seems inappropriate, because FB is primarily a social, not a professional, platform. Looking business contacts/colleagues up on LinkedIn seems less strange, because that platform is intended for business purposes.

[Anonymous]

I look up people all the time. And BTW, this is exactly what social media is for. People make profiles which is sort of a calling card or branding. If it's private then it's private, but the general point of it is to be out there.

Once I looked up a work acquaintance due to her general odd behavior. Not on FB, but court records. ( Her Facebook was covered with dog memes, who cares.) Yup, numerous clashes with the law regarding 2 peace orders, financial debt, and a couple of law suits. A lot made sense after that.