What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?

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Anonymous wrote:Designer bags that cost 5 figures and require the buyer to jump through hoops to buy.

Haha. I love my bags but I don’t get the hype around watches.

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Anything expensive, more than one car for the whole family, a big house, lots of clothes, being busy.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of mine have been taken, but I'll say additional responsibility at work or higher titles. I've reached a stage where I'm content with my work life balance and compensation and I just want to carry on with regular cost of living raises. Unfortunately, that's frowned upon and I'm supposed to keep striving for more

Ugh same here. I don’t want to get promoted, I just want to keep on keeping on. I don’t more money, just to keep making roughly the same accounting for inflation. But you’re not allowed to say that at performance reviews.

I'm one of these people too. Just let me coast. I'm very happy that way.

Me too, and stated as such, but then they started piling more and more responsibility on me under the guise of compliments, i.e. "you'd be so good at this," "you're the perfect blend of the two skill sets we need here," blah blah blah. About a month ago I finally said hey, if you're going to consistently take me out of my pay grade, let's discuss a promotion. I'm not a patsy just because I was happy with the work load and the compensation that matched that work load. Now that you're increasing the work load, I'm no longer OK with the compensation." It's been a month and surprise, they haven't gotten back to me while a project just stalls and sits there.

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Anonymous wrote:Stanley cup

Ditto

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A home theatre. Especially with theatre seating.

I cringe at adult Disney fandom but did take the kids on a Disney cruise when they were little and it was surprisingly nice and fun. They do clean and happy very well.

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I get frustrated with the bells and whistles I have to buy when all I really want is something solid and reliable. Like I wouldn't mind a great luxury car if I could get it without the stupid wood paneling, etc. I bought a NordicTrack treadmill because I wanted a treadmill that would last, and have automatic speed and incline controls. I didn't want the stupid fancy screen with iFit. I love to spend money on solid Amish furniture but I don't want some fancy Chairish dining room table. I want to be able to excise the snooty and fancy but keep the quality.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with many of these - kids, expensive or luxury bags/shoes/cars/etc.

I honestly don't care for luxury anything in terms of "stuff" or material things. I'd rather have a nice experience or trip.

Sorry but kids are nothing like these other items. They are actually the opposite.

Sorry but I don't think you understand the question. Kids are something many people want/desire, but are not something I desire/want any more than I desire a porche.

Kids are the ultimate experience, not a “luxury item”. Strange that the pp lumped them together.

+1. People without kids just will never get it.

-1 I have kids and disagree that they re the “ultimate experience “.

Your poor kids. I pity them.

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Anonymous wrote:Large houses. I truly do not understand the appeal. We are looking to move in the next few years and our budget is such that in our preferred neighborhoods, we could either buy something smaller for cash or mostly cash, or we could get a large house and pay about what we currently pay. The realtor and my mom and several friends keep telling me "just get the bigger house, you won't regret it" but I really don't want to. We have plenty of space now at less than 1500 sq ft. I don't think I want something more than 2000 sq ft. What is it for? I also don't want to furnish and design and decorate all that extra space. We only have one kid and she'll be in MS by the time we move. The idea of some 3000-4000 sq ft house sounds like way too much for a small family, much less empty nesters. I value good layout (or getting a great price and then being able to spend money to renovate it to make the absolute most of it) over extra square footage, but the market really seems geared toward the idea that larger houses are always better. They definitely seem to appreciate better.

Post-pandemic, both of us WFH. The extra space makes a huge difference now.

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Anonymous wrote:ANY sort of conspicuous consumption. Lulu, stanley, LV, Tesla, fancy kitchens.

Teslas are actually practical.

Also odd that Lulu is on this list. I mean I guess I could do a bunch of research to find athleticwear that performs as well but costs less, but why? How much time spent to save $30?

