I haven't had sex in 13 years. I pleasure myself when I'm in the mood and I'm fine with that, just like I was for years before I ever had sex - which, by the way, I liked very much. I just didn't like dealing with all the other baggage that came attached to a penis.
Overall I'm very grateful for having had the freedom to experience perimenopause and menopause without someone nagging me and guilting me and even possibly being mentally abuse over the issue of sexual demands. I spent time on menopause support groups online and it made me sad to see so many posts from so many wives and girlfriends whose male partners tormented them over the issue of painful sex during this time of life. So many men are so selfish - starting with a failure to give a hoot about pleasuring their female partners in the first place, and carrying over into their disgusting attitudes when women experience the change of life and reduced sex drive + painful sex issues.
Not all men, sure, but . . . FAR too many!
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