A Week In Washington, DC, On A Joint $655,000 Income - Money Diary

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Anonymous wrote:I get a gut feeling she's not white. Maybe Asian?

I don’t know - old money I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s white. If not, my guess is Indian. Does it matter?

My guess is black

I thought Indian, based on the food descriptions.

My guess is big Indian or Persian family.

Indian people don't have great-grandparents in this country.

We've only been allowed to immigrate for the past 40-50 years.

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Anonymous wrote:I get a gut feeling she's not white. Maybe Asian?

I don’t know - old money I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s white. If not, my guess is Indian. Does it matter?

My guess is black

I thought Indian, based on the food descriptions.

My guess is big Indian or Persian family.

Indian people don't have great-grandparents in this country.

We've only been allowed to immigrate for the past 40-50 years.

If they live in Georgetown, could have been a diplomatic family. Or only part of the family is Indian.

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Anonymous wrote:If he only makes $120k that ain’t “big law.”

I guarantee he’s a Fed. If kids are in the cards they won’t have time for surgeon + Big Law.

I agree that he’s definitely a fed lawyer. Interestingly I know a few fed lawyers married to women who are much higher earners. I think it might be a dad track job.

What fed gets quarterly bonuses? Might be non-profit.

No nonprofit gives quarterly bonuses. Some do year end but not quarterly.

I'm very familiar with the DC legal market. There are a few well respect boutiques that have this pay model. Associates are paid a base salary of $120K and deceive quarterly bonuses that bring them up to big law pay. The pay structure is designed to match the partner pay structure of receiving a quarterly draw. Not common, but certainly not unheard of.

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Anonymous wrote:"K. and L. bro out about big law life"...

Pretty sure DH's assistant makes more than $120k at a big law firm...

Also is her paycheck AFTER taxes? $12,178 biweekly comes out to $292k....

515 + 120 = 635K, not 655K.

Maybe her dh worked in biglaw after law school and left to do something else - like lots of people. Maybe L is still in it and talking about it and K is saying thank G- d I left. A lot of details were likely edited out (or not included).

This is what the author of the money diary said in the comments:

“A couple things that came up a lot:

Without revealing much more information (I was dying at whoever was trying to find him on the internet), my husband left his big law job when we moved back to DC after my residency. He took a job with better hours and a flexible WFH policy. We're planning on having a baby in the next few years and he will have most of the childcare responsibilities.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"K. and L. bro out about big law life"...

Pretty sure DH's assistant makes more than $120k at a big law firm...

Also is her paycheck AFTER taxes? $12,178 biweekly comes out to $292k....

515 + 120 = 635K, not 655K.

Maybe her dh worked in biglaw after law school and left to do something else - like lots of people. Maybe L is still in it and talking about it and K is saying thank G- d I left. A lot of details were likely edited out (or not included).

This is what the author of the money diary said in the comments:

“A couple things that came up a lot:

Without revealing much more information (I was dying at whoever was trying to find him on the internet), my husband left his big law job when we moved back to DC after my residency. He took a job with better hours and a flexible WFH policy. We're planning on having a baby in the next few years and he will have most of the childcare responsibilities.”

Where is the comment section? I don't see it on the link provided

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get a gut feeling she's not white. Maybe Asian?

I don’t know - old money I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s white. If not, my guess is Indian. Does it matter?

My guess is black

I thought Indian, based on the food descriptions.

My guess is big Indian or Persian family.

Indian people don't have great-grandparents in this country.

We've only been allowed to immigrate for the past 40-50 years.

If they live in Georgetown, could have been a diplomatic family. Or only part of the family is Indian.

You are really reaching now. Lol. The Indian community is tiny in DC, in all of America actually, it would be well known if there was a 30 something multi-millionaire Indian doctor in DC whose family has been here for a minimum of 80 years. Even writing that out is absurd. India wasn't even an independent country until 1948.

Now if she's Indian and married some old money WASP or a black or Jewish man from generational wealth, that could be plausible but then that townhouse was inherited from his side, not hers.

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From the various hints in this piece it is obvious she is generationally wealthy from the DC area which likely means she is white. Paying sorority/fraternity dues to be active in alumni chapters is also a white thing, not just a black thing.

I think the whole article is a bit misleading. If she has a family office, she comes from a very wealthy family and they probably have investment income that is not "salary". She sounded very young in the article, but maybe I am just getting old!

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Anonymous wrote:I had no idea there was such a thing as a family office. I actually think this level of wealth is revolting.