And as for “fancy” kitchens….most people do not spend lots of money on kitchens for them to be impractical. The better appliances perform better, and yes, tend to look nicer. This is for the space that is the beating heart of my private residence that the public does not see. How is that “conspicuous consumption”?

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Anonymous wrote:ANY sort of conspicuous consumption. Lulu, stanley, LV, Tesla, fancy kitchens.

Teslas are actually practical.

Tesla aren't practical. Maybe when you can drive them 1000 miles without stopping for a charge. And when they get the battery fires under control. Hard pass.

They are actually practical if you have the free lifetime supercharging. We don't usually drive them 1000 miles but if we did, we'd just stop for a meal. Don't know anyone who has had a fire. We've owned 3 and haven't had any issues.

Its not the cost. Its planning your whole trip around superchargers. You must not travel many places. I will buy an electric car when charging is as fast and convenient as gas and not before. I can find a gas station anywhere and be on my way in 5 minutes.

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Anonymous wrote:ANY sort of conspicuous consumption. Lulu, stanley, LV, Tesla, fancy kitchens.

Teslas are actually practical.

Also odd that Lulu is on this list. I mean I guess I could do a bunch of research to find athleticwear that performs as well but costs less, but why? How much time spent to save $30?

And as for “fancy” kitchens….most people do not spend lots of money on kitchens for them to be impractical. The better appliances perform better, and yes, tend to look nicer. This is for the space that is the beating heart of my private residence that the public does not see. How is that “conspicuous consumption”?

Right, so in those categories you would fall into the "others think are desirable" part of the OP. Its literally the point of the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with many of these - kids, expensive or luxury bags/shoes/cars/etc.

I honestly don't care for luxury anything in terms of "stuff" or material things. I'd rather have a nice experience or trip.

Sorry but kids are nothing like these other items. They are actually the opposite.

Sorry but I don't think you understand the question. Kids are something many people want/desire, but are not something I desire/want any more than I desire a porche.


Yes. And the fact that you think of “Porsche” and “child” in equivalent terms reveals that you have no idea what having a kid is. It’s fine not to want kids but know it’s bypassing a whole category of human experience, not akin to skipping a splurge purchase.

You think wayyy too highly of having kids. It's not novel. It's something people have done since the beginning of time. It isn't special or unique.

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Anonymous wrote:I get frustrated with the bells and whistles I have to buy when all I really want is something solid and reliable. Like I wouldn't mind a great luxury car if I could get it without the stupid wood paneling, etc. I bought a NordicTrack treadmill because I wanted a treadmill that would last, and have automatic speed and incline controls. I didn't want the stupid fancy screen with iFit. I love to spend money on solid Amish furniture but I don't want some fancy Chairish dining room table. I want to be able to excise the snooty and fancy but keep the quality.

I was with you until the bit about furniture…why is a used table that someone finds beautiful “snooty” or “fancy”?

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Anonymous wrote:ANY sort of conspicuous consumption. Lulu, stanley, LV, Tesla, fancy kitchens.

Teslas are actually practical.

Also odd that Lulu is on this list. I mean I guess I could do a bunch of research to find athleticwear that performs as well but costs less, but why? How much time spent to save $30?

And as for “fancy” kitchens….most people do not spend lots of money on kitchens for them to be impractical. The better appliances perform better, and yes, tend to look nicer. This is for the space that is the beating heart of my private residence that the public does not see. How is that “conspicuous consumption”?

Right, so in those categories you would fall into the "others think are desirable" part of the OP. Its literally the point of the thread.

I guess my point is that I don’t think of Teslas or Lulus as particularly desirable or aspirational (which seems to be what people are really talking about) either. They just…are? So it’s hard for me to think of them as great examples of gross “conspicuous consumption” against which PP is railing. It doesn’t seem quite worthy of the hate.

Is the point that if *other* people seem to think of them as Name Brands à la Gucci, LV (in other words, aspirational “lifestyle” brands), then am I really being such a conspicuous consumer? I mean, they’re leggings?? I’m puzzled.