My boyfriend and I have been living together for 6 months and hygiene is a big contention in our relationship. He’s a 3 shower a day person and I shower 1-2 times a day. He often gets annoyed that I won’t shower before bed. This issue is causing tension in our relationship and might lead to a breakup. |
So breakup then. |
Good for you. |
The showers a day?!?!?
What does this person do for a job? When does he have time to shower so much? Also … I mean it’s your right to shower a mere one or two times a day … why won’t you shower before bed though? He’s asked you to, it won’t cause you any harm … one when you wake up and one at bed time? |
So is his reasoning that he likes to keep the bed clean so that’s why he’s big on showers before bed, or does he think people need three showers a day to be clean? |
Curious where the third shower might come in?
I am imagining wake up and take a shower, take a shower after the gym and then shower again before bed, right? I take two a day in the spring and summer, A quick rinse to freshen up before sex But if it’s the winter time and I know sex isn’t on the table I’ll skip my bedtime shower. How exactly does he voice his displeasure with you not bathing? |
OP here. He showers in the morning, after his workout after work, and before bed. I shower in the morning and after a workout if I workout that day. I see no point in showering at 6pm and then showering again at 9/10pm before bed.
He has told me that showering right before bed is the best feeling. He doesn’t like going to bed dirty. This is also a guy who changes his sheets everyday other day. |
OP here. He will ask if I want to shower with him or he will make comments like “ are you going to shower?” “ you didn’t shower?” |
Heh. Do you plan on kids? Cause they are messy and ot can be really hard on a person not used to that. |
I mean, if you’ve showered in the evening, you’ve already showered before bed. And that’s alot of sheet changing. How does he keep up with the laundry? |
This kind of OCD or anxiety disorder does not bode well at all. I'd move on, OP.
Do either of you have kids? |
Yea, there’s no way you’re washing everyone’s sheets every other day once there are kids in the picture. |
Yeah I dated someone like this but worse. If I was reading a book from a library he'd freak if I touched anything before washing my hand. If I gave him a BJ he wouldn't want me to touch anything until I washed my hands. He would get out of bed and open doors so I wouldn't touch door handles.
No thanks |
Dump him. He’s controlling. |
OP here. He’s very clean and we have 4 sets of sheets. He’s also the type of guy that won’t wear pajamas more than once. |