Why do people connect you with other people without asking first?

[Anonymous]

Just no.
This has happened to me three times lately that someone has connected me with someone for an informational or in case i can give advice or know of any roles, without asking me first.
Why do people think this is ok??

[Anonymous]

Because they think you're knowledgeable?

If it's purely for job seekers, than yeah, it gets tiresome. But for advice and such, if you truly cannot help, just be honest.

[Anonymous]

I hate this. I have a niche subject expertise and have had this happen to me several times. It's really annoyinging.

[Anonymous]

How were you connected? If by email, just delete it. You never received it.

[Anonymous]

I'm a subject matter expert in my agency and this happens to me daily. I take it as a compliment. My agency absolutely sees this as my job that I share my expertise and advice. I also see this happen with other people all the time too. No one has ever seen it as rude in my experience. I actually can get my own job done quicker because people go out of their way to help me because I am helpful.

You're looking for advice on bankruptcies? Let me connect you with X.

[Anonymous]

Because it's just an introduction by email. They don't need permission for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it's just an introduction by email. They don't need permission for that.

You absolutely need someone’s permission before you introduce them to someone by email.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a subject matter expert in my agency and this happens to me daily. I take it as a compliment. My agency absolutely sees this as my job that I share my expertise and advice. I also see this happen with other people all the time too. No one has ever seen it as rude in my experience. I actually can get my own job done quicker because people go out of their way to help me because I am helpful.

You're looking for advice on bankruptcies? Let me connect you with X.

Do you get paid for this advice?

[Anonymous]

I have always done what I could to help anyone I can with information or advice or job connections. I've also become known as someone who can recommend good people to those who are hiring. It costs me nothing but a small amount of time and I consider it a contribution to the "job karma bank." I can't tell you how many people there are around DC in very influential positions who got their foot in the door because I steered them in the right direction or recommended them to someone who was looking to fill a job.

Sometimes I ask people if it's ok if I share their name, and sometimes not. It depends on the situation. When people are sent to me, I've never regretted spending half an hour with someone. I can't always help them, but there are many occasions where it's been of great benefit to them and me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it's just an introduction by email. They don't need permission for that.

Disagree. The time involved adds up. I agree it’s good karma to invest in this stuff, but it’s also basic courtesy to ask before obligating someone.

[Anonymous]

I mostly ask before I connect people. I don't if it's directly part of your role. You can always say "I'm sorry, I don't have the time for this/I'm not the right person."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a subject matter expert in my agency and this happens to me daily. I take it as a compliment. My agency absolutely sees this as my job that I share my expertise and advice. I also see this happen with other people all the time too. No one has ever seen it as rude in my experience. I actually can get my own job done quicker because people go out of their way to help me because I am helpful.

You're looking for advice on bankruptcies? Let me connect you with X.

It’s different if this is your actual job as a SME in an agency. I assume OP is referring to making connections for job seekers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because it's just an introduction by email. They don't need permission for that.

Disagree. The time involved adds up. I agree it’s good karma to invest in this stuff, but it’s also basic courtesy to ask before obligating someone.

An email is not an obligation. You don't write back to every piece of junk mail you get do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have always done what I could to help anyone I can with information or advice or job connections. I've also become known as someone who can recommend good people to those who are hiring. It costs me nothing but a small amount of time and I consider it a contribution to the "job karma bank." I can't tell you how many people there are around DC in very influential positions who got their foot in the door because I steered them in the right direction or recommended them to someone who was looking to fill a job.

Sometimes I ask people if it's ok if I share their name, and sometimes not. It depends on the situation. When people are sent to me, I've never regretted spending half an hour with someone. I can't always help them, but there are many occasions where it's been of great benefit to them and me.

If you are introducing people by email or LinkedIn there’s no world where you should do this without their permission. They may not have time or bandwidth and may not feel how you feel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly ask before I connect people. I don't if it's directly part of your role. You can always say "I'm sorry, I don't have the time for this/I'm not the right person."

Op - I mean outside of work. As in talk to this person about their career