Is she giving me the run around?
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Anonymous
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I kept running into this woman in my neighborhood and we kept flirting so I eventually asked to go out. Her friend died a few days after I asked to go out; not a lie - when I called her she started out of nowhere crying, apologized, and that’s when she told me what happened. This was two weeks ago and we obviously didn’t meet up because of what what she has/had going on.
She texted me asking me about getting together on Sunday, so we made plans. Today she asked if we could move the meetup to the following Friday because she went out of town for her best friend’s baby shower but is staying a a few days longer to help her out bc she’s on bed rest. Is she giving me the run around? |
Anonymous
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There is no reason to do this to someone you haven't even been out with once. It sounds like some true extenuating circumstances. I think if she ghosted you that would be one thing but she's following up and explaining what's going on. I think worth giving her at least one more chance.
She's probably out of sorts and still grieving though which can make people act a little weird so I'd be prepared to give some grace for awhile or alternatively just bow out if you don't think you can/want to handle that (which is not a ding on you!) |
Anonymous
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If these facts are real, then it seems that this woman has big things going on including helping out a friend on bed rest and is communicating that to you.
Do you think she’s lying? Or do you think she shouldn’t be helping out a friend? |
Anonymous
| No she's just had stuff come up. |
Anonymous
| She hasn't ghosted, and is giving reasonable explanations, so that's a good sign. How old is she? |
Anonymous
32 |
Anonymous
I think in the beginning of a relationship things are very tenuous and so there is uncertainty and doubt and I understand why her bailing on you twice despite not having been out is concerning but the fact that despite dealing with a death and needing to help a friend in a pretty significant situation she is still making it a priority to check back in with you and make sure she makes this happen is actually a very good sign. You guys have not even been out yet it would be so easy for her to just be like 'eh this is a bad time I'm just gonna let this opportunity go' but instead she is still trying to make it happen. |
Anonymous
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Depending upon the women you have two rules you can follow:
1. Let her come up with the day/time/date you will meet. Don't reschedule anything yourself. 2. Give her three chances--if she flakes a third time you are done with her. Hot women get rule #2. Everyone else gets rule #1. |
Anonymous
| She’s had a lot more going on than I’d want to deal with at the beginning of getting to know someone.I’d tell her to hit me up when the dust settles and put the ball in her court. |
Anonymous
She’s like a lighter Halle Berry mixed with Alicia keys with curly hair, so she’s definitely #2 |
Anonymous
| Given the stuff going on in her life, I'd be fine with it. But if she flakes again, then it's time to move on. |
Anonymous
| You're not a priority or she wouldn't let all that other crap get in the way. Frankly she's just not all that attracted to you. Move on. |
Anonymous
Her friend dying is “crap” and is getting “in the way”? You sound like a miserable person. |
Anonymous
| She has a lot going on. I would let her get back to you. Live your life and hopefully she will reach out once she has more emotional energy. |
Anonymous
| Who cares? What else are you doing? It cost you nothing to go along with it and see what happens. |