Acquaintance keeps finding ways to tell me her DH doesn’t really like me

[Anonymous]

Not sure if this is the right forum. There is a woman that I know from my kid’s school and who I see at soccer practices and other social events. Not really a friend but we have a number of mutual friends.

She’s nice enough to me but literally every time we talk, she finds a way to tell me her husband has some kind of issue with me. Really strange things, like “he’s not sure what to think of you since you mentioned you really like such and such a music genre” or “he knew you’d be at XYZ event and actually mentioned he was going to avoid it” and then abruptly change the topic.

It’s SO bizarre. The guy himself is fine, nothing antsy or rude or weird, he’s very friendly if anything.

Not sure if she ever does this to other women, if she does I haven’t seen it. I feel like saying something to call her on it but idk what I’m really dealing with here. On my end there’s no problem, but he or they seem to really have some issue with me.

[Anonymous]

She sees you at a threat.

[Anonymous]

Sounds very strange. Is he really handsome or something? Almost seems like an insecure person's tactic to drive a wedge between their spouse and people of the opposite sex that she sees as a potential threat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if this is the right forum. There is a woman that I know from my kid’s school and who I see at soccer practices and other social events. Not really a friend but we have a number of mutual friends.

She’s nice enough to me but literally every time we talk, she finds a way to tell me her husband has some kind of issue with me. Really strange things, like “he’s not sure what to think of you since you mentioned you really like such and such a music genre” or “he knew you’d be at XYZ event and actually mentioned he was going to avoid it” and then abruptly change the topic.

It’s SO bizarre. The guy himself is fine, nothing antsy or rude or weird, he’s very friendly if anything.

Not sure if she ever does this to other women, if she does I haven’t seen it. I feel like saying something to call her on it but idk what I’m really dealing with here. On my end there’s no problem, but he or they seem to really have some issue with me.

You have to say something. Next time she brings it up tell her that you’re sorry he feels that way and that there is no problem on your end.

Bizzare

[Anonymous]

Tell her: it's great that he's your husband, not mine

[Anonymous]

She’s insecure in her marriage. He brought you up to her, innocuously or not, and she’s mate guarding. Ignore people like this; I feel for her bc she must be uncomfortable but she needs to handle her business and not harass you. That’s pretty rude.

[Anonymous]

That’s truly bizarre or a troll post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sees you at a threat.

NP. I doubt it.

OP, for whatever reason her DH can't stand you and she feels awkward about it and keeps mentioning it. You probably said something. He seems fine because he's politer than she is.

[Anonymous]

“Julia, you keep mentioning that your husband doesn’t like me. Are you trying to tell me that you don’t like me? I can’t figure out why you are being so unkind and rude.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Julia, you keep mentioning that your husband doesn’t like me. Are you trying to tell me that you don’t like me? I can’t figure out why you are being so unkind and rude.”

This is a fine response but takes a lot of courage to deliver well! Honestly I read it as - she really likes you and her husband really doesn’t and she feels weird about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Julia, you keep mentioning that your husband doesn’t like me. Are you trying to tell me that you don’t like me? I can’t figure out why you are being so unkind and rude.”

This is a fine response but takes a lot of courage to deliver well! Honestly I read it as - she really likes you and her husband really doesn’t and she feels weird about that.

But who verbalizes that? So weird.

[Anonymous]

I think I'd just be honest and open about it: Larla you've mentioned several times that your DH doesn't like me. I don't know what to make of it--what's his issue and why are you telling me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Julia, you keep mentioning that your husband doesn’t like me. Are you trying to tell me that you don’t like me? I can’t figure out why you are being so unkind and rude.”

This is a fine response but takes a lot of courage to deliver well! Honestly I read it as - she really likes you and her husband really doesn’t and she feels weird about that.

But who verbalizes that? So weird.

I agree with that. The woman has social issues regardless of the reason behind it though.

[Anonymous]

In my 30s, I'd have felt bad. Now I'm in my 40s, I would take malicious pleasure in drawing her out and making her explain herself and seeing what sort of nonsense comes out...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
In my 30s, I'd have felt bad. Now I'm in my 40s, I would take malicious pleasure in drawing her out and making her explain herself and seeing what sort of nonsense comes out...

Completely agree and I like 1517 script.