21 not interested in work or school

[Anonymous]

Hello
My 21 year old son has no interest in going to college or getting a job. He takes classes at a community college that I pay for and then fails the classes. I don’t know what to do. He is so lazy and has no interests. Please help .

[Anonymous]

most people end up at work or school because there is no other option. Stop paying his rent and tuition, give him a move out date. It will be rough but he will figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Charge him rent. Freeloading off you can not be an option.

[Anonymous]

Is he depressed?

[Anonymous]

I agree with getting firmer and charging rent. But do you think he’s depressed? Maybe he needs to talk to a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Has he ever worked? Did he liked it or chose to continue to CC?

[Anonymous]

What did he do to earn money at 16? 18? 20?

[Anonymous]

Im not usually an advocate for harshness but this is why many parents kick kids out at 18. I dont want to work or go to school either. But i like having a house and food and clothes.

[Anonymous]

"Interested" is an odd choice of words
Is English your first language? That may explain the choice of the word
Otherwise, Work/School is a responsibility
It's not optional

[Anonymous]

Was this fake thread generated by AI?

[Anonymous]

Did he work hard in K-12? Maybe he's burned out? The burnout can be very real for today's young adults who jumped through all the hoops in high school. They're tired, and the job market actually isn't that great for young people.

[Anonymous]

6 weeks to get a full time job and pay your rent or go to school full time with passing grades.

[Anonymous]

I would stop paying his phone bill, stop funding his car insurance. He can work and stay home or go to school and work hard. No other options

[Anonymous]

Is this new behavior? What did he do last year or the year before? What were his high school grades like? How does he spend his time? Is there anything he enjoys doing?

Depending on the answers, it could be anything from undiagnosed ADHD or LDs to depression or drug use.

[Anonymous]

My son has ADHD/ASD. There is a high risk of failure to launch in that group, so in addition to evaluations, therapies, medications, services and accommodations from K-12... I needed to help him apply to college, and now I'm helping him find jobs and volunteering opportunities. He's 19. He wouldn't have been able to do any of this by himself. He works hard when he understands it's important... but he needs a lot of structure and support.

One day, I hope he can have a stable career. Right now, his brain is not mature enough to handle his life by himself.

Maybe your son needs an evaluation by a psychologist.