Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 here. This thread is interesting to see how some of you might judge me if you see us out. We didn’t have four for religious reasons, we are not climate change deniers. We do skew on the plenty of money side of the SES scale. I don’t feel I am overpopulating the earth because in my extended family, we over-index on childless and one-child families - so I’m just ‘swapping’ the ‘allowable’ population growth with them. 😆

Having four kids is frankly quite wonderful! I think we spend more time as a family than many because it’s hard to get lonely here. I didn’t marry until I was 30 and had the four between 32-38. DH and I both work and share things pretty evenly at home.

again, 4 is not that many, knock yourself out

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What is with you people? Some people just love children...is that so hard to swallow? Its's not status, it is values. I had no idea so many people were so judgmental. We have four, we don't outsource care, we sacrifice, a lot... but, there are many things we may regret in this world, but our kids will never be one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed in my UMC area that having 4+ kids is the new status symbol, it’s mostly the wealthier families that do it and do t have to give a second though to providing college or paying for several kids at once in pricey camps or private school!

Wut?

Lol.

No.

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Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Hence why there are so many sugar babies in college, desperate for someone to chip in with tuition. When I was in college, someone was working as a stripper in a rough part of the town.

What does this have to do with anything?

Its how some pay for college... I know women who did it.

So far we’ve got status symbols, religious nutters and kids who must whore themselves out to pay for college. Interesting mix.
DCUM never fails to disappoint with the judgmental shrews, most who clearly have very little experience with large families.

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My family is absolutely massive. One side is Mormon and one side is Catholic.

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PP here. My DH comes from a tiny family. He's an only child as was his dad. I was worried when I first introduced him to my family that he would be overwhelmed.

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Someone I know has 10 kids! I was shocked when she told me... I have heard of people like this before, but have never met someone like this in real life beside old people (70+) from the old days.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone I know has 10 kids! I was shocked when she told me... I have heard of people like this before, but have never met someone like this in real life beside old people (70+) from the old days.

They are catholic and I can guess by the number of kids, pretty hardcore ones.

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No go to Walmart. They are all there. It ain’t no status symbol.

It means they need to get cable so they can stop fcuking. Go to the library, movies, something else.

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Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit

I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).

My last sibling just graduated college. It can be done.

One thing was we all lived at home and did local colleges. Brooklyn College is very affordable for New Yorkers. You get a part time job and live at home and done.

Its not that easy. To get merit aid you have to b every smart. And, not all parents will let kids live at home. UMD tuition is almost $11K not including books or other expenses. That's not exactly affordable to work part-time.

Your parents are really selfish not to help pay anything.

Yes, it is very affordable. I did it. You need to work FT each summer. Living at home helps, but isn’t necessary. I lived with roommates in an apartment at Seven Springs.

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Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit

I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).

My last sibling just graduated college. It can be done.

One thing was we all lived at home and did local colleges. Brooklyn College is very affordable for New Yorkers. You get a part time job and live at home and done.

Its not that easy. To get merit aid you have to b every smart. And, not all parents will let kids live at home. UMD tuition is almost $11K not including books or other expenses. That's not exactly affordable to work part-time.

Your parents are really selfish not to help pay anything.

My parents are probably the most selfless people to exist on this planet lol. And yes, we're all highly intelligent, or we wouldn't have bothered with college. We would have done plumbing or something like that - earn an honest living.

Siblings are a huge resource. One sibling borrowed money from the rest of us to start a new business which is thankfully going well. I only wish my parents had more kids!

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Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit

I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).

My last sibling just graduated college. It can be done.

One thing was we all lived at home and did local colleges. Brooklyn College is very affordable for New Yorkers. You get a part time job and live at home and done.

Its not that easy. To get merit aid you have to b every smart. And, not all parents will let kids live at home. UMD tuition is almost $11K not including books or other expenses. That's not exactly affordable to work part-time.

Your parents are really selfish not to help pay anything.

More parents in this area need to make their kids work for things and not hand everything to them.

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Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit

I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).

My last sibling just graduated college. It can be done.

One thing was we all lived at home and did local colleges. Brooklyn College is very affordable for New Yorkers. You get a part time job and live at home and done.

Its not that easy. To get merit aid you have to b every smart. And, not all parents will let kids live at home. UMD tuition is almost $11K not including books or other expenses. That's not exactly affordable to work part-time.

Your parents are really selfish not to help pay anything.

My parents are probably the most selfless people to exist on this planet lol. And yes, we're all highly intelligent, or we wouldn't have bothered with college. We would have done plumbing or something like that - earn an honest living.

Siblings are a huge resource. One sibling borrowed money from the rest of us to start a new business which is thankfully going well. I only wish my parents had more kids!

If you live in Brooklyn. What’s a kid supposed to do, make their family move to Brooklyn? My parents told me I was not allowed to live at home during college.

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Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit

I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).

My last sibling just graduated college. It can be done.

One thing was we all lived at home and did local colleges. Brooklyn College is very affordable for New Yorkers. You get a part time job and live at home and done.

Its not that easy. To get merit aid you have to b every smart. And, not all parents will let kids live at home. UMD tuition is almost $11K not including books or other expenses. That's not exactly affordable to work part-time.

Your parents are really selfish not to help pay anything.

To get merit is very easy. Three of my kids got either full or partial (large portion) of merit. There is always an option for free education in US. My younger one is on full scholarship in state college now, we do help with rent and food expenses. She also worked through the summer part time and made $5k from tutoring.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit

I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).

My last sibling just graduated college. It can be done.

One thing was we all lived at home and did local colleges. Brooklyn College is very affordable for New Yorkers. You get a part time job and live at home and done.

Its not that easy. To get merit aid you have to b every smart. And, not all parents will let kids live at home. UMD tuition is almost $11K not including books or other expenses. That's not exactly affordable to work part-time.

Your parents are really selfish not to help pay anything.

My parents are probably the most selfless people to exist on this planet lol. And yes, we're all highly intelligent, or we wouldn't have bothered with college. We would have done plumbing or something like that - earn an honest living.

Siblings are a huge resource. One sibling borrowed money from the rest of us to start a new business which is thankfully going well. I only wish my parents had more kids!

If you live in Brooklyn. What’s a kid supposed to do, make their family move to Brooklyn? My parents told me I was not allowed to live at home during college.

There are tons of options. This was just one example.

Maybe your parents are selfish for not letting you live at home, rather than my parents being selfish for having us work for our own college educations, which hasn't set any of us back financially. We were raised to avoid loans as much as possible and be fiscally responsible.