(to whites on here) have you personally been in racist situations?

[Anonymous]

My middle school boys get called cracker but it's not really mean, it's sort of just a joke. I he to explain cracker did not mean Saltine and it lost some of its humor.

My 1 son has a best friend who is Hispanic and he did not get invited to his birthday party, which is fine... Not everybody can be invited. But when he mentioned it to his friend, the friend said he could not invite because he is white and his parents and their friends do not like to be around white people. My son told him that was fine if he was not invited but it was not cool if the reason was that he is white. The next year he got invited, so did we, we were told (by the best friend) that at a "Latino party the whole family is invited". We attended and had a good time, but everybody that arrived went over to the host, whispered, looked, and pointed. It indicated to me that they wanted to know why the white family was there.

I don't care though, my older relatives would have been the same way 2 generations ago. It is up to us and our children to endure a little bit of uncomfortableness to unite as friends of different races and cultures.

I like you youngblackdude and I like your threads. You seem sincere in you quest for knowledge and it is refreshing.

[Anonymous]

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youngblackdude wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure I follow the question, but I'm white and have been in situations where people I am with that are minorities are treated by others in a way that I think is racist.

Example- you're out in public ,let's say a supermarket.& you may skip somebody in line whose of another race .& that person may call you a derogatory racial slur (not gonna say the racial slur for whites) .that type of situation is what I'm referring to

Why do you write so poorly?

U was wondering the same damn thing.

[Anonymous]

youngblackdude wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure I follow the question, but I'm white and have been in situations where people I am with that are minorities are treated by others in a way that I think is racist.

Example- you're out in public ,let's say a supermarket.& you may skip somebody in line whose of another race .& that person may call you a derogatory racial slur (not gonna say the racial slur for whites) .that type of situation is what I'm referring to

What? Who does that? Hangs head down. So naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I'm usually the only white person in my classes at UDC and get discriminated by classmates and teachers before.
I'm also German and can't count the times I've been called a nazi here (I kinda count that as racism).

Another German here. I have heard the "N" word, too. It was actually in this geographical area, where I expected people here to be far smarter than that, frankly. I have never been called the original "N" word, so to me, there is no comparison, but both "N" words, regardless of contexts and uses are hurtful, racist, ignorant, offensive, abusive and wrong. I will automatically think less of you when I hear one or both "N" words, as will anyone I know.

It seems peculiar to me that in this day and age, it seems perfectly acceptable to pick on (not that they would call it that) certain groups, like descendants belonging to certain parts of Europe, and somehow it is considered acceptable. For example, people from Italy portrayed as members of organized crime - in this day and age - really??!! How would it be ok if gang members were portrayed the same way??!! It probably would not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:While not racism, I experienced a race-based decision that significantly impacted my career. I was an associate at a law firm along with a very competent African American woman. I was told in different ways but very clearly by four, yes four, partners that the firm would not be making more than one partner from our group, and that I would not make partner unless the African American woman left the firm. Three of these partners stated that I was generally considered the top choice for partnership based on my legal skills and client relations, but that the firm needed to increase diversity. These and other partners assisted me in finding another job outside of the firm, which turned out well in the end, but I still regret not having been able to compete fairly for partnership after years of working many, many hours. I do not begrudge the African American attorney at all, and found her to be both competent and a personally terrific individual. I am now much more careful, though, To avoid professional situations and which my primary competitors for promotion are African American or other underrepresented minorities. I have also experienced probably a handful of minor racially charged events. Nothing, however, that would rise to the level of affecting my day today life in any way.

You know, this kind of thing sucks, but mostly it sucks that it still kind of needs to happen. That black woman had to work a thousand times harder than you to get where she was, no matter her socioeconomic status growing up.

I disagree. I know her very well. She had a much, much more privileged background than I did, with parents who were high-educated professionals. She was raised in a wealthy community and attended the best private schools. I did not have any if these benefits, and the relatively amorphous claims that I have had white privilege my whole life don't in my view hold a candle to the actual tangible be edits and luxuries she was raised with. I liked her very much, and respect her professionally and personally, but to say that she had to work harder than I did based on some pretty extensive assumptions just avoids one if the main issues here. For what it's worth, I'm actually in favor of affirmative action as well as organizations consciously expanding diversity. But to make it seem that she worked harder than I dud to get to the point of partnership at a law firm is way off base in this case.

I still respectfully disagree. She has to work harder to be taken seriously no matter where she's from (unless like the whole room automatically knows she is the daughter of somebody super famous). But maybe she didn't have to work harder to get there (if you're a woman, but if you're a white man she certainly still did), but she definitely had to put up with a lot more shit.

That is pretty racist in itself. You assume that because she is black she grew up oppressed and struggling. She may have grown up without a care in the world and breezed through life. Your preconceived notions that everyone shares the same experience based on the color of their skin is pretty sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While not racism, I experienced a race-based decision that significantly impacted my career. I was an associate at a law firm along with a very competent African American woman. I was told in different ways but very clearly by four, yes four, partners that the firm would not be making more than one partner from our group, and that I would not make partner unless the African American woman left the firm. Three of these partners stated that I was generally considered the top choice for partnership based on my legal skills and client relations, but that the firm needed to increase diversity. These and other partners assisted me in finding another job outside of the firm, which turned out well in the end, but I still regret not having been able to compete fairly for partnership after years of working many, many hours. I do not begrudge the African American attorney at all, and found her to be both competent and a personally terrific individual. I am now much more careful, though, To avoid professional situations and which my primary competitors for promotion are African American or other underrepresented minorities. I have also experienced probably a handful of minor racially charged events. Nothing, however, that would rise to the level of affecting my day today life in any way.

