Spin-off: couples where one spouse is bi or had a bi experience
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Anonymous
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The thread “doubts and insecurities opening the bedroom” got me thinking:
If you are married / engaged / in a LTR, and one of you had same-sex experience in the past, was the bi spouse: - the woman or - the man? |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| I would not be ok with DH having an bi experience. He would be thrilled if I had. |
Anonymous
| DH did. But who cares. |
Anonymous
| We were both bi. I found out when he cheated. He found out when I came out during lockdown, never cheated back. Eventually got my first girl on girl experience once we broke up. |
Anonymous
| I’m bi, DW is lesbian. I’ve had one experience with a man (well before I met DW), but I have low sex drive in general and absolutely no desire to step out on our marriage. |
Anonymous
| Pretty sure an ex bf was bi. Found out about an experience with a guy after we’d broken up. Had suspicions during our relationship. |
Anonymous
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Two women from LTRs had had experiences with other women. Not sure if that makes them bi or not.
DW had only taken men. |
Anonymous
| I have a friend who is married and has been married for about 15 years now. She is a woman and he is a man. The female and I have been friends since college. She made a very public Facebook post last year on her birthday about how she was bisexual and how empowered it felt to admit that. But she wasn’t leaving her marriage-she just wanted everyone to know she was bi. All I could think about was who cares? At this point when you are married and staying married what difference does it actually make? I think if you are married and it’s not effecting your relationship it seems irrelevant if someone is bi/had a past bi experience. |
Anonymous
| Wife had a single bi experience prior to us meeting. I got her to spill the beans about it and it was certainly titillating from my perspective, but she was kind of "meh" about it. She thought that boobs were fun, but was not interested in below the waist. |
Anonymous
Similar experience here with a friend from college via Facebook. I think it is more of a signal of solidarity(?) with the LGBT+ community. The thought process is that the more people that come out like this, the more normalized it becomes. |
Anonymous
| I had one bi experience in college during my explore life phase but I don’t consider myself to be bi. I did enjoy the experience but not enough to give up on men or want to do both. I’ve been happily married for a long time and I’ve never been tempted to stray with either sex. |
Anonymous
She is in good company. I do remember a DCUM thread a few years back where someone posed a question to women along the lines of “have you ever?” IIRC, many women who responded had made out and removed their shirts/bras with other women, but then stopped completely, above the waistline. |
Anonymous
I did this once too in college and I know others who did. Women are huggers and touchers and a night of partying can lead to fooling around. Some firsts definitely took place that night but it couldn’t replace great heterosexual sex at least for me. |
Anonymous
| I'm sure the DC avg is above the nat'l one when you consider "hetero" Republican males. |