Would you date a man with a 140 body count?
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Anonymous
| Why or why not? |
Anonymous
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Not if I knew that going in, because the fact that I know that number about him either means:
1. he's bragging about it (and keeping count, yikes), or 2. he's got a reputation from his wild oats days and people are still talking about it. Hard no to both. That said, I have no idea what DH's number is, because he's not a 17 year old with a hit list, so I do not have a hard stop for past partners. Just the idea of keeping count and talking about it is wildly immature and indicative of someone who values quantity over quality. |
Anonymous
| I’m approaching 120… |
Anonymous
| Why on earth would he tell you a number? That’s the red flag. |
Anonymous
| Lots of people would but that's not for me. |
Anonymous
| No, because there is something wrong with him. |
Anonymous
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Depends if he has since sought therapy/is now on medication. At some point, he’s had issues he’s needed to work through.
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Anonymous
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I would not date anyone who keeps count or discusses it. How immature.
A number that high doesn’t imply anything good. He’s likely a cheater or a sex addict. If he is neither, it’s telling that none of his partners seem to stick around for long. Yuck. |
Anonymous
| I keep my list to be considerate. Let's say I come down with something and need to notify past partners. |
Anonymous
| No. He does not sound like a monogamous relationship oriented guy. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| Gross. |
Anonymous
Ran through |
Anonymous
| Definitely some STDs swimming around there |
Anonymous
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No even though I'm not squeamish about casual sex. But it's one thing to have some casual sex mixed in with some monogamous relationships (even if not that serious). Someone who has that many sexual partners either has zero interest in relationships or is a serial cheater, in which case what is the point of dating him, exactly? I don't think he wants to date. He wants to ****.
I also think women too easily fall into this mindset of thinking they will be the one who make a man want to commit. This is a mistake. A person either wants to be in a committed relationship or not. It is not the person who makes them want to commit. You could be an amazing person and a perfect fit for their personality, plus gorgeous, and a guy who is not commitment minded will still get bored or be looking around for the next thing. A guy who wants to be in a relationship will look for someone who seems well suited for that, which is also what a woman who wants the same thing should do. Someone who has a long history of nothing but casual hook ups is not a good bet, man or woman. |