18+ still living at home, do you vacation with your spouse?

[Anonymous]

College freshman female/18 almost 19. She’s never given us trouble, always followed our rules (for the most part) and we trust her. She lives with us and attends college and has a very part-time job. We would like to go away for a little over a week, on a cruise. She does have a boyfriend and he’s a nice guy. I don’t think she would break rules and have him overnight, but I guess if that’s the worst thing?

Do you leave your kids alone in your house at this age?

[Anonymous]

Hell I did it when they were 15-16. What's your concern?

[Anonymous]

I would take her. How many more times can you go on a family trip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would take her. How many more times can you go on a family trip?

We also travel with her in the summer. She has school so she wouldn’t be able to go anyway. This is a trip just for DH and me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell I did it when they were 15-16. What's your concern?

Really? I feel like it’s been drilled into me to not do this because of house parties.

[Anonymous]

Yes, absolutely.

[Anonymous]

Why isn't she living in the dorms?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why isn't she living in the dorms?

We live 15 minutes from her school. She commutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College freshman female/18 almost 19. She’s never given us trouble, always followed our rules (for the most part) and we trust her. She lives with us and attends college and has a very part-time job. We would like to go away for a little over a week, on a cruise. She does have a boyfriend and he’s a nice guy. I don’t think she would break rules and have him overnight, but I guess if that’s the worst thing?

Do you leave your kids alone in your house at this age?

We have and it was fine. We do have a good security system, smoke and leak detectors, ring bells and cameras so DC's safety wasn't an issue. Many of our neighbors are like family so help was always a holler/phone call away. We wouldn't have done it if DC wasn't sensible.

[Anonymous]

*DC didn't live at home, was visiting for study break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College freshman female/18 almost 19. She’s never given us trouble, always followed our rules (for the most part) and we trust her. She lives with us and attends college and has a very part-time job. We would like to go away for a little over a week, on a cruise. She does have a boyfriend and he’s a nice guy. I don’t think she would break rules and have him overnight, but I guess if that’s the worst thing?

Do you leave your kids alone in your house at this age?

We have and it was fine. We do have a good security system, smoke and leak detectors, ring bells and cameras so DC's safety wasn't an issue. Many of our neighbors are like family so help was always a holler/phone call away. We wouldn't have done it if DC wasn't sensible.

I only go away if the paint cans have been securely tied to strings from the ceiling, my kid has a BB gun for protection, they know how to rig a camping flame to a door handle to handle intruders...you know, what the annual PSA movie says to do each year.

[Anonymous]

Break rules? Your rules should be: be safe. Don't burn the house down. No parties. If sex happens in your house, that shouldn't be something on your mind.

[Anonymous]

I would take her. Mine leaves for college in June, and I don't know that he'll ever be back for more than a few days at a time. Don't squander the opportunity to spend time with yours.

[Anonymous]

I would since you have a trustworthy kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hell I did it when they were 15-16. What's your concern?

Really? I feel like it’s been drilled into me to not do this because of house parties.

My kids wouldn't dare. As Cosby said, I brought them into this world and I can take them out of it. They know this.