Can't relate to ppl without kids

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Anonymous wrote:Toddlers are vile. This subforum is for parents and nannies to commiserate. If you're a childless person non-nanny with a weird curiosity about these evil creatures from hell, at least pretend to be invested in the topic. Announcing you are a childless tourist here is just weird. But you do you!

I am here to read the relationship and family posts, travel forum, and many many posts that do not relate to parenting. I don’t give parenting advice or pretend to know what it’s like to parent. But I’m still a human that is part of society and a lot of the posts here are not related to children. The fact that you have so much animosity towards childfree people is disturbing

There are multiple people posting that it is weird for people without kids to post on forum for parents, especially in the sub forums for age groups of kids. Listen, no one here cares about your opinion on parenting.

This thread isn't about parenting. It's about OP saying that she can't relate to people who don't have kids. As a person without kids, I have an opinion about that.

The problem is that this thread doesn't belong in the "Infants, Toddlers & Preschoolers" forum. I would move it to "Relationships," because it's about how adults relate to adults.

Would that make you OK with allowing those of us who haven't Created New Life to share our thoughts?

+1. There's no way on this green earth to make it more obvious to these people. Are they traumatized by adults without kids? How did this happen to them?

Everyone with kids knows what it's like to not have kids. Almost no one without kids truly knows what it's like to be a parent. So...who is not relating to whom?

Yep, this. The people who identify with child free subculture are such complete losers. They go on and on about how kids are the worst, having them is the worst but then they want to be included in stuff geared towards parents and families.

This is not a thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t relate to people without special needs kids anymore. When you’re in the thick of an experience, and it’s an incredibly intense experience, it can be hard to relate to people who aren’t in it with you. I still have friends with typically developing kids or who don’t have kids at all, but honestly they all sound like they are complaining about NOTHING all the time to me, just irrelevant nonsense. I can’t relate.

I think what OP is saying is normal. I’m not sure why people are pouncing on her.

People are pouncing because no one's life should be 100% about being a parent. You need to make yourself think and talk about other things sometimes!

I'm childfree and have friends with kids, but we hardly ever talk about that. They spend time with me because they need time away from their kids and parenting.

OP and PP, I strongly recommend that you cultivate at least one friendship that doesn't revolve around talking about your kids.

This works when you have friends who are flexible about accommodating how your life is also structured differently (I could not stay awake past 9PM for YEARS because I was so sleep deprived. Some people found that annoying, others were more flexible.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: Understandable. Raising children requires a different level of maturity & responsibility.

LOL. So parents are more mature than childfree people now? Give me a break. I’m childfree and not out drinking every night. There are a plethora of reasons for me to not have kids- money, my own deteriorating health, the climate, and more. I actually like kids a lot. But being a parent isn’t my path. And that has nothing to do with maturity or responsibility.

Not disagreeing with anything you’re saying why are in a forum called infants, toddlers and preschoolers…

Because I was scanning recent posts and saw this one. I don't have kids and I'm curious how having them causes your entire personality to evaporate to the extent that you have absolutely nothing to talk about other than your kids.

Do you ever visit forums other than this one? Or can you no longer relate to topics like real estate, food or travel because you have kids?[/quote

Im sure you go to the beach just to see the view and not the half najed peor watch the Football game and not the skanky cheerleaders]

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Going here let's me think twice and I concluded I don't wanna have kids. For now. Most women here have ugly personalities ugh

OP is so pretentious. My mommy friends acknowledges me and I do acknowledge them. It's their choice to wake up 3 am to feed baby, not mine. I'm good with my pets

Your choice. My body, my life.

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Your body. Your life

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If capitalism would HELP working people then sure I would get 5 or 6 kids. But US fail to fund education, social programs, mental health. Most Amazon workers has to wear diapers to not get fired. Yay capitalism, more like embarrassing middle and poor class

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Anonymous wrote:Going here let's me think twice and I concluded I don't wanna have kids. For now. Most women here have ugly personalities ugh

OP is so pretentious. My mommy friends acknowledges me and I do acknowledge them. It's their choice to wake up 3 am to feed baby, not mine. I'm good with my pets

Your choice. My body, my life.

Gross that you feel pets are similar to children, they are not. Please make sure your friends with kids know you feel this way!

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Anonymous wrote:Toddlers are vile. This subforum is for parents and nannies to commiserate. If you're a childless person non-nanny with a weird curiosity about these evil creatures from hell, at least pretend to be invested in the topic. Announcing you are a childless tourist here is just weird. But you do you!

I am here to read the relationship and family posts, travel forum, and many many posts that do not relate to parenting. I don’t give parenting advice or pretend to know what it’s like to parent. But I’m still a human that is part of society and a lot of the posts here are not related to children. The fact that you have so much animosity towards childfree people is disturbing

There are multiple people posting that it is weird for people without kids to post on forum for parents, especially in the sub forums for age groups of kids. Listen, no one here cares about your opinion on parenting.

This thread isn't about parenting. It's about OP saying that she can't relate to people who don't have kids. As a person without kids, I have an opinion about that.

The problem is that this thread doesn't belong in the "Infants, Toddlers & Preschoolers" forum. I would move it to "Relationships," because it's about how adults relate to adults.

Would that make you OK with allowing those of us who haven't Created New Life to share our thoughts?

+1. There's no way on this green earth to make it more obvious to these people. Are they traumatized by adults without kids? How did this happen to them?

