First Yellow Card

[Anonymous]

Any advice to tell my daughter who got her first yellow card today? She’s 12. The card was for repeatedly telling an opponent to stop pushing.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. It’s a formal warning. No ramifications. Forget it and move on, part of soccer.

[Anonymous]

Speak with your feet, not with your mouth.

Use your body.

Play physical but fair.

Stop complaining.

[Anonymous]

4 Yellow cards can add up to a full game suspension in NCSL. Which can hurt her team. Play hard but fair. Most players pick up 1 or 2 per season by playing hard and with intensity, which is ok!

[Anonymous]

Say congrats!

[Anonymous]

Yes, all of this and let her know, assuming she is not understanding what a yellow card is, (sounds like you’re more confused about it than her). If she does not like the pushing, instead of mouthing off to the player and getting a yellow, drop a hard shoulder into the player that was pushing her, when that player gets the ball and then take it from her. Play physical back. It’s part of the game. And remember, to prevent most physical play is to speed up your game. The faster you get the ball and then get rid of it with a good pass, takes the physical play out of it. This will come when she builds up her skill and is able to see the game better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any advice to tell my daughter who got her first yellow card today? She’s 12. The card was for repeatedly telling an opponent to stop pushing.

Tell her refs don't like mouthing off and will card you when they've had enough. It's also a terrible reason to get a card as well since you didn't break up a play etc. They are acceptable when you're showing reasonable aggression out on the field, just don't ever get that red.

Otherwise, you get your opponent to stop pushing by having your arms out ready to swat or elbow their push away. Or stiff arm them when they are off balance from pushing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, all of this and let her know, assuming she is not understanding what a yellow card is, (sounds like you’re more confused about it than her). If she does not like the pushing, instead of mouthing off to the player and getting a yellow, drop a hard shoulder into the player that was pushing her, when that player gets the ball and then take it from her. Play physical back. It’s part of the game. And remember, to prevent most physical play is to speed up your game. The faster you get the ball and then get rid of it with a good pass, takes the physical play out of it. This will come when she builds up her skill and is able to see the game better.

So drop a hard shoulder and get her second yellow?

[Anonymous]

Tell her it's permanent and will go on her high school and college record, and will follow her into adulthood. When she gets her first job it will remain on her employee record and you'll have to notify the social security administration that she has picked up a yellow card.

Or just take her out for ice cream and say honey it's okay

[Anonymous]

Just tell her it's no big deal. Different refs make different calls.

[Anonymous]

Is she upset or are you? If she is upset, let her know it's OK, that every ref is different, just like every person is different. Some don't call anything, some call every little thing, and she should play her own game and move on.

If it's you who is upset, get over it

[Anonymous]

Sorry this is a fb clip. I remembered it but it's a weird search - maybe someone can find somehthing better: player lets retiring ref give him one last yellow card. adorable

https://www.facebook.com/refereeabroad/videos/respect-part-2remember-the-video-we-posted-on-the-other-day-about-the-homage-to-/6726914437380467/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, all of this and let her know, assuming she is not understanding what a yellow card is, (sounds like you’re more confused about it than her). If she does not like the pushing, instead of mouthing off to the player and getting a yellow, drop a hard shoulder into the player that was pushing her, when that player gets the ball and then take it from her. Play physical back. It’s part of the game. And remember, to prevent most physical play is to speed up your game. The faster you get the ball and then get rid of it with a good pass, takes the physical play out of it. This will come when she builds up her skill and is able to see the game better.

So drop a hard shoulder and get her second yellow?

As long as her arms stay down and hands stay by her side it's legal. And effective.

Weird that a ref would card a 12 year old over this unless she used profanity.

Dp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any advice to tell my daughter who got her first yellow card today? She’s 12. The card was for repeatedly telling an opponent to stop pushing.

This made me laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, all of this and let her know, assuming she is not understanding what a yellow card is, (sounds like you’re more confused about it than her). If she does not like the pushing, instead of mouthing off to the player and getting a yellow, drop a hard shoulder into the player that was pushing her, when that player gets the ball and then take it from her. Play physical back. It’s part of the game. And remember, to prevent most physical play is to speed up your game. The faster you get the ball and then get rid of it with a good pass, takes the physical play out of it. This will come when she builds up her skill and is able to see the game better.

So drop a hard shoulder and get her second yellow?

The refs can’t see the whole field. Even if they do, better to be carded for that then whining