Six Figures for an “Executive Assistant”

[Anonymous]

I worked closely with an executive assistance to a high wattage executive years ago.

Her job took huge skill, diplomacy, smooth good manners, etc. She was talking to people on the phone and immediately relaying information succinctly to the executive. Watching her was like watching a top athlete competing in the Olympics.

I'd say a good Executive Assistant is worth his/her weight in gold.

[Anonymous]

Why do you keep calling her a friend? Why do you say you like her if you later say:

"That pissed me off more than the cheating accusation. It closed the door to any reconciliation in my eyes."

That doesnt sound like someone talking about a friend? Is she your only "friend" and you don't want to be a loner or something?

You hold so much anger and resentment towards this person (and jealousy, even if you deny it, it's clear). You need to stop worrying about what she does, and stay in your own lane. If you wrote the cover letter that got her the job, write your own like that. If you have the contacts to get interviews, then use them for yourself.

Idk if you're being a martyr for the sake of your family or you're just a really miserable person, but you will be SO MUCH happier if you just let her go and stop sticking your nose into her business.

[Anonymous]

In my software company, essential workers were in sales. Developers were not considered essential. Yet who made the product? Yeah but who brought in the $$$?
So don't get all huffy about "essential." Keeping a top executive functioning at peak is essential. If you knew that you would be able to get a job like hers. But no.

[Anonymous]

Fifteen year's ago, my EA friend made $85K, she reported to two high level executives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you keep calling her a friend? Why do you say you like her if you later say:

"That pissed me off more than the cheating accusation. It closed the door to any reconciliation in my eyes."

That doesnt sound like someone talking about a friend? Is she your only "friend" and you don't want to be a loner or something?

You hold so much anger and resentment towards this person (and jealousy, even if you deny it, it's clear). You need to stop worrying about what she does, and stay in your own lane. If you wrote the cover letter that got her the job, write your own like that. If you have the contacts to get interviews, then use them for yourself.

Idk if you're being a martyr for the sake of your family or you're just a really miserable person, but you will be SO MUCH happier if you just let her go and stop sticking your nose into her business.

OP is a toxic, bitter nut.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We really have to be careful who we call our friends. OP is a prime example. OP, from the very first post, and every single person you have responded to after that, has consisted of shit-talking about your "friend." I don't care if my friend made 3x as much as me; if she asked me to purchase something, I would do it, no questions asked. Sounds like you have been helping this "friend" for many years, but there's a lot of bitterness behind it. I know that my friend would only ask for something if she was in a position of really needing my help. I would never feel anger or regret about it. We have a reciprocal relationship and have both helped each other in times of need. And if you really think she's asking as a way to take advantage of you, well, have you considered she doesn't think of you as a friend? You are definitely no friend of hers. You sound jealous, bitter, and obsessed. When my friend has successes, I am genuinely happy for her, and when she has failures, I hurt for her.

Definition of "snake in the grass" = OP.

I helped her get the job in the first place. I wrote her cover letter and let her borrow my purse (not returned) for the interview. I am not envious. You don’t know the half of it. I am curious and shocked by the turn of events and other things that happened where she even considered a GoFundMe page and family, her ex , and I intervened and talked her down from it only to find out she wasn’t broke at all. As I said, there’s other stuff that went on that I don’t want to describe in detail as that’s not my general concern. I suspect she’s a master manipulator who is using her boss the same way she’s used all of us. She also told my bf I may have a thing with her ex all because her ex messaged me with concern about her erratic behavior. Again, she has a history of doing these things and shutting people out when cornered and doesn’t want to get tested for bipolar disorder which is what her parents want.

This is about entry level admin gigs where the starting pay is 100k+ but since you wanted more info, there you go

sounds like this might be your sister, not your "friend". anyway. sorry that you feel like the universe is rewarding her when you feel it shouldn't be, but even if she's your sister it's literally not your business. whether she's gay, straight, or confused is not your business. she might be bipolar but her parents should have been trying to address that before she became a legal adult; now it's literally her own business and no one elses until she does something that qualifies her to be committed against her will.

get an EA job if you think it's so easy. It requires subjugating your time and priorities to whatever your executive needs at the moment, and while it's frequently not at all technically hard it requires a lot of emotional intelligence and organization and ability to execute when needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you keep calling her a friend? Why do you say you like her if you later say:

"That pissed me off more than the cheating accusation. It closed the door to any reconciliation in my eyes."

That doesnt sound like someone talking about a friend? Is she your only "friend" and you don't want to be a loner or something?

You hold so much anger and resentment towards this person (and jealousy, even if you deny it, it's clear). You need to stop worrying about what she does, and stay in your own lane. If you wrote the cover letter that got her the job, write your own like that. If you have the contacts to get interviews, then use them for yourself.

Idk if you're being a martyr for the sake of your family or you're just a really miserable person, but you will be SO MUCH happier if you just let her go and stop sticking your nose into her business.

Apparently, I don’t hold enough anger as I still called her a friend and not ex best friend in the original message.

I didn’t stick my nose in her business and I am not a confrontational person whatsoever . Her family told me to confront her about the lies about long COVID and potential sexuality fraud and that’s when she went nuclear.

I should’ve listened to my bf and mom. They told me to stay out of it.

