Hits keep coming.

[Anonymous]

It’s been one thing after another. Without going into details, I’ve had bad news after bad news with work over the last two months.

Now I’m sitting around with nothing to do and really struggling with the aftermath. I know I need to get into a healthy routine, make the most of it and look at the positives, but all I want to do is wallow.

Any tips to reset?

[Anonymous]

I find negative visualization helpful.

e.g.,
Imagine I am blind, then imagine the joy of becoming fully sighted like I am now.

Imagine awful tragedy happening to x loved one, then hugging or calling them.

etc., ad infinitum

Practicing gratefulness in other words. Not a panacea, but it helps a lot.

One more thing. Realizing there are 8 billion people on the planet and, statistically, no one know or cares about the douche bag that did me wrong or the "prestigious position" I lost. Which is 100% true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find negative visualization helpful.

e.g.,
Imagine I am blind, then imagine the joy of becoming fully sighted like I am now.

Imagine awful tragedy happening to x loved one, then hugging or calling them.

etc., ad infinitum

Practicing gratefulness in other words. Not a panacea, but it helps a lot.

One more thing. Realizing there are 8 billion people on the planet and, statistically, no one know or cares about the douche bag that did me wrong or the "prestigious position" I lost. Which is 100% true.

Thanks, PP.

[Anonymous]

It seems you are struggling because you have no control or limited control of your work. Perhaps ponder the situation, determine if there is anything you can change about the situation and if not, can you find a new role?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems you are struggling because you have no control or limited control of your work. Perhaps ponder the situation, determine if there is anything you can change about the situation and if not, can you find a new role?

Good advice. I felt like OP and realized I needed to take steps to change things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems you are struggling because you have no control or limited control of your work. Perhaps ponder the situation, determine if there is anything you can change about the situation and if not, can you find a new role?

Yes, actually this is exactly it but not sure how I can change things.

[Anonymous]

Start your side hustle. Seriously, use the time productively, and use it For You.

[Anonymous]

Thanks. Definitely thinking about this. Just don’t know where to start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems you are struggling because you have no control or limited control of your work. Perhaps ponder the situation, determine if there is anything you can change about the situation and if not, can you find a new role?

Yes, actually this is exactly it but not sure how I can change things.

Perhaps the change is too overwhelming and you feel safer being in your current position. Ponder why you would choose the status quo. Does it offer you safety? What are the benefits to keeping things as they are? What would it cost to change things?

[Anonymous]

Look realistically at your options and envision yourself in each situation. Which one feels right?

[Anonymous]

When I have felt like this what helps me most is to set a big goal outside of work. Run a marathon, plan a far away vacation, climb a mountain, whatever will feel like a good goal and require some focus and planning on your part to be ready.

[Anonymous]

I’m right there with you OP, going on two years of one main aspect of my job not going well. Trying to focus on what gives me joy, preparing for an exit, and not blaming myself.