Mother's Day Venting Starts Now!

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Anonymous wrote:The first thing my kid did is yell at me about not being able to find shorts. They realized it was Mother's Day and hadn't done anything so they were running around trying to make and write cards. I told them it's too late.

Ew, you are a bad mom if you told them it was “too late.”

+1 No wonder there are so many adults with mommy issues.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day. I asked for two things, to finalize our vacation plans and to go hiking. Instead I’m sitting home alone while he takes our daughter to buy something ON MOTHER’S DAY .

So what? You get to enjoy some time alone while your daughter buys you a gift. It’s not even noon. There is still plenty of time to do other things.

It seems that people here just want to
Complain about anything. Pp can enjoy her alone time but she rather complain about it. DCUM is full of unhappy people.

[Anonymous]

The pick me women who act like other women shouldn’t expect anything from their husbands or children on a holiday that is supposed to celebrate them can GTFO this thread. You just have to show up every year talking about how superior you are, it’s honestly sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP. Husbands aren’t great at this. Fortunately, preschool, kindergarten, and first grade teachers [b]usually are. I hope you get something adorable from your kids!!

Not OP here. “Usually are”, depending on the school’s environment. My kids’ preschool teacher did a phenomenal job, not the K and 1st grade teachers at the public school where they did horrendously.

What could a public school teacher do for Mother’s Day that qualifies as “horrendous”?

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Anonymous wrote:I told my husband explicitly what I wanted several weeks ago. We also discussed our Father’s Day plans in the same discussion.

I would love for him to intuit that I need to sleep in, want breakfast from this particular bakery, and want it delivered to me in bed before we go to see my sister and her children, then he takes off with our kids to see his mother while I relax with my sister. But it’s really unlikely that he’ll do so and frankly I’m in my 30s and don’t need to settle for some kind of half-assery, so my make my wishes known up front.

I think people are really different on this. I don’t really have any wishes other than that DH think about what might (realistically) make me happy.

Yeah that’s just it. I’m not setting some arbitrary “you think about what will make me happy” metric. He could think for hours and get it wrong. Why set a test when the only person who is impacted by the results is me?

It isn’t a test. He couldn’t think for hours and get it wrong.
If he thought about it for an hour, then he would get it right. Because him thinking about it IS what I want.
There is nothing for me to tell him to do. I can buy my own breakfast from a particular bakery or even have it delivered if I don’t want to get out of bed. No need for a middle man. I want him to think about me. I would rather have something that isn’t my favorite that he genuinely thought about and thought I would like.

Then you should be less of an angry b, which you obviously are, sorry for stating the obvious. You literally need to soften up in your personal relationship. Smile more. I see this with so many, there should be a softer you around your dh.

Smile more??????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The pick me women who act like other women shouldn’t expect anything from their husbands or children on a holiday that is supposed to celebrate them can GTFO this thread. You just have to show up every year talking about how superior you are, it’s honestly sad.

Too bad that you chose a bad husband.

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Anonymous wrote:The pick me women who act like other women shouldn’t expect anything from their husbands or children on a holiday that is supposed to celebrate them can GTFO this thread. You just have to show up every year talking about how superior you are, it’s honestly sad.

The opposite of a spineless martyr is not a “pick me woman,” it’s a mature woman who has appropriate expectations. You sound like the type who throws herself a “birthday month” then gets mad when friends don’t show up for elaborate plans for your non-milestone birthday. Bridezilla type.

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Anonymous wrote:The pick me women who act like other women shouldn’t expect anything from their husbands or children on a holiday that is supposed to celebrate them can GTFO this thread. You just have to show up every year talking about how superior you are, it’s honestly sad.

Have more baggage about a made up holiday. You can’t.

Our family doesn’t care much about any of these stupid holidays—Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Valentines Day, on and on. We have a great, loving life every day. We go to brunch every few weeks. We buy little gifts for each other when we feel like it; give each other a break from the kids or let each other sleep in when someone needs to rest. No pressure, no guilt. Works much better IMHO.

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Read all the threads of people tho think their mothers and mothers in law aren’t great people or parents. Not everyone is a great parent whose children / spouse want to celebrate. Sometimes there isn’t a lot to celebrate.

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I spent yesterday at my grandkids sports events with my kids and their spouses. I hope my DD and DIL are enjoying their day today. It was perfect.

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Anonymous wrote:The pick me women who act like other women shouldn’t expect anything from their husbands or children on a holiday that is supposed to celebrate them can GTFO this thread. You just have to show up every year talking about how superior you are, it’s honestly sad.

Too bad that you chose a bad husband.

I’m PP and I am having a great Mother’s Day with a great husband. Doesn’t mean I don’t have empathy for the women who are upset by their husbands/children not putting any thought or effort into Mother’s Day. I find it really sad that other women come on here to tear others down.

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Anonymous wrote:My complaint is that I have a mother figure who is probably expecting something. Every year it’s agony because she doesn’t live close by, she has her own family (who are hopefully taking her out so lunch is not an option), I’ve never sent anyone flowers so I don’t know how to do this and trying to make myself research it is too much. I’ve sent her a card on Thursday. I hope it gets there on time.

Holidays are my curse because I don’t like them, I only remotely like new years but that’s it.

This is me. I don’t give a crap about mother’s day and my mom doesn’t either, but I always feel obligated to send her something (that she’s not going to like anyway).

I think if she doesn’t like it (and not just faking it) you can stop with the charade.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong. I rather choose a place myself than go to a “surprise” place that I don’t like.

+1. I remember my friend’s husband took her to Subway to get a $5 foot long for Mother’s Day.

I don’t know why but it’s so funny!

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Anonymous wrote:The pick me women who act like other women shouldn’t expect anything from their husbands or children on a holiday that is supposed to celebrate them can GTFO this thread. You just have to show up every year talking about how superior you are, it’s honestly sad.

Too bad that you chose a bad husband.

I’m PP and I am having a great Mother’s Day with a great husband. Doesn’t mean I don’t have empathy for the women who are upset by their husbands/children not putting any thought or effort into Mother’s Day. I find it really sad that other women come on here to tear others down.

I do have empathy for people with real problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first thing my kid did is yell at me about not being able to find shorts. They realized it was Mother's Day and hadn't done anything so they were running around trying to make and write cards. I told them it's too late.

Son or daughter? Important in this context