Safe vent - I don’t like my husband because he’s not man enough

[Anonymous]

He never initiates sex. I have not had sex in over five years.

He can’t fix anything. He is physically weak.

I don’t think he loves me. He’s just too tired to divorce me.

I don’t think I love him. I am too poor to divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Same here, OP, same. Even his stupid lopsided gait pisses me off.

Sigh, it’s been a long week. Maybe we’ll feel better tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

OMG!

Mating in Captivity. Please read this book. Please get marriage counseling.

[Anonymous]

Same with the sex but mine could fix anything so there was that. We got along fine although I did not like the no sex. I initiated for awhile but eventually gave up and that was the end of that. I waited a few more years until the kids were grown and then divorced. We are both happier now.

[Anonymous]

Same. Could have written this myself. My husband has no drive in anything. He can't communicate, can't solve problems and just doesn't care. He's a passive husband, father and friend.

[Anonymous]

Plus one here too. So tired of no sex and also the lazy no effort phase he is in. He does nothing but breath….loudly

[Anonymous]

Read the Empowered Wife. It will transform your marriages

[Anonymous]

This is my life but with my wife. No sex drive and is frumpy all the time. We are in our 40s and she acts like she is 70.

[Anonymous]

Welcome the the average man's world!

[Anonymous]

Are you woman enough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same with the sex but mine could fix anything so there was that. We got along fine although I did not like the no sex. I initiated for awhile but eventually gave up and that was the end of that. I waited a few more years until the kids were grown and then divorced. We are both happier now.

What helped you wait those years? I am in similar boat. Counting down but need some tips to make it till they go to college.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been depressed and lonely recently because I’m coming up on the 10th anniversary of my divorce and I’m sad to admit I’ve not had a romantic relationship since. However, this post reminded me that I was a “dud” husband which is why I got divorced in the first place if I am being honest with myself. So in a way I guess I and any woman I might have encounter(ed) are better off for my so I should count my blessings.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a feminist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a feminist.

This. Careful what you ask for

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He never initiates sex. I have not had sex in over five years.

He can’t fix anything. He is physically weak.

I don’t think he loves me. He’s just too tired to divorce me.

I don’t think I love him. I am too poor to divorce him.

For you and others whose husbands are like this, why did you marry him? If he’s physically weak, can fix anything, doesn’t have ambition, is lazy……were there any warning signs?