I would write a cover letter like that but as you can tell, being an assistant isn’t my passion. I hate the admin job I already have and can’t imagine doing this round the clock and for a permanent career. My passion is still grad school in my respective endeavor to be which is the only reason I’m an admin at the org I’m at.

Thanks so much for the judgment though. I definitely can learn about happiness from you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We really have to be careful who we call our friends. OP is a prime example. OP, from the very first post, and every single person you have responded to after that, has consisted of shit-talking about your "friend." I don't care if my friend made 3x as much as me; if she asked me to purchase something, I would do it, no questions asked. Sounds like you have been helping this "friend" for many years, but there's a lot of bitterness behind it. I know that my friend would only ask for something if she was in a position of really needing my help. I would never feel anger or regret about it. We have a reciprocal relationship and have both helped each other in times of need. And if you really think she's asking as a way to take advantage of you, well, have you considered she doesn't think of you as a friend? You are definitely no friend of hers. You sound jealous, bitter, and obsessed. When my friend has successes, I am genuinely happy for her, and when she has failures, I hurt for her.

Definition of "snake in the grass" = OP.

I helped her get the job in the first place. I wrote her cover letter and let her borrow my purse (not returned) for the interview. I am not envious. You don’t know the half of it. I am curious and shocked by the turn of events and other things that happened where she even considered a GoFundMe page and family, her ex , and I intervened and talked her down from it only to find out she wasn’t broke at all. As I said, there’s other stuff that went on that I don’t want to describe in detail as that’s not my general concern. I suspect she’s a master manipulator who is using her boss the same way she’s used all of us. She also told my bf I may have a thing with her ex all because her ex messaged me with concern about her erratic behavior. Again, she has a history of doing these things and shutting people out when cornered and doesn’t want to get tested for bipolar disorder which is what her parents want.

This is about entry level admin gigs where the starting pay is 100k+ but since you wanted more info, there you go

Well you helped her get the job, you know exactly how to get one. Go get your own.

I guess I’ll have to write cover letters sucking up to each corporation and during calls, tell them my future plans are to stay with them and help them grow. I didn’t know going to grad school was a net minus for hiring managers.

OP, why would a hiring manager want to hear that your plan is to go to grad school rather than stay and help them grow?

I don’t know. I thought honesty works in society but apparently I was wrong.

[Anonymous]

Are you on the spectrum? This is all so bizarre.

You call her many nasty names, and then turn around and call her a friend. You are fake and phony.

Sure "her" family told you to confront their daughter. Everything you say sounds just so believable...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you on the spectrum? This is all so bizarre.

You call her many nasty names, and then turn around and call her a friend. You are fake and phony.

Sure "her" family told you to confront their daughter. Everything you say sounds just so believable...

I didn’t call her any nasty names.

If you knew our relationship, you would know why her family asked me. She didn’t have the greatest upbringing with family and suffered trauma which is my I pretty much always had a soft spot for her. No more. Telling my parents I use drugs is beyond.

I’m tired of playing case manager these days rather than friend

[Anonymous]

It is a hard job. My friend who is an EA is working for 3 C-level people at the same time and has to be at their beck and call and handles so much more than just the schedule. She does EVERYTHING.

[Anonymous]

You've called her a liar about 20x in this thread, is that a nice name to use for someone you call a "friend"?

I'm so glad you aren't my friend! No one needs "friends" like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP there aren't that many nouveau lesbian EAs around and someone probably has told her the suckup who ordered food deliveries is trashing her so your days are numbered and not with six figure$

Suck up? She told me she was dying with COVID and couldn’t get out of bed and was broke because the org “freezed her pay”. Then, days later, I see her at a bar

Your cat is out of the bag. Wait and see.

I don’t work there, sweetheart.

Well she knows people, hon.

Well, aren’t you something, Sherlock but I’ve said all of this to her face so there’s nothing to hide. I told her I think she’s faking her sexuality, ADHD, and money Crisis, and her family (we are childhood friends) told me to say this as well they’re also concerned and she blocked me.

Obviously, I wouldn’t post this otherwise but my general point is about the overpaid EA role compared to actual essential workers.

I missed this part.

She does not consider you a friend. She's blocked you. You are a petty, toxic, abusive person. How dare you call yourself a friend to this girl.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you on the spectrum? This is all so bizarre.

You call her many nasty names, and then turn around and call her a friend. You are fake and phony.

Sure "her" family told you to confront their daughter. Everything you say sounds just so believable...

I didn’t call her any nasty names.

If you knew our relationship, you would know why her family asked me. She didn’t have the greatest upbringing with family and suffered trauma which is my I pretty much always had a soft spot for her. No more. Telling my parents I use drugs is beyond.

I’m tired of playing case manager these days rather than friend

Is this how you'd want a friend talking about you behind your back?

She was frat girl good looking but now she’s cut her hair off and decided she’s a lesbian…I think she’s playing everyone here

I can’t shake the feeling she’s finessing this relationship with the boss and she’s playing games about her sexuality crisis for the money

Now, I don’t believe her one bit

she’s taking the crrunchy granola boss for a ride

I think she’s faking her sexuality, ADHD, and money Crisis

she’s a master manipulator who is using her boss the same way she’s used all of us

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:i am an admin that hustles very hard and makes $200k

but its a tough job these days with the internet, email, cell phones, signal.... ugh...

Do you believe you deserve about the same pay as a family medicine physician or the President?

what a rude question! "deserve" like hard work isnt enough....