Saw my friend’s husband flirting with other women

[Anonymous]

You read that correctly, women plural. I was at an event that my friend’s husband was at as well. He didn’t know I was right behind him when he was laying it on thick on these two attractive women who were there as well. I always suspected this guy was up to no good, but dang, it was another thing to see when he thought no one he knows is watching. I feel bad for my friend and to think what he and other men I know would do if this hadn’t happened in broad daylight.

[Anonymous]

Wow, op. You’re horrible. Flirting is totally fine. MYODB.

[Anonymous]

I don't think a little flirting is bad, OP. It's a natural part of human connection, and mature adults in stable relationships know to stop there, and not engage in anything else.

I have no opinion of this person you observed. Maybe you're right and he was up to no good. But in general, I don't think you should condemn flirting out of hand.

[Anonymous]

I’d be kind of impressed if my DH flirted with one woman, let alone two.

[Anonymous]

OP go read your bible and knit something. This is not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP go read your bible and knit something. This is not a big deal.

It depends on the context. Are these potential clients or people he already works with? Did he look embarrassed to see OP?

[Anonymous]

You sound jealous.

[Anonymous]

Who are you people posting "it's no big deal?" Flirting with others isn't a big deal if your spouse is aware and consents. If not, if you're hiding/doing it behind your spouse's back and would be embarrassed/ashamed/lie if caught, it's cheating and on the way to an EA.

I suspect the "nbd" types are either cheaters themselves and related to the guy OP caught, or only okay with it b/c it's OP's friend's partner (and you're assuming that's not your man).

There is a distinct line between friendly and flirty. If you're flirting with no intention of following through, you're leading someone on. Don't be a dick.

[Anonymous]

The definition of "flirting" is in the eye of the beholder. It can not be agreed upon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people posting "it's no big deal?" Flirting with others isn't a big deal if your spouse is aware and consents. If not, if you're hiding/doing it behind your spouse's back and would be embarrassed/ashamed/lie if caught, it's cheating and on the way to an EA.

I suspect the "nbd" types are either cheaters themselves and related to the guy OP caught, or only okay with it b/c it's OP's friend's partner (and you're assuming that's not your man).

There is a distinct line between friendly and flirty. If you're flirting with no intention of following through, you're leading someone on. Don't be a dick.

Appreciate this. I don’t normally think flirting is a deal breaker by any means but if my friend had seen this, she’d be devastated. It was over the line. There was physical touching, although not inappropriate touching. It was just bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people posting "it's no big deal?" Flirting with others isn't a big deal if your spouse is aware and consents. If not, if you're hiding/doing it behind your spouse's back and would be embarrassed/ashamed/lie if caught, it's cheating and on the way to an EA.

I suspect the "nbd" types are either cheaters themselves and related to the guy OP caught, or only okay with it b/c it's OP's friend's partner (and you're assuming that's not your man).

There is a distinct line between friendly and flirty. If you're flirting with no intention of following through, you're leading someone on. Don't be a dick.

You can join the knitters club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people posting "it's no big deal?" Flirting with others isn't a big deal if your spouse is aware and consents. If not, if you're hiding/doing it behind your spouse's back and would be embarrassed/ashamed/lie if caught, it's cheating and on the way to an EA.

I suspect the "nbd" types are either cheaters themselves and related to the guy OP caught, or only okay with it b/c it's OP's friend's partner (and you're assuming that's not your man).

There is a distinct line between friendly and flirty. If you're flirting with no intention of following through, you're leading someone on. Don't be a dick.

Appreciate this. I don’t normally think flirting is a deal breaker by any means but if my friend had seen this, she’d be devastated. It was over the line. There was physical touching, although not inappropriate touching. It was just bad.

Did you let it be known you were there and saw?

[Anonymous]

Who cares? I flirt and so does my husband. Married 25 years. It’s innocent fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people posting "it's no big deal?" Flirting with others isn't a big deal if your spouse is aware and consents. If not, if you're hiding/doing it behind your spouse's back and would be embarrassed/ashamed/lie if caught, it's cheating and on the way to an EA.

I suspect the "nbd" types are either cheaters themselves and related to the guy OP caught, or only okay with it b/c it's OP's friend's partner (and you're assuming that's not your man).

There is a distinct line between friendly and flirty. If you're flirting with no intention of following through, you're leading someone on. Don't be a dick.

Appreciate this. I don’t normally think flirting is a deal breaker by any means but if my friend had seen this, she’d be devastated. It was over the line. There was physical touching, although not inappropriate touching. It was just bad.

Did you let it be known you were there and saw?

He saw me later and was surprised I was there. No, I didn’t tell him. But he seemed not as friendly as usual, again surprised and almost caught off guard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people posting "it's no big deal?" Flirting with others isn't a big deal if your spouse is aware and consents. If not, if you're hiding/doing it behind your spouse's back and would be embarrassed/ashamed/lie if caught, it's cheating and on the way to an EA.

I suspect the "nbd" types are either cheaters themselves and related to the guy OP caught, or only okay with it b/c it's OP's friend's partner (and you're assuming that's not your man).

There is a distinct line between friendly and flirty. If you're flirting with no intention of following through, you're leading someone on. Don't be a dick.

Appreciate this. I don’t normally think flirting is a deal breaker by any means but if my friend had seen this, she’d be devastated. It was over the line. There was physical touching, although not inappropriate touching. It was just bad.

Did you let it be known you were there and saw?

He saw me later and was surprised I was there. No, I didn’t tell him. But he seemed not as friendly as usual, again surprised and almost caught off guard.

Good. He may have picked up on a vibe from you, hopefully.