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Considering making a sign up genius for sports snacks? Is your kid older than 1st grade? Then DON'T
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Anonymous
The person is a socially anxious weirdo. This is their only outlet nothing will change |
Anonymous
This is a ridiculous take. Virtually every thread on this site discusses a first world issue, because we are all first worlders talking about our lives. |
Anonymous
You are deluding yourself that you are in the majority here. If you’d been reading these comments objectively, you’d realize that more people want to stop the group snacks than continue them. |
Anonymous
Yes let’s project this small subset of helicopter moms until the entire population |
Anonymous
Yet they persist. Why is that? |
Anonymous
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The mom who made the signup genius for our team also pinged me when I hadn't signed up for a slot in the first 24 hours it went live.
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Anonymous
Because it only takes one over involved parent to take the reins and send out a sign up list. Then everyone feels forced to comply. |
Anonymous
Because it takes just one misguided person to start it. Then the other parents feel obligated, and it requires someone being (politely) confrontational to undo the one mom’s action. And, as you can see from this thread, the yay-snacks mom likely be insistent about it. |
Anonymous
Way to stand by your convictions. Again, you can always just skip it. Why is this so hard for you? |
Anonymous
That’s rude. I would tell her directly that you aren’t going to be participating. |
Anonymous
This is the real issue. If snack sign ups were actually voluntary, people probably wouldn't hate them so much. But they aren't. For the parents who think they are important, they are an essential part of an activity and anyone who doesn't participate is a jerk. That's why parents who don't want to do the snack sign ups for whatever reason (they have a picky eater or a kid with allergies, they are already overextended with work and kid stuff, they can't afford it, etc.) get frustrated. Because it's presented as an option thing and then it isn't actually optional. Which is rude. Also, for those of you who like the sign ups and might consider pulling something like the above and harassing a parent who hasn't signed up, here is a short anecdote that I think will give you pause: Last year my family hit some financial difficulties and qualified for SNAP benefits for a time, which we took advantage of. It was only about 6 months but during that time it was such a relief to know that I could do grocery shopping for the family without having to go into credit card debt for it, and that I could buy healthy foods for our DC without having to stress about how much fresh produce or eggs or yogurt cost (by the way, I can list the average price for all those items and how much higher they are now than they were two years ago without checking because that's how closely we have to pay attention to grocery spending). Our kid is in an activity they really love and we feel extremely lucky to get to participate. There is a partial scholarship and then a relative pays the balance. The activity has an annual performance and the my child's participation in that was covered by the school last year which was a godsend because this was during our financial crisis and we would otherwise not have been able to do it. Even with the scholarship, we had other expenditures that were tough on us, stuff like transportation to the event and some materials not covered by the school. So we felt especially financially stretched at this time. One of the parents organized a snack sign up for the event and sent it around. It specified that the items needed to be individually and professionally packaged (so I couldn't make something at home) and what size items were to be provided. I knew what a stretch it would be for us to do it so I waited it out. But the organizer approached me twice about signing up so finally I did. I know I could have told her about our financial situation but it's not something I like to disclose to people. We knew we were probably the poorest people participating in this activity but I didn't want to advertise that -- I wanted my DC to feel like she just belonged, like she was no different. So at a time when I was pinching every penny, cooking every meal at home using money saving recipes, and buying our groceries with food stamps, I went out and spent close to $50 on sports drinks and pre-packaged snack items for a group of very privileged children and I had to put it on my EBT card. You don't know what other people's situations are. Stop volunteering their time and their money without asking them first. If you want to do these sign ups fine, but make it crystal clear to everyone involved that it is 100% voluntary and that people should only do it if they really want to. And don't harass a parent who hasn't signed up -- you don't know what their situation is or what you are asking of them. It might not be a big deal to you but it could be a big deal to them. |
Anonymous
No one on this thread is being insistent about anything, we’ve been advising the no-snacks people to speak up. If this is a consistent issue for your team, it’s best to address it early on in the season rather than after a list has gone out. Maybe instead of being no-snacks, recommend an end of season or last game healthy snack party. |
Anonymous
The pro-snack people don’t care about this. I’m sorry, but it’s true. Their junk food addiction drives them and they cannot think of anything else or anyone else. I’m sorry you went through this. Anyone normal would consider it appalling. Unfortunately that’s not the junk food addicts. |
Anonymous
The yay-snacks people are always incredibly insistent. |
Anonymous
Sure you would |