Announcing early

[Anonymous]

I was scrolling through Facebook tonight and saw that an old friend of mine announced her pregnancy at only 7 weeks. I'm definitely thrilled for her and her family, but I was surprised by how early she shared the news. She acknowledged that it’s early and that anything could happen, but that when they saw the heartbeat, they decided they wanted to share and celebrate.

Have you or anyone you know ever announced a pregnancy that early? It made me wonder if people are starting to be more open about pregnancies in the early stages. Though I was taken aback at first, I think this could be a positive thing. Is waiting 3 months still the standard or is it becoming antiquated? I know it could also depend on each individual and their circumstances/history.

[Anonymous]

Friends from high school have announced as soon as they got a positive, then announced the miscarriage, then did it again. I understand telling a few people close to you, but all of the internet?

Takes all kinds.

[Anonymous]

All well and good until they have issues, then she might not announce early again. Hopefully they never need to report anything but a healthy baby.

[Anonymous]

I told close family and friends immediately. Also told them when I miscarried, twice. It was helpful for them to know that had happened.

They also knew early for each of our successful pregnancies.

We told the people not in the closet circle as we saw them after 12 weeks. Then announced on social media at 21 weeks or so.

[Anonymous]

We were hosting a milestone birthday party with lots of family and friends in person the same week I had a good ultrasound at 7 weeks. We announced to everyone about halfway through the party and it was so much fun.

[Anonymous]

Considering I've lost 6 pregnancies...nope, no way. If I ever get to 20 weeks again, family will find out then. Rest of the world won't know until the birth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told close family and friends immediately. Also told them when I miscarried, twice. It was helpful for them to know that had happened.

They also knew early for each of our successful pregnancies.

We told the people not in the closet circle as we saw them after 12 weeks. Then announced on social media at 21 weeks or so.

Absolutely this. Of course plenty of people want to share the news with those close to them, and may also want to share any bad news with that circle afterwards. Sharing in the celebration and getting support.

Announcing on social media at that stage just seems like you can't wait for everyone fawning over you with attention.

[Anonymous]

I'm not really a social media person but if it's their pregnancy, they get to choose, I suppose.

Facebook has really become hard to see friends' stuff with all the ads, so if there's anyone important, message them directly as well. I've totally missed some announcements because feeds are clogged now.

[Anonymous]

I remember telling my family at 10 weeks. I did not tell my friends or coworkers. I miscarried at 17 weeks. We were devastated. But it made it easier for me to deal with without everyone constantly saying “I’m sorry.”

Next pregnancy, I did not tell anyone till almost 6 months. I was soooo scared. I was not showing in the belly but looked like I gained weight all over. But women can tell. They knew something was up.

I did deliver 4 weeks early but they are happy and healthy teenagers now.

[Anonymous]

I literally never announced to anyone I wasn’t close to, and I announced immediately to those very close to me. I never told acquaintances or coworkers I was pregnant and, in fact, I never told them when the baby was born even though I’m sure they all figured it out. I just don’t feel comfortable talking about my body and family except with close friends. But I didn’t see the need to hide anything from close friends. I’d be fine with them knowing about a miscarriage. It’s not like it’s shameful.

[Anonymous]

I think “announcing” a pregnancy is somewhat weird and never said a word about one on social media. Told relatives and work at 20 weeks.

[Anonymous]

I remember my gynecologist saying that once you see the heartbeat, chance of loss goes WAY down—and that the 3-month rule is obsolete.

[Anonymous]

After getting diagnosed with a rare condition at my 20 week ultrasound, I’m now team wait until after the anatomy scan. Baby is fine but that was a real wake up call that even after 3 months - you really don’t know if the pregnancy is something you can/ want to continue until all the genetic tests and major scans are done.

[Anonymous]

After 2 early losses and a stillbirth, I told close friends and family at 20 weeks and everyone else after baby arrived healthy and alive at term.

[Anonymous]

Abortion isn’t so vilified anymore so people want to share their news asap. I’m all for it. Women shouldn’t have to suffer alone.