Why? It sounds like Op and her siblings are all productive members of society. Op is a surgeon for Pete’s sake. With the amount of wealth she has, she could have chosen a much less stressful career and one that did not involve so many years of grueling training. Also, there are different types of family offices. They may not have an entire firm like some very well known wealthy families. Based on this article, we do not know how large the family office is or their level of wealth.

So tired of this. Yet again, its mostly ONLY wealthy people who go to medical school. You cant take an unpaid internship or even a partially paid internship if you arent supported by mommy and daddy. Medical school prep, applications, interviews are all cost prohibitive. FULL STOP. Failing biochem- get a tutor. Dont have time to get groceries- pay for delivery. Dont have time to clean your clothes because you are studying- pay for laundry. Need to be close to the hospital- get an apartment so that you dont waste precious time commuting and can sleep/study more.

https://www.idealmedicalcare.org/is-medical-school-just-for-rich-kids-this-native-american-woman-says-yes/

My friend’s daughter is a doctor. Her immigrant parents don’t even have an elementary school education.

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Has anyone here read the book “My Year of Rest and Relaxation?” The author of this diary reads like a more functional version of the narrator of that book. It’s pretty weird.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had no idea there was such a thing as a family office. I actually think this level of wealth is revolting.

Why? It sounds like Op and her siblings are all productive members of society. Op is a surgeon for Pete’s sake. With the amount of wealth she has, she could have chosen a much less stressful career and one that did not involve so many years of grueling training. Also, there are different types of family offices. They may not have an entire firm like some very well known wealthy families. Based on this article, we do not know how large the family office is or their level of wealth.

So tired of this. Yet again, its mostly ONLY wealthy people who go to medical school. You cant take an unpaid internship or even a partially paid internship if you arent supported by mommy and daddy. Medical school prep, applications, interviews are all cost prohibitive. FULL STOP. Failing biochem- get a tutor. Dont have time to get groceries- pay for delivery. Dont have time to clean your clothes because you are studying- pay for laundry. Need to be close to the hospital- get an apartment so that you dont waste precious time commuting and can sleep/study more.

https://www.idealmedicalcare.org/is-medical-school-just-for-rich-kids-this-native-american-woman-says-yes/

My friend’s daughter is a doctor. Her immigrant parents don’t even have an elementary school education.

They say that the world is warming, yet I live somewhere where it's currently really cold. Hmmm....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"K. and L. bro out about big law life"...

Pretty sure DH's assistant makes more than $120k at a big law firm...

Also is her paycheck AFTER taxes? $12,178 biweekly comes out to $292k....

515 + 120 = 635K, not 655K.

Maybe her dh worked in biglaw after law school and left to do something else - like lots of people. Maybe L is still in it and talking about it and K is saying thank G- d I left. A lot of details were likely edited out (or not included).

This is what the author of the money diary said in the comments:

“A couple things that came up a lot:

Without revealing much more information (I was dying at whoever was trying to find him on the internet), my husband left his big law job when we moved back to DC after my residency. He took a job with better hours and a flexible WFH policy. We're planning on having a baby in the next few years and he will have most of the childcare responsibilities.”

Where is the comment section? I don't see it on the link provided

Scroll all the way down, it's under the heading "The Conversation." There are 1,300 comments and the money diary author's comment was pretty deep into that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get a gut feeling she's not white. Maybe Asian?

I don’t know - old money I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s white. If not, my guess is Indian. Does it matter?

My guess is black

I thought Indian, based on the food descriptions.

My guess is big Indian or Persian family.

Indian people don't have great-grandparents in this country.

We've only been allowed to immigrate for the past 40-50 years.

Did she say the old $ were from here? Her mom seems to live in London and that Shiseido line is very obscure outside the Asian community.

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*me looking up the provider list at every DC area hospital to find a female surgeon whose name starts with H* We need to get to the bottom of this!

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Anonymous wrote:I had no idea surgeons work such long hours - 6 am to after 6 pm; it's crazy. It's awesome that they give 3K/month to charity. I agree with the dog daycare, you can't leave the dogs alone at home for such a long time.

6 am to 6 pm is in no way crazy.

It is if you have to perform surgery.

I’ve known transplant surgeons who routinely pull shifts more that twice that long. Over 24 hours when an organ comes available on their call. 12 hours is nothing.

If she's still up and doing things at 11:15 PM and then she wakes up at 4:45, then she's getting 5 hours of sleep a night? SHould you be operating in that condition? Also if you're still drinking at 11 PM and then you're doing surgery at 6, isn't that a bit like an airplane pilot driving the plane after drinking?

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Anonymous wrote:*me looking up the provider list at every DC area hospital to find a female surgeon whose name starts with H* We need to get to the bottom of this!

Women are obviously over represented lol

https://www.womensurgeons.org/search/newsearch.asp