If you lie about your hometown, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is for people who, when asked where they're from, will say the current city they live in, rather than where they grew up.

Aka someone who grew up in Utah, but is living in NYC, and when they meet someone new and asked, the say "New York".

Why do you do it? Is it shame about your hometown? Wishing you could have grown up in someplace more sophisticated?

I can't imagine what this looks like when some native New Yorker says something like, "cool. I grew up on the Upper West Side, how about you?"

Mega embarrassing for Provo.

Yep or "what high school did you go to?"

Major, major L. And way less embarrassing than just calmly saying "I'm from Kentucky" from the jump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is for people who, when asked where they're from, will say the current city they live in, rather than where they grew up.

Aka someone who grew up in Utah, but is living in NYC, and when they meet someone new and asked, the say "New York".

Why do you do it? Is it shame about your hometown? Wishing you could have grown up in someplace more sophisticated?

Why do you want to know where they grew up? Is it relevant to your life? Why do you do it?

[Anonymous]

Where are you from, troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is for people who, when asked where they're from, will say the current city they live in, rather than where they grew up.

Aka someone who grew up in Utah, but is living in NYC, and when they meet someone new and asked, the say "New York".

Why do you do it? Is it shame about your hometown? Wishing you could have grown up in someplace more sophisticated?

Why do you want to know where they grew up? Is it relevant to your life? Why do you do it?

People can't be interested in other people's lives? Why do take a simple question as an attack?

[Anonymous]

I sometimes say I am from the town next to mine, where I went to high school, because more people have heard of it.

If asked where I live now, while traveling, I say DC. If pressed further by someone who knows the area, I say Arlington.

[Anonymous]

My grandma was born and raised in Queens NY, but says New Jersey (where she spent much of her adult life), when people ask where she’s from. I’ve never been sure why.

From college and forward in life, when people ask where I grew up, I would say the closest town to the rural village I did grow up in. My mother always scolded me for this because the town (which is in Nova - take a guess!) has a bad reputation and is considered trashy. She’d always ask me to choose a nicer town instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is for people who, when asked where they're from, will say the current city they live in, rather than where they grew up.

Aka someone who grew up in Utah, but is living in NYC, and when they meet someone new and asked, the say "New York".

Why do you do it? Is it shame about your hometown? Wishing you could have grown up in someplace more sophisticated?

I can't imagine what this looks like when some native New Yorker says something like, "cool. I grew up on the Upper West Side, how about you?"

Mega embarrassing for Provo.

Yep or "what high school did you go to?"

Major, major L. And way less embarrassing than just calmly saying "I'm from Kentucky" from the jump.

????

Conversation in DC between people who are just meeting:

"So, James, where are you from?"

"New York."

"cool. I grew up on the Upper West Side, how about you?"

"Oh, I grew up in Kentucky. I moved to New York after college. Do you get back there often?"

How is that embarrassing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is for people who, when asked where they're from, will say the current city they live in, rather than where they grew up.

Aka someone who grew up in Utah, but is living in NYC, and when they meet someone new and asked, the say "New York".

Why do you do it? Is it shame about your hometown? Wishing you could have grown up in someplace more sophisticated?

I can't imagine what this looks like when some native New Yorker says something like, "cool. I grew up on the Upper West Side, how about you?"

Mega embarrassing for Provo.

Yep or "what high school did you go to?"

Major, major L. And way less embarrassing than just calmly saying "I'm from Kentucky" from the jump.

????

Conversation in DC between people who are just meeting:

"So, James, where are you from?"

"New York."

"cool. I grew up on the Upper West Side, how about you?"

"Oh, I grew up in Kentucky. I moved to New York after college. Do you get back there often?"

How is that embarrassing?

More like. "Oh nevermind, I actually grew up in Kentucky." Shifty glance. "But I lived there for awhile."

Awkward smile from the person who grew up in New York and knows *exactly* what is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sometimes say I am from the town next to mine, where I went to high school, because more people have heard of it.

If asked where I live now, while traveling, I say DC. If pressed further by someone who knows the area, I say Arlington.

How odd. People have never heard of my hometown, pop. 139 or my high school's town, pop. 3000. It's the kind of information that involves a long boring geography lesson of Pennsylvania. Are you really that interested?

[Anonymous]

You seem like a Karen O.P. You have no apparent awareness that this question is often asked of non-white people where the questioner assumes the person is from outside the U.S. M.Y.O.F.B.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You seem like a Karen O.P. You have no apparent awareness that this question is often asked of non-white people where the questioner assumes the person is from outside the U.S. M.Y.O.F.B.

NP. You dont seem to know what a Karen is. Stop policing other people and check your own privilege

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You seem like a Karen O.P. You have no apparent awareness that this question is often asked of non-white people where the questioner assumes the person is from outside the U.S. M.Y.O.F.B.

NP. You dont seem to know what a Karen is. Stop policing other people and check your own privilege

On

Yawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is for people who, when asked where they're from, will say the current city they live in, rather than where they grew up.

Aka someone who grew up in Utah, but is living in NYC, and when they meet someone new and asked, the say "New York".


Why do you do it? Is it shame about your hometown? Wishing you could have grown up in someplace more sophisticated?

Nope, love love my hometown/suburb. Way more than the upscale DC burb I live in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why I've started asking people "where did you grow up?" Everyone wants to seem like a lifelong urban dweller, and they will do anything to maintain that illusion. It's kind of sad.

Seriously why do you care? Those who are fixated on this seem like the nosiest, most status-obsessed, people. And I'm someone who answers that I'm from Florida because I am. But I don't care how other people answer, I'm just making conversation.

Because I'm curious about other people and knowing where someone grew up gives you an important clue to their identity? I mean... duh?

There you go. The bolded is why some people are uncomfortable with answering your question straight on. You think where they were born and raised is an important clue to their identify, they think you'll make assumptions about them and they'd be right. Plenty of people don't have good associations with where they grew up and may feel more emotional attachment to somewhere else where they actively carved out their identity.

Do you not see the irony of your statement?

Of course it does. Everyone is influenced, both by where they live, and where they grew up. We're suppose to erase 20 years of a person's life?

So basically, you think people will judge you for where you're from and you're afraid of that judgement? Because you think you grew up in some loser town or something?

I think you’re reading way too much into this. I grew up in a wealthy California beach town, which objectively most people would envy but I never felt a connection to it and left as soon as I could. At this point I have lived longer in DC than I ever did there and feel far more of a connection. If you ask me where I’m from originally then of course I’ll answer California, but otherwise I now identify far more as a DCite and it has nothing to do with being embarrassed of my hometown of origin but rather where I feel the strongest ties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is for people who, when asked where they're from, will say the current city they live in, rather than where they grew up.

Aka someone who grew up in Utah, but is living in NYC, and when they meet someone new and asked, the say "New York".

Why do you do it? Is it shame about your hometown? Wishing you could have grown up in someplace more sophisticated?

Maybe they have lived in nyc longer than Utah?