Thoughts on boys with painted nails

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care what others do but happy mine didn’t ask to try. I would try to talk him out of it if he did, but if he were insistent I would let him.
But getting so excited about painted nails might be a subtle sign... OP may not know yet.

A subtle sign of what? Liking color?

Please go take your homophobic self off the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No painted nails. No butterfly backpacks. No long girl hair. Just no.

So glad this has not been an issue for us.

OP here and omg get off your high horse. My son is 5 and all boy. So he wanted his finger nails painted because he watched me get my nails done big deal. There's nothing wrong with a little nail polish. It doesn't mean he wants to be a girl. He's 5 and thinks its cool. If he wants to experience new things he can. We're very conservative with our values and morals but not to the point of not having fun. Childhood is supposed to be fun not only for the child but the parents too. There's already a lot of miserable people in this world and I don't intend to add another. Our goal is to raise a well balanced little boy into a strong respectable man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No painted nails. No butterfly backpacks. No long girl hair. Just no.

So glad this has not been an issue for us.

I am hoping you're just trolling with this comment. Why in the world can't a boy have a butterfly backpack????? I personally don't like the look of long hair on boys but it's just my preference and if my son really wanted long hair I'd try to talk him out of it but ultimately let him do what he wants with his own body. Same with the nails....not my favorite look but not a hill worth dying on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No painted nails. No butterfly backpacks. No long girl hair. Just no.

So glad this has not been an issue for us.

OP here and omg get off your high horse. My son is 5 and all boy. So he wanted his finger nails painted because he watched me get my nails done big deal. There's nothing wrong with a little nail polish. It doesn't mean he wants to be a girl. He's 5 and thinks its cool. If he wants to experience new things he can. We're very conservative with our values and morals but not to the point of not having fun. Childhood is supposed to be fun not only for the child but the parents too. There's already a lot of miserable people in this world and I don't intend to add another. Our goal is to raise a well balanced little boy into a strong respectable man.

Then why the hell did you post in the first place? And why did your husband roll his eyes? If you can’t handle different responses, don’t post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many disappointing and uptight people in this thread. Wow. Quite sad and unbelievably surprising.

Or just people who have a different opinion than yours.

Soooo many people like to think a "different opinion" is ok, even when its damaging and wrong.

Please don't do this to your kids. Try to love them for who they are, not who your outdated and hateful "opinions" would have them be.

Or, watch them leave.

Excuse me? I don’t want my 8 year old girl having painted nails. That is damaging and wrong now??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally ridiculous. Go ahead and flame me.

+1

[Anonymous]

Totally fine! My now 9 year old son loved having his nails painted when he was that age - it was a fun bonding thing for us. He would rather die than do it now. My 5 year old son now asks for it too, but almost immediately wants it removed. It's fun - like any kind of paint.

[Anonymous]

I spent a lot of time with my oldest DS when he was that age and younger. He often saw me painting my toenails. Something in him said that wasn't for him, so he never asked. He often mimicked the adults in his circle, but it was clear to him where to draw the line. If he had asked about painting his nails, I probably would have said no and moved on. If he had been persistent I probably would have re-directed him somehow and encouraged him to express himself some other way. Same thing with his younger brother, who could be more expressive in his fashion sense. I let DS2 grow his hair long and wear what he wants within reason.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s a sign that we are moving in a good direction as far as relaxing how policed gender is. I hope that relaxation becomes widespread and has affects on things like gendered pay inequality etc. Plus I like blue nail polish.

[Anonymous]

The homophobia and misogyny on this thread is astounding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No painted nails. No butterfly backpacks. No long girl hair. Just no.

So glad this has not been an issue for us.

I am hoping you're just trolling with this comment. Why in the world can't a boy have a butterfly backpack????? I personally don't like the look of long hair on boys but it's just my preference and if my son really wanted long hair I'd try to talk him out of it but ultimately let him do what he wants with his own body. Same with the nails....not my favorite look but not a hill worth dying on.

No high horse. No hills to die on. We haven’t had to deny anyone anything, it just hasn’t been an issue for us. But if it came up, I would just calmly but firmly say no the same I way I didn’t give into the desire for light up sneakers or shorts in winter or sitting in the front seat too young. And now that my kids are older they do a great job of choosing clothing that suits them that is also acceptable to me.

[Anonymous]

I don't think most people take much notice of painted nails on anyone. Do what you want but male or female, young or old, entire exercise is a waste of time and money.

[Anonymous]

I don't plan on painting any nails because there are toxic chemicals in nail polish and inevitably they chip and look like garbage

[Anonymous]

As long as it’s the nontoxic kid kind!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spent a lot of time with my oldest DS when he was that age and younger. He often saw me painting my toenails. Something in him said that wasn't for him, so he never asked. He often mimicked the adults in his circle, but it was clear to him where to draw the line. If he had asked about painting his nails, I probably would have said no and moved on. If he had been persistent I probably would have re-directed him somehow and encouraged him to express himself some other way. Same thing with his younger brother, who could be more expressive in his fashion sense. I let DS2 grow his hair long and wear what he wants within reason.

+1,000 this exactly!