May your children never have to learn the lessons of being children of an addict. |
| I don't do dry January. I have a drink if I want one. I'm careful because there is alcoholism in my family. If it starts to taste too good, I back off for a while. |
That's not everyone. I have two young kids and didn't go to many holiday parties and I definitely never slept in. My Dec was busy and a lot of work and I'm ready to relax and unwind a bit! |
| It seems regular in-take of alcohol and other substances (that is, things needed to relax including things like food) point to a bigger mental health issue that needs to be addressed. Not everyone is an alcoholic, but plenty of people have a problem with it than they realize or admit. |
Ok? I said that’s why *i* like doing dry Jan, not sure why you felt the need to comment. Sorry you didn’t get to sleep in I guess. |
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I think people find dry January difficult for the same reasons that a lot of people struggle with any lifestyle change, whether it's cleaning up your diet, exercising more, or getting more sleep. Everyone's willpower is different. Alcohol is also addictive and present in nearly every aspect of our society which adds to the difficulty for some. Some "non-alcoholics" might be functioning alcohol abusers and not realize it.
I randomly did a dry 2 months last summer. I started getting to the point where I questioned whether I was drinking too much (alcoholism runs in my family), and overall I wasn't feeling great physically so I decided to cut alcohol to see if that helped. It wasn't difficult for me to stop drinking, but those first 2 weeks of breaking the habit required conscious effort of changing my evening routine to avoid mindlessly pouring a glass of wine after dinner. After those first two weeks, it didn't feel like an effort. My sleep improved so I felt a bit more energetic during the day, but that was the only noticeable improvement. I did resume drinking but it's been very infrequent, although it did pick up during the holidays. I'm also drinking a lot less on the occasions I have a drink (stopping at 1 glass of wine instead of having 3, for example). I will likely do dry January for another reset after the holidays as part of my overall efforts to refocus on my health. |
Sorry but no matter how much you wish it was true, and how jealous you are of their expensive sneakers, these are not the people who get the DTs and go to the ER when they can’t get ahold of alcohol. If wine moms were the only people who consumed alcohol the liquor stores would’ve been closed during Covid along with everything else. You’re welcome for the public health lesson!
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There is abundant research on this. Feel free to google. |
You know what’s really annoying and sad? Being so self absorbed that you cannot entertain that other people have different opinions and experiences than you do. I’m really sorry that you are somehow familiar with what it is like to be the child of an addict. I know what it’s like to be the child of a narcissist. My narcissistic parent is a teetotaler. No drinking, no smoking, no anything. The lack of an addiction didn’t save me from the emotional scars of being raised by a narcissist. But I don’t assume that every teetotaler is a narcissist. I appreciate that the realm of human experience is broad. I also appreciate that many, many people can partake in drinking and maintain a healthy relationship with alcohol. Just because you know an out of control alcoholic doesn’t mean that other people don’t know when to stop. If your parent were morbidly obese because of food addiction, would that mean that other people should never eat sweets? That’s nonsense. It’s not all about you. |
| I have alcohol use disorder and so I don’t drink at all any more, but I’m glad to see taking a break from drinking normalized, and other aspects of the sober curious movement like a wider variety of non alcoholic drinks, especially ones that are not sickly sweet mocktails. I don’t judge those that do dry January or those that don’t. |
I would add that if someone is doing dry january, don’t press them for answers as to why they’re doing it. Some people who do it may not be big drinkers and it’s the equivalent of a juice cleanse for them. Some people who do it are concerned that they’ve got a problem. None of your business which journey they’re on unless they choose to share. Alcohol problems aren’t the alcoholic /not alcoholic binary that’s often pitched to us, and some people you know who appear to be just moderate drinkers are probably struggling more than you realize even if they don’t fall within the definition of alcoholic. |
One of us worked in ER / ICU during the height of the pandemic and the other one did not. One of us — okay, it’s me — is a clinician with years of schooling and so doesn’t fall for the red herring that an essential diagnostic criterion for AUD is delerium tremens. Yes, package stores stayed open per DOH to avert widespread acute withdrawals for those at risk for cardiac consequences of unsupervised withdrawal Doesn’t mean a lot of Wine Moms in my orbit aren’t clearly dependent on their substance and meet criteria for alcohol use disorder. You’re welcome, Caitlin |
The derisive, condescending tone sounds very much like a narc, PP you might want to do some introspection re: your own thought/communication patterns. |
NP, I’m curious, what in the comment that you were commenting on (which I tried to italicize) sounded narcissistic in its thought and communication pattern? I don’t see it at all and am genuinely curious how you were able to get narcissism out of that comment. I just don’t see it. Please explain! [i] |
That doesn’t give you permission to tell every human that has a few drinks every week they are alcoholics. Own your own sh!t. |