MIL ate my birthday chocolates

[Anonymous]

It's messed up to open packages for other people, but also it's just chocolate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's messed up to open packages for other people, but also it's just chocolate.

Would you feel differently if it was expensive perfume and her MIL opened it to spray herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's messed up to open packages for other people, but also it's just chocolate.

Would you feel differently if it was expensive perfume and her MIL opened it to spray herself?

Or roses, and she took two for herself?

[Anonymous]

NP I dont care what’s in my mail, expensive or meaningful or not, I would be pissed if someone opened it up and used it.

I wouldn’t even open up a gift for DH, let alone alone help myself to it.

Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

MIL sounds like a case OP. If she will open your packages what will she eventually teach your children?

I would vote for opening an interesting package at her house the next time you do, and using whatever is in there. Tell her you didn't think she would mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's messed up to open packages for other people, but also it's just chocolate.

I don’t understand this reaction. For me it would be less about what was in the package and more about the fact that they opened my mail and a gift meant for me. Who raised these monsters?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP I dont care what’s in my mail, expensive or meaningful or not, I would be pissed if someone opened it up and used it.

I wouldn’t even open up a gift for DH, let alone alone help myself to it.

Ridiculous.

True but even though it was “just chocolate” it still had sentimental value. It was for HER birthday from her parents and from her home town!

[Anonymous]

OP here. For the record, I do and always have shared these chocolates when I receive them—that’s how she knows what they are and that she likes them. I’ve even sent her some as gifts. But for her to open the package and eat some of my gift from my parents before I had any, that’s beyond. And by the way? Some of them are flavored/cream-filled, and she ate my favorite two flavors, which she favors as well.

Defend that, DCUM. Go on, I know you’ll find a way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the record, I do and always have shared these chocolates when I receive them—that’s how she knows what they are and that she likes them. I’ve even sent her some as gifts. But for her to open the package and eat some of my gift from my parents before I had any, that’s beyond. And by the way? Some of them are flavored/cream-filled, and she ate my favorite two flavors, which she favors as well.

Defend that, DCUM. Go on, I know you’ll find a way.

Divorce your husband for not inducing MIL to vomit the chocolate.
Or take a day to process and move on.
And tell your parents. They will likely send more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the record, I do and always have shared these chocolates when I receive them—that’s how she knows what they are and that she likes them. I’ve even sent her some as gifts. But for her to open the package and eat some of my gift from my parents before I had any, that’s beyond. And by the way? Some of them are flavored/cream-filled, and she ate my favorite two flavors, which she favors as well.

Defend that, DCUM. Go on, I know you’ll find a way.

Divorce your husband for not inducing MIL to vomit the chocolate.
Or take a day to process and move on.
And tell your parents. They will likely send more.

I…literally am taking a day to process and move on. That’s what the DCUM vent was for. I haven’t said a word to MIL/FIL or DH, nor will I. But I will also never have them in my house when I’m not there ever again. And because I do most of the childcare arrangements when we travel, that means my kids will only do overnights/babysitting with my family and friends. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

MIL is a creep. No way would I allow her in the house alone again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the record, I do and always have shared these chocolates when I receive them—that’s how she knows what they are and that she likes them. I’ve even sent her some as gifts. But for her to open the package and eat some of my gift from my parents before I had any, that’s beyond. And by the way? Some of them are flavored/cream-filled, and she ate my favorite two flavors, which she favors as well.

Defend that, DCUM. Go on, I know you’ll find a way.

And the gloating makes it obvious that your MIL KNEW she was out of line. That's next level awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the record, I do and always have shared these chocolates when I receive them—that’s how she knows what they are and that she likes them. I’ve even sent her some as gifts. But for her to open the package and eat some of my gift from my parents before I had any, that’s beyond. And by the way? Some of them are flavored/cream-filled, and she ate my favorite two flavors, which she favors as well.

Defend that, DCUM. Go on, I know you’ll find a way.

Divorce your husband for not inducing MIL to vomit the chocolate.
Or take a day to process and move on.
And tell your parents. They will likely send more.

I…literally am taking a day to process and move on. That’s what the DCUM vent was for. I haven’t said a word to MIL/FIL or DH, nor will I. But I will also never have them in my house when I’m not there ever again. And because I do most of the childcare arrangements when we travel, that means my kids will only do overnights/babysitting with my family and friends. Oh well.

You're way, way overreacting. It's CANDY. This shouldn't take you more than 30 seconds to "process."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the record, I do and always have shared these chocolates when I receive them—that’s how she knows what they are and that she likes them. I’ve even sent her some as gifts. But for her to open the package and eat some of my gift from my parents before I had any, that’s beyond. And by the way? Some of them are flavored/cream-filled, and she ate my favorite two flavors, which she favors as well.

Defend that, DCUM. Go on, I know you’ll find a way.

Divorce your husband for not inducing MIL to vomit the chocolate.
Or take a day to process and move on.
And tell your parents. They will likely send more.

I…literally am taking a day to process and move on. That’s what the DCUM vent was for. I haven’t said a word to MIL/FIL or DH, nor will I. But I will also never have them in my house when I’m not there ever again. And because I do most of the childcare arrangements when we travel, that means my kids will only do overnights/babysitting with my family and friends. Oh well.

Get it through your thick skull: it’s a violation of privacy to open someone else’s mail and help yourself to the contents. It is indeed NOT about candy. It is about a violation of privacy and literally stealing someone’s present.
You're way, way overreacting. It's CANDY. This shouldn't take you more than 30 seconds to "process."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the record, I do and always have shared these chocolates when I receive them—that’s how she knows what they are and that she likes them. I’ve even sent her some as gifts. But for her to open the package and eat some of my gift from my parents before I had any, that’s beyond. And by the way? Some of them are flavored/cream-filled, and she ate my favorite two flavors, which she favors as well.

Defend that, DCUM. Go on, I know you’ll find a way.

Divorce your husband for not inducing MIL to vomit the chocolate.
Or take a day to process and move on.
And tell your parents. They will likely send more.

I…literally am taking a day to process and move on. That’s what the DCUM vent was for. I haven’t said a word to MIL/FIL or DH, nor will I. But I will also never have them in my house when I’m not there ever again. And because I do most of the childcare arrangements when we travel, that means my kids will only do overnights/babysitting with my family and friends. Oh well.

OP please stop defending your right to be mad about this. You can’t reason with people who were, apparently, raised by wolves.

Personally, I’d handle it with grace because what else can you do and I’d never leave her alone in my home again. I’d also expect DH to give her a stern talking to.