Can I leave only one grand child money?

[Anonymous]

You can do whatever it is you want to do, but if you want family harmony after you die, make your intentions clear now.

While I personally believe only truly bad and shallow people expect money, unfortunately ypu can tell by the responses on here, many do. Have you considered skipping your children - who I assume are adults who are financially stable and setting up trusts for all the grandchildren. Perhaps give the one you feel needs the most help more, but give them all something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can do whatever it is you want to do, but if you want family harmony after you die, make your intentions clear now.

While I personally believe only truly bad and shallow people expect money, unfortunately ypu can tell by the responses on here, many do. Have you considered skipping your children - who I assume are adults who are financially stable and setting up trusts for all the grandchildren. Perhaps give the one you feel needs the most help more, but give them all something.

This. Why leave money to sons who are old enough to have adult children if their own? Unless they have some specific need. No doubt they have already benefitted from your wealth in many ways. If they do have specific needs (like help with college tuition, or an investment in a business), simply give them that money now. Have an honest conversation with them that you are doing estate planning and talk to them about it. And then leave your estate to your grandsons, with more going to the one who will need it. This seems so fair as to not be up for familial debate.

I think the reason this has caused strife is that you are recognizing one child’s specific need (and it’s very valid, I doubt anyone in your family denies this) but are acting as though it’s the main thing that matters. While of course your grandson’s limitations are relevant, they are not the whole story. What if after you pass, one of your other grandchildren develops an illness? What if they struggle with infertility or their industry unexpectedly collapses and they have to start over? Life is unpredictable. It seems strange to me to want to help prepare one grandchild for future challenges but to assume that the others will be fine no matter what. You are basing estate planning on the current circumstances, which can change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

Does the other son think it's unfair that his nephew has a lifelong disability? I can't see rewarding that kind of entitlement (and expecting to inherit *any* money is entitled behavior).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

That’s fine but make sure you make the son reviewing all the money your caretaker.

[Anonymous]

It would be rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

But nonetheless you posted the question here … troll much?

By the way, if you are serious, just know you’ll be hated and revoked by those you’ve left out.

Oh well. She won’t be here when that happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

But nonetheless you posted the question here … troll much?

By the way, if you are serious, just know you’ll be hated and revoked by those you’ve left out.

I'm surprised he is so upset. He is greedy, I told him that and now he is not speaking to me

Good for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would be rude.

Rude? You must be a money grubbing child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

Does the other son think it's unfair that his nephew has a lifelong disability? I can't see rewarding that kind of entitlement (and expecting to inherit *any* money is entitled behavior).

Both of his kids have ADHD.- the other son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

Does the other son think it's unfair that his nephew has a lifelong disability? I can't see rewarding that kind of entitlement (and expecting to inherit *any* money is entitled behavior).

My other son thinks the 2 sons should inherit and then provide for their own kids from that. He is also furious his brother has never worked full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

Does the other son think it's unfair that his nephew has a lifelong disability? I can't see rewarding that kind of entitlement (and expecting to inherit *any* money is entitled behavior).

My other son thinks the 2 sons should inherit and then provide for their own kids from that. He is also furious his brother has never worked full time.

Wait, so you have 2 sons, one of whom “has never worked full time” (what does this mean? He’s a SAHD? Are/have you been supporting him), and it’s his son you want to leave all your money to? Talk about burying the lede.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

Does the other son think it's unfair that his nephew has a lifelong disability? I can't see rewarding that kind of entitlement (and expecting to inherit *any* money is entitled behavior).

My other son thinks the 2 sons should inherit and then provide for their own kids from that. He is also furious his brother has never worked full time.

Wait, so you have 2 sons, one of whom “has never worked full time” (what does this mean? He’s a SAHD? Are/have you been supporting him), and it’s his son you want to leave all your money to? Talk about burying the lede.

He lives with me. Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any post that starts with "can i.." Troll.

No adult asks permissions and so many posts are worded this way that I'm certain this is a troll.

OP here. My other son ( not the dad of my autistic grandson) is not happy with this. In fact he is very upset that this is unfair. I told him how I divide my money is only my business.

Does the other son think it's unfair that his nephew has a lifelong disability? I can't see rewarding that kind of entitlement (and expecting to inherit *any* money is entitled behavior).

My other son thinks the 2 sons should inherit and then provide for their own kids from that. He is also furious his brother has never worked full time.

Wait, so you have 2 sons, one of whom “has never worked full time” (what does this mean? He’s a SAHD? Are/have you been supporting him), and it’s his son you want to leave all your money to? Talk about burying the lede.

His kids are adults. He does a little free lancing here and there. My other son is doing well financially.

[Anonymous]

I think the OP is trolling. Notice how new details keep appearing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the OP is trolling. Notice how new details keep appearing.[/quote
The working thing is unrelated to the issue. Why would I have put that in the OP?