Everyone with kids knows what it's like to not have kids. Almost no one without kids truly knows what it's like to be a parent. So...who is not relating to whom?

Yep, this. The people who identify with child free subculture are such complete losers. They go on and on about how kids are the worst, having them is the worst but then they want to be included in stuff geared towards parents and families.

This is not a thing.

+1. People on this thread are legit delusional....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Going here let's me think twice and I concluded I don't wanna have kids. For now. Most women here have ugly personalities ugh

OP is so pretentious. My mommy friends acknowledges me and I do acknowledge them. It's their choice to wake up 3 am to feed baby, not mine. I'm good with my pets

Your choice. My body, my life.

Gross that you feel pets are similar to children, they are not. Please make sure your friends with kids know you feel this way!

No reasonable parent of children cares if someone feels that their pets are like kids. I have two dogs and three children and I love them all. They are all great. I honestly do not care how someone else considers their pets or if they feel like their pets are kids. You and the OP need to get a life. Your superiority complex is beyond. Have another kid, get a pet, get a job, do whatever you need to do to GET A LIFE.

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Hahahahaha to all of the people WITHOUT kids on this thread saying, “your life needs to be about more than just your kids!” Yes, ideally it does. But try having kids and a job FIRST before you give advice to anyone else who has kids and a job. It’s not easy to add hobbies and friendships and other interests in there too. And by “not easy” I mean impossible/not worth it for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't relate at all anymore to my friends who don't have kids, especially the ones who treat their pets like kids (like I know someone who baby-wears her dog in a babybjorn-type thing), and feel like I'm letting those friendships fade and don't even really care... Is this common?

It could be worse —my siblings didn’t have kids. Probably for the best, but the differences are real! Also, they hold grudges and generally look backwards regarding our parents. They have no clue that they have no clue.

+1. I just have to ignore their comments. No, I’m not raising my kids exactly as our parents raised us in the 80s, e.g. forcing a kid to sit at the table until they cleared their plate (or until there was a free moment to wrap the pork chop in a napkin and throw in the trash, as I did during several of those times)

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Anonymous wrote:Hahahahaha to all of the people WITHOUT kids on this thread saying, “your life needs to be about more than just your kids!” Yes, ideally it does. But try having kids and a job FIRST before you give advice to anyone else who has kids and a job. It’s not easy to add hobbies and friendships and other interests in there too. And by “not easy” I mean impossible/not worth it for me.

Right?? They have no idea but they want to come to a forum FOR PARENTS and give their sad little uninformed opinions.

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Anonymous wrote:Going here let's me think twice and I concluded I don't wanna have kids. For now. Most women here have ugly personalities ugh

OP is so pretentious. My mommy friends acknowledges me and I do acknowledge them. It's their choice to wake up 3 am to feed baby, not mine. I'm good with my pets

Your choice. My body, my life.

Gross that you feel pets are similar to children, they are not. Please make sure your friends with kids know you feel this way!

No reasonable parent of children cares if someone feels that their pets are like kids. I have two dogs and three children and I love them all. They are all great. I honestly do not care how someone else considers their pets or if they feel like their pets are kids. You and the OP need to get a life. Your superiority complex is beyond. Have another kid, get a pet, get a job, do whatever you need to do to GET A LIFE.

+1. I'm not competitive in this regard. Why would it bother me that my friend adores her pets?

This reminds me of people who said gay marriage invalidates the sanctity of marriage. Like, why does your marriage suffer just because of Jeff and Steve over there?

Pp, can you explain why it upsets you so much that someone might prefer pets to kids? What is hurting you so terribly about this?

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Anonymous wrote:Hahahahaha to all of the people WITHOUT kids on this thread saying, “your life needs to be about more than just your kids!” Yes, ideally it does. But try having kids and a job FIRST before you give advice to anyone else who has kids and a job. It’s not easy to add hobbies and friendships and other interests in there too. And by “not easy” I mean impossible/not worth it for me.

Ok now. I'm a parent and I don't relate to this at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Going here let's me think twice and I concluded I don't wanna have kids. For now. Most women here have ugly personalities ugh

OP is so pretentious. My mommy friends acknowledges me and I do acknowledge them. It's their choice to wake up 3 am to feed baby, not mine. I'm good with my pets

Your choice. My body, my life.

Gross that you feel pets are similar to children, they are not. Please make sure your friends with kids know you feel this way!

No reasonable parent of children cares if someone feels that their pets are like kids. I have two dogs and three children and I love them all. They are all great. I honestly do not care how someone else considers their pets or if they feel like their pets are kids. You and the OP need to get a life. Your superiority complex is beyond. Have another kid, get a pet, get a job, do whatever you need to do to GET A LIFE.

+1. I'm not competitive in this regard. Why would it bother me that my friend adores her pets?

This reminds me of people who said gay marriage invalidates the sanctity of marriage. Like, why does your marriage suffer just because of Jeff and Steve over there?

Pp, can you explain why it upsets you so much that someone might prefer pets to kids? What is hurting you so terribly about this?

One of the pps here. I think it’s fine if people don’t want to have kids. I also think it’s fine if someone is an animal lover and wants to have a pet or lots of pets. I think it is strange when people hold up pets as an alternative to kids or as an equivalent in some way. It just isn’t, and I think needing to make it be speaks to issues on a deeper level. I just can’t relate to someone who wants to be wished a happy Mother’s Day due to being a “dog mom”.