For Grandparents
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Anonymous
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Please shut up about your grandchildren’s college choices and decisions or lack thereof unless you want to alienate them and possibly their parents from you.
Just a PSA as decisions are being released and made. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, all you grandparents of teenagers who find yourselves on this forum. |
Anonymous
| Parents please stop projecting your own insecurities onto your children and causing more problems with your own parents but obsessing over college admissions and assuming that we grandparents give even the slightest shit about where our grandkids go to college. We will love and be proud of them regardless, because we have been around long enough to know that where they end up won’t matter in the end. You, on the other hand, need to get over your disappointment and stop dragging your kids down with you. |
Anonymous
Then stop comparing us to your grandchildren and dominating every single conversation with college interrogations. |
Anonymous
Throughout this process, my parents told DS that he was behind in his planning; choosing the "wrong" schools; and not doing as well as his cousin, who is also applying. My parents told me that I needed to force him to apply to certain schools (where he had no shot or interest) and to tell him to reorder his priorities. They spoke of nothing with him besides the college search and we gave him permission to walk away once his attempts to redirect failed. We shut them out. We will do the same for our younger two kids. When DS chose a school. my mother said "Oh! No one here goes there! Why would you want to pick that one?" An hour later, she said congrats on being done, but she hopes he doesn't move to the midwest permanently. |
Anonymous
| Sounds exactly like my ILs PP. I don’t think we will tell them where he is going until he graduates so the peanut gallery doesn’t have to feel shame in their judgmental knitting circles. |
Anonymous
We need an entire new forum for complaining about in laws. One that like the political forum doesn’t appear on “recent topics” so the rest of us are spared the constant griping and complaining. |
Anonymous
| In my day, if you were a male with 20/20 vision and could stand up straight you would get into Harvard. |
Anonymous
LOL! |
Anonymous
| My MIL will be this way (I have a sophomore). She very much wants my kid to get into a name-brand school so she can tell all her friends. They’re quite competitive with each other! But I don’t pay any attention. I do chuckle with my kids about it, so they know what’s coming and will hopefully soundly ignore her. |
Anonymous
| They have zero perspective on what the process is like now and what constitutes a "good" school. |
Anonymous
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Whoaaaa
So you met some obnoxious grandparents and you think all grandparents need to be dressed down by you? Nowadays most grandparents wouldn’t serve your kids carbonated water without your approval. (FYI: we do it anyway) I hope your kids survive being away at college without their controlling parents. Figure out how to say something to offending grandparent without being offensive.I think you would call it “adulting”. |
Anonymous
This is true. In the 70’s protesters were burning down cities. Jr could get in anywhere. Might explain a few things. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Glad someone posted this. The grandparents in this case wanted to know the full apply list.
Um what? Obviously declined and got a reply if we are just trying to be involved grandparents. No thanks, gramps. Way tone deaf. And I agree with those who have commented re grandparents not knowing the game these days. Can’t wait until they comment on my student’s decent but not top 20 choices and I have to point out they barely made it through a crappy state school themselves. Sorry, this is a sore subject. Grandparents should be supportive and respect boundaries. |