Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?

[Anonymous]

What's so special about your yard, OP, that you can't share it with your community? You aren't the only member of your community you know.

[Anonymous]

What's so special about your yard, OP, that you can't share it with your community? You aren't the only member of your community you know.

Ok tell us all where you live so we can share your yard! How does that sound?

OP,

You did the right thing. It is your yard and no one gets to be in there except whom you invite. You did nothing wrong and I wouldn't worry about Grandpa not talking to you. Big loss ( not) I'm also glad you got a lock!

[Anonymous]

Hardly the "neighborly" way to act!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's so special about your yard, OP, that you can't share it with your community? You aren't the only member of your community you know.

I hope this is sarcastic because if not then, really? If that is truly how you live your life and what you believe then please post your address here so everybody can show up that is part of your community and picnic and hang out and run and I'll send all the guys to play soccer on your yard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We went over and spoke w/the neighbors yesterday, explaining that we thought about it overnight and weren't comfortable with people being in our yard without our being there, with the dog and liability and such. They seemed understanding/remorseful but the grandfather mentioned again "I didn't think you were home" which makes us think that this has happened before when we really just weren't home to witness.

So we also got a lock for the gate, just in case. Better to be safe than sorry.

I just saw your update. I didn't think you were home = I have done this before and I didn't realize I was going to be caught. Also, bravo for you for actually speaking up. I would've just put a lock on the gate and never said anything let them figure it out themselves .

[Anonymous]

I saw your update, but just wanted to say that if I saw them in my backyard, like you I would have come outside, said hello and asked if they needed anything. After neighbor just said his thing about thinking you weren't home, and just wanting g-daughter to play for a few I would have stood there awkwardly and waited with them watching. After a few minutes of silence, I'd say, "I'm just waiting out here with you until she's done because I'm uncomfortable with anyone in our yard without me or DH here. I'll just wait out here with you until g-daughter is done." and not engaged in pleasantries.

I had a similar situation and did that and it worked really well. I was friendly but stood my ground without apologizing and basically let them know that you're not welcome when uninvited. I also made it a bit awkward by not engaging in pleasantries. It made them hurry up and "finish" and leave rather than feeling comfortable and like it was a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hardly the "neighborly" way to act!

+1

And the double standard, I am sure, is alive and well. If it were that neighbor's yard, OP - I am sure it would be a huge BFD!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What's so special about your yard, OP, that you can't share it with your community? You aren't the only member of your community you know.

I hope this is sarcastic because if not then, really? If that is truly how you live your life and what you believe then please post your address here so everybody can show up that is part of your community and picnic and hang out and run and I'll send all the guys to play soccer on your yard.

+1

No kidding. How entitled can you be? Wow. Now you know why OP was shocked at first. Rightfully so!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If they use your yard without your permission and your dog bites them, it is their liability.

Actually, I think the owner is liable. My brother lives in NYC. In his neighborhood a young man broke into a row home. Somehow went up to their roof and somehow fell off. Paralyzed for life. Guess who he sued and guess who was liable. The homeowner was. Even though this guy broke in and they weren't even home at the time. It's stunning but it happens. I would love to have an open door policy in my home regarding neighborhood kids. But stories like these make it impossible to allow that.

Case cite, please.

You realize that the vast majority of cases do NOT get cited, right?

Media cite? Any cite? Evidence? Something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:If they use your yard without your permission and your dog bites them, it is their liability.

Actually, I think the owner is liable. My brother lives in NYC. In his neighborhood a young man broke into a row home. Somehow went up to their roof and somehow fell off. Paralyzed for life. Guess who he sued and guess who was liable. The homeowner was. Even though this guy broke in and they weren't even home at the time. It's stunning but it happens. I would love to have an open door policy in my home regarding neighborhood kids. But stories like these make it impossible to allow that.

Case cite, please.

I have no idea how to case cite it? I don't know their names. It's in my brother's neighborhood in Brooklyn. But if you Google similar stories, you'll see there are many cases like this.

"Many"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they use your yard without your permission and your dog bites them, it is their liability.

Actually, I think the owner is liable. My brother lives in NYC. In his neighborhood a young man broke into a row home. Somehow went up to their roof and somehow fell off. Paralyzed for life. Guess who he sued and guess who was liable. The homeowner was. Even though this guy broke in and they weren't even home at the time. It's stunning but it happens. I would love to have an open door policy in my home regarding neighborhood kids. But stories like these make it impossible to allow that.

Case cite, please.

I have no idea how to case cite it? I don't know their names. It's in my brother's neighborhood in Brooklyn. But if you Google similar stories, you'll see there are many cases like this.

"Many"?

Geesus. Not PP, but you don't believe there are entitled neighbors who cause disputes? If you want to know so much, go ahead and Google. Back off already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Anyway, I said something to the effect of "feel free to come anytime.......

Pussy.