Would you send your kids to private school even if it is very inconvenient to get to?

[Anonymous]

DH and I are from the Northeast. I went to a public magnet and DH graduated at the top of his public high school. We met at an Ivy grad school. A few years ago, we moved to a well regarded public school system in the DMV. Our kids are doing well in the local public, have lots of friends, play sports, etc. Every one of DH’s professional colleagues send their kids to private and often suggest that we also send our kids to private. A few of them are on the board or know the board and can get our kids in. The schools will take us 30+ minutes per direction and can easily be an hour during rush hour. Public schools are 1-2 miles away from our school.

Would you switch your kids to private?

[Anonymous]

Note sure why PP was so virulent.

At least here, there is wide variation among the private schools. Separately children differ. The real question is whether said school is the best fit school - public or private - for your kids. Separately, you always can move house to make the school run shorter, given that your stated family situation would financially have the means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are from the Northeast. I went to a public magnet and DH graduated at the top of his public high school. We met at an Ivy grad school. A few years ago, we moved to a well regarded public school system in the DMV. Our kids are doing well in the local public, have lots of friends, play sports, etc. Every one of DH’s professional colleagues send their kids to private and often suggest that we also send our kids to private. A few of them are on the board or know the board and can get our kids in. The schools will take us 30+ minutes per direction and can easily be an hour during rush hour. Public schools are 1-2 miles away from our school.

Would you switch your kids to private?

You are an idiot

Big whoop you went to an Ivy league and top of class hubby.

DMV is full of people like you. You are not unique.

No one is coming up to you and saying go to private.

The answer is no idiot. Absolutely no.

Then again you are to stupid to figure out that Private is not a guarantee into a better college and that you clearly have not done homework.

DP

This person is clearly jealous.

OP. If you wonder about, visit. Then you will have the info to make a choice. Also take you kids and ask them if they want to go. I've let my kids decide at every point from 3rd grade on. 2 went private all the way. One went private until 8th, gifted magnet from there. The little one is in upper elementary and loves her school. I also let my kids pick the schools that are right for them. Money is nice, it buys options.

[Anonymous]

No.

When I was in big law I saw this phenomenon that people worked ridiculous hours and got paid ridiculous sums and it seemed they felt they had to spend that money to make it seem worthwhile.

Just say no— you are happy, your kids are happy, why would you possibly want to add a huge commute for anyone on?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. The next time it comes up in conversation answer as if the suggestion was to check out a resort, TV show, restaurant, product etc.

[Anonymous]

Hell, no. Wouldn’t even consider if my kids were doing well and had friends. Don’t rock the boat.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not if you only consider commute.
I live 1 mile from school and 2 miles from work by design.
Child is also happy in their school as seem yours.
I would tell my kids that private is an option though and offer to take them for visit.

[Anonymous]

How old are your children? If elementary school, I would not want this never ending commute. I might consider it for high school since the child would be driving within 2 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are from the Northeast. I went to a public magnet and DH graduated at the top of his public high school. We met at an Ivy grad school. A few years ago, we moved to a well regarded public school system in the DMV. Our kids are doing well in the local public, have lots of friends, play sports, etc. Every one of DH’s professional colleagues send their kids to private and often suggest that we also send our kids to private. A few of them are on the board or know the board and can get our kids in. The schools will take us 30+ minutes per direction and can easily be an hour during rush hour. Public schools are 1-2 miles away from our school.

Would you switch your kids to private?

Troll post.

[Anonymous]

No way.

[Anonymous]

No. If your kids are doing well -- happy and learning -- in public school, there is no reason to switch, just because private is working for someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are from the Northeast. I went to a public magnet and DH graduated at the top of his public high school. We met at an Ivy grad school. A few years ago, we moved to a well regarded public school system in the DMV. Our kids are doing well in the local public, have lots of friends, play sports, etc. Every one of DH’s professional colleagues send their kids to private and often suggest that we also send our kids to private. A few of them are on the board or know the board and can get our kids in. The schools will take us 30+ minutes per direction and can easily be an hour during rush hour. Public schools are 1-2 miles away from our school.

Would you switch your kids to private?

You are an idiot

Big whoop you went to an Ivy league and top of class hubby.

DMV is full of people like you. You are not unique.

No one is coming up to you and saying go to private.

The answer is no idiot. Absolutely no.

Then again you are to stupid to figure out that Private is not a guarantee into a better college and that you clearly have not done homework.

PP, you are obnoxious.

OP, I went to a magnet HS and attended a top 5 state university. My modest educational pedigree didn't prevent me from being successful but my career would have accelerated even more had I attended a private and a T5 private college. What you get from privates that are harder to get from publics are intimate class sizes, teachers who have time and resources to spend with your child, invaluable network of high achieving classmates, and confidence/polish communications. How important are these things to you? They are very important to us which is why we send our DD to a private even though we are 5 minutes from a great public HS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. If your kids are doing well -- happy and learning -- in public school, there is no reason to switch, just because private is working for someone else.

I definitely agree! The only reason you give for considering private is that your DH’s colleagues send their kids to private schools. FWIW, almost all of DH’s colleagues and most of mine send their kids to privates. We loved our public elementary and never considered private elementary. We didn’t, however, love our middle school or feel it was the best fit based on our oldest’s experience. At that point, we started exploring private options, found one we loved, and switched. We also plan to switch our younger two to private at the same grade. But, we chose based on what worked best for our kids not what worked best for other people’s kids.

[Anonymous]

If you, your partner, and your kids are happy, why suddenly change course? Don't try to keep up with the Joneses. And, frankly, I'd question the ethics of a school that allows board members to have so much influence on admissions.

[Anonymous]

No. My husband’s colleagues aren’t raising my kids.