I don’t get open casket funerals. Am I the only one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you look at the ‘worst thing I ever saw’ thread, quite a few open casket funerals listed. Would hate to be responsible for the worst thing someone saw

Between the graphic, horror porn in movies, tv and easily downloaded from the internet, you’re telling me the worst thing people see is a dead body at a funeral?

I agree with the PP poster, the only horrifying thing about an open casket funeral is the cost vs cremation.

That thread is about something people actually saw in real life, not clips they viewed online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish and I don't get a lot of things Christians do with dead bodies. Embalming them, dressing them, viewing them, keeping them above ground for days. I might be hanging out in a hut with a giant ass lemon, but y'all are weird.

I'm Jewish too and this made me laugh out loud. I never got open caskets either. That practice is so creepy to me.

[Anonymous]

I saw my dad and I wish I hadn't. It really wasn't him anymore. He actually looked great technically but very serious and solemn. My dad was a live wire and a ton of fun when he was alive and there was no evidence of that. It kinda messed with my head for a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ghoulish as hell. I never view the body. I don't want to see it.

Because you are afraid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish and I don't get a lot of things Christians do with dead bodies. Embalming them, dressing them, viewing them, keeping them above ground for days. I might be hanging out in a hut with a giant ass lemon, but y'all are weird.

I'm Jewish too and this made me laugh out loud. I never got open caskets either. That practice is so creepy to me.

I'm also Jewish and I went through my teens and twenties thinking I knew what a funeral was until I went to open casket ceremony. In my head I kept thinking "WTF" while it seemed so normal to everyone around me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Feels so unnecessarily distressing

They're weird, grotesque, and morbid. My VERY Catholic family (both sides) always had them. The younger generations are moving away from them, thankfully.

People would always say that Grandma "looked so good" or they "did such a good job with her." Um, no. She looks dead. And now that is the last visual I will have of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Feels so unnecessarily distressing

They're weird, grotesque, and morbid. My VERY Catholic family (both sides) always had them. The younger generations are moving away from them, thankfully.

People would always say that Grandma "looked so good" or they "did such a good job with her." Um, no. She looks dead. And now that is the last visual I will have of her.

For some people, the dead visual is a better final memory than the dying visual. Even the natural dying process (the gasping, the reaching, etc.) has seemed pretty grotesque to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just attended a viewing/funeral for a family member that was open casket and I found it creepy and disturbing (and I say this as a horror movie fan). My family member did not look like he was when alive, and it brought back memories of my father’s funeral when I was 14. He didn’t look right either, and my mother forced me to kiss his corpse on the forehead to say goodbye. It was traumatizing for me and I will never forget it, and I hate that being the last memory of my father, who was an incredible and loving father and wonderful person. Thirty years later, when my beloved stepfather passed, I was SO glad that his final wish was to be cremated. My mother wanted open casket and they had discussions about it while he was sick and declining, but he was firm about being cremated and no open casket (THANK YOU!!).

I can now remember him as the last time I saw him alive, and not be creeped out by seeing him lying in a casket all puffy and posed and not looking like the person I loved when he was alive.

This is my post. A lot of people are mentioning it maybe being a Catholic thing, but the funerals I have been to with open casket were Southern Baptist. None of the Catholic funerals I have been to have had open casket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You won’t like these people Op. they dig up their dead relatives every year and dress them up. https://www.gulftoday.ae/lifestyle/2020/08/30/indonesian-community-dig-up-graves-to-honour-the-dead-by-dressing-them-up

I’ve visited the famous cemetery in downtown Buenos Aires.

Real estate in the family crypt there is really tight. So the tradition in B.A., and Santiago Chile, is to periodically remove the very oldest bones to make room for younger bodies.

Makes sense. By the time you are only bones, your descendants probably never met you and no one remembers you anyway.

Very practical!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Feels so unnecessarily distressing

They're weird, grotesque, and morbid. My VERY Catholic family (both sides) always had them. The younger generations are moving away from them, thankfully.

People would always say that Grandma "looked so good" or they "did such a good job with her." Um, no. She looks dead. And now that is the last visual I will have of her.

Catholics do not have open casket funerals!! At the wake the casket is open. But the funeral at the church the casket is closed

[Anonymous]

My dad thought open casket was gross so we had calling hours and funeral with casket closed. We had so many people come through and ask why it was closed and how he looked when he died. It was bizarre. I found myself saying “he looks good he just didn’t want you to see him dead.”

[Anonymous]

I also don't get it. In fact, I find it very disrespectful to the deceased and everyone.

Embalming, makeup, etc., makes absolutely no sense at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish and I don't get a lot of things Christians do with dead bodies. Embalming them, dressing them, viewing them, keeping them above ground for days. I might be hanging out in a hut with a giant ass lemon, but y'all are weird.

I'm also in a hut with a huge lemon...and your post made me laugh so hard. Thank you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ghoulish as hell. I never view the body. I don't want to see it.

Because you are afraid.

Because it’s a disgusting, ghoulish practice. But it’s very telling that you think partaking in it makes you “brave,” when in fact, it makes you backwards. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ghoulish as hell. I never view the body. I don't want to see it.

Because you are afraid.

Because it’s a disgusting, ghoulish practice. But it’s very telling that you think partaking in it makes you “brave,” when in fact, it makes you backwards. Sad.

Doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. It’s ok, pp.