You know, this kind of thing sucks, but mostly it sucks that it still kind of needs to happen. That black woman had to work a thousand times harder than you to get where she was, no matter her socioeconomic status growing up.

I disagree. I know her very well. She had a much, much more privileged background than I did, with parents who were high-educated professionals. She was raised in a wealthy community and attended the best private schools. I did not have any if these benefits, and the relatively amorphous claims that I have had white privilege my whole life don't in my view hold a candle to the actual tangible be edits and luxuries she was raised with. I liked her very much, and respect her professionally and personally, but to say that she had to work harder than I did based on some pretty extensive assumptions just avoids one if the main issues here. For what it's worth, I'm actually in favor of affirmative action as well as organizations consciously expanding diversity. But to make it seem that she worked harder than I dud to get to the point of partnership at a law firm is way off base in this case.

I still respectfully disagree. She has to work harder to be taken seriously no matter where she's from (unless like the whole room automatically knows she is the daughter of somebody super famous). But maybe she didn't have to work harder to get there (if you're a woman, but if you're a white man she certainly still did), but she definitely had to put up with a lot more shit.

That is pretty racist in itself. You assume that because she is black she grew up oppressed and struggling. She may have grown up without a care in the world and breezed through life. Your preconceived notions that everyone shares the same experience based on the color of their skin is pretty sad.

I agree. In fact, isn't that a racist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I'm usually the only white person in my classes at UDC and get discriminated by classmates and teachers before.
I'm also German and can't count the times I've been called a nazi here (I kinda count that as racism).

I am Jewish and while I would never call a German person a Nazi unless I knew for sure they were one, I would definitely be extra careful about letting my Jewishness be known around someone German. Sorry so many of your people killed so many of my people and it's left me wary. I know it's not you personally.

[youngblackdude]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

youngblackdude wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure I follow the question, but I'm white and have been in situations where people I am with that are minorities are treated by others in a way that I think is racist.

Example- you're out in public ,let's say a supermarket.& you may skip somebody in line whose of another race .& that person may call you a derogatory racial slur (not gonna say the racial slur for whites) .that type of situation is what I'm referring to

Why do you write so poorly?

U was wondering the same damn thing.

(Yawns) what's sup with some of you nerds on this forum.the spell police..you talk the way you talk & let me talk the way I talk.I'm not trying to be nothing I'm not(in this case being proper for a bunch of strangers when I know in real life I'm not proper.that's called being s fake). If you don't like the way I talk(or type) don't click on my topics..the spell police in this forum is seriously getting annoying & are strange .stop coming in my topics with this b.s....thank you & enjoy your night

[Anonymous]

Don't sweat it youngblackdude. Just ignore them. We are glad you are here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so . . .

You were jumped by girls who also called you names and you moved into an all-black neighborhood?

short memory or very forgiving, I'd say

Anonymous wrote:I have been in multiple situations.

I have been verbally harrassed and threated multiple times while walking by groups of teens who threatened to rape me, rob me, spit on me, and threw rocks at me, while referring to me as a white B, cracker, etc.

In high school (predominantly black), I was jumped by 3 girls and beaten up while them calling me racial names.

In Memphis, I bought a house in an all black neighborhood, and my neighbors flat out told me I didn't beling in their neighborhood and to get out. Their campaign against me included:

Stabbing threatening notes to by front door with knives.

Shooting my dog with a BB gun.

Vandalizing my car countless times.

Constantly breaking into my backyard and stealing my lawnmowers.

Some of those events could have been unrelated, but who knows. I eventually moved. I never found out which neighbors were the responsible parties.

Holy shit! You are one strong individual! I am sorry for what you went through and the loss of your dog.

[Anonymous]

youngblackdude wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

youngblackdude wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure I follow the question, but I'm white and have been in situations where people I am with that are minorities are treated by others in a way that I think is racist.

Example- you're out in public ,let's say a supermarket.& you may skip somebody in line whose of another race .& that person may call you a derogatory racial slur (not gonna say the racial slur for whites) .that type of situation is what I'm referring to

Why do you write so poorly?

U was wondering the same damn thing.

(Yawns) what's sup with some of you nerds on this forum.the spell police..you talk the way you talk & let me talk the way I talk.I'm not trying to be nothing I'm not(in this case being proper for a bunch of strangers when I know in real life I'm not proper.that's called being s fake). If you don't like the way I talk(or type) don't click on my topics..the spell police in this forum is seriously getting annoying & are strange .stop coming in my topics with this b.s....thank you & enjoy your night

Teach 'em.

[Anonymous]

I am a white girl who went to a predominantly black high school. I got called names pertaining to my color ("snow"), but it was meant as an endearment, I think. I'm sure some girls called me names behind my back when I dated their ex-boyfriends. lol.

I have lived all over the world (currently in the Middle East) and, while it have experienced some anti-Americanism or sexism, I can't say that I have been directly affected by racism.

I don't consider myself a racist, so I was a little taken aback a few years ago when I disagreed with a friend on Facebook who believed that toddlers who say their African-American friends are "brown" are being racist.

[Anonymous]

Yes. In high school I walked into a bathroom where there was a group of African American girls. They looked at me and laughed at me and one of the girls said, "some of them White girls need some make-up!" They all cackled their heads off at me and walked out.

[Anonymous]

Bowie State University professors drove my mother, who was a professor there at the time, out of her job because she was white. She considered legal action and learned that other white professors in her department had also been driven out by the same people in prior years.

[Anonymous]

I've been told twice that I'm not white.Not sure why they had to say that.