When are allowing your child to “date”?

[Anonymous]

Like actually go on dates with someone they are interested in sexually?

[Anonymous]

When they want. It's such a blessing to be a family of late bloomers in that respect! I dated at 19. Given how my teens are developing, I doubt it'll happen sooner than that.

[Anonymous]

Mine is 13 and just started going on solo dates with a very nice boy! I was not okay with it at first but honestly they will do it behind your back if you don’t “let” them. I know this because I snuck around in middle school plenty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine is 13 and just started going on solo dates with a very nice boy! I was not okay with it at first but honestly they will do it behind your back if you don’t “let” them. I know this because I snuck around in middle school plenty.

Not true.

[Anonymous]

We are long past the ages when I would have been worried that it was too soon. Kids don't seem to date anymore. Tons go to prom as a group or solo.

[Anonymous]

We follow the same plan as the Duggars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We follow the same plan as the Duggars.

Does that include incest and child abuse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is 13 and just started going on solo dates with a very nice boy! I was not okay with it at first but honestly they will do it behind your back if you don’t “let” them. I know this because I snuck around in middle school plenty.

Not true.

Age of puberty and developing an interest in dating actually runs in families. So PP is wise to acknowledge that her child is experiencing similar feelings to hers. What and when she allows and how she talks about it are delicate issues. It's true that if the kids really want to be intimate, they'll find ways to do it... which is why sex ed is there, and the parent should reinforce it.

If you're a late-blooming family, great. You can worry about others things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We follow the same plan as the Duggars.

Blanket training?

[Anonymous]

For us, one child was interested in dating someone at age 15. I wasn't ready for it myself, but we certainly didn't say no. They are still dating a year later.

[Anonymous]

14 probably.

DC1 is 16 and no dating yet though.

DC2 is 12 but more likely to date by 9th I think.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t have a set age but my oldest didn’t do that until high school and that seems about right. My 13 yo isn’t anywhere near there so I assume she’s the same.

The 16 yo has had male friends since a young age and I think if Covid hadn’t hit in middle school she might have dated before freshman year just bc she’s pretty comfortable with boys in a way my youngest isn’t. Middle school dating is often really more like friendships and usually pretty innocent, so I wouldn’t fill discourage as I think it’s good for girls to learn to be comfortable around boys (and vice versa). I didn’t have that as a teen and it made my later dating life way more awkward and stressful than it needed to be

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is 13 and just started going on solo dates with a very nice boy! I was not okay with it at first but honestly they will do it behind your back if you don’t “let” them. I know this because I snuck around in middle school plenty.

Not true.

Absolutely true.

Middle school after school clubs are make-out sessions.

[Anonymous]

9th grade if they want

[Anonymous]

16