Are women challenging to date?

[Anonymous]

Are women challenging to date? When I read the posts here it seems to me that the vast majority of men are not put to the challenge.

[Anonymous]

I don’t necessarily think they are challenging. But I what I do believe is that women have accomplished so much on their own and are independent these days that very few men can enhance their lives. If they want kids? They don’t need a man for that. If they want us?plenty of horny men ready to answer the call. They don’t need money from men. They have their own houses/apartments/investments etc.

Men need to account for this new reality.

[Anonymous]

Yes they are challenging only because men seriously underestimate how much time/effort they need to put to keep a woman happy, interested and engaged. Women will give 110% in a relationship and most men are probably ready to give only 50%.

[Anonymous]

Did you ever read Shakespeare?
Didn’t he answer this question?

[Anonymous]

This weekend I told my BF of eight months that I had almost broken up with him several times early on, because in the beginning he was an incredibly lazy dater. He had come out of a marriage and I think he had gotten lazy there too, so he just didn't really know how to be a good boyfriend. And I'm not looking for much, just basic communication and not bailing on dates for dubious reasons, and maybe a compliment or a thank you sometimes. I suspect women are used to a certain standard in their friendships and when they date someone who isn't on that same level, it can be challenging for both parties.

[Anonymous]

+1
pros and cons to divorcee men
I found mine to be locked in time capsule too

[Anonymous]

Good question. And the answer is Yes. Women think what they want from men are simple things. But if you reflect deeply they are no so simple for men because those things don’t come naturally for men.

[Anonymous]

Are you coachable? Willing to be trained OP?
If not, best to stay on the sidelines

[Anonymous]

haha
Yes, I definitely give notes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This weekend I told my BF of eight months that I had almost broken up with him several times early on, because in the beginning he was an incredibly lazy dater. He had come out of a marriage and I think he had gotten lazy there too, so he just didn't really know how to be a good boyfriend. And I'm not looking for much, just basic communication and not bailing on dates for dubious reasons, and maybe a compliment or a thank you sometimes. I suspect women are used to a certain standard in their friendships and when they date someone who isn't on that same level, it can be challenging for both parties.

Every married man should have this as required reading. This is the effort that women want. Your life partner wants this too.

[Anonymous]

No, women aren't challenging to date. Most, for all their accomplishments, want someone that can match their depth. Take away the material things and ultimately you are who you are. I've found a lot of women are actually shallow and boring: "I have this, I have that." "Look at my blah, blah, blah - I can have any man I want." I say BORING. I'm not interested in your accoutrements - I'm interested in who you are as a person. If a woman only measures me by the size my wallet, or p-size, then please move along...

[Anonymous]

I have used the word “accoutrements” a total of zero times.

I may have to move you along if you say that word in my presence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t necessarily think they are challenging. But I what I do believe is that women have accomplished so much on their own and are independent these days that very few men can enhance their lives. If they want kids? They don’t need a man for that. If they want us?plenty of horny men ready to answer the call. They don’t need money from men. They have their own houses/apartments/investments etc.

Great! So now that women are ahead of men success-wise, can we focus efforts on helping men achievement-wise? Why are small business programs targeted at women for example?

[Anonymous]

Never act desperate if you want a woman. If she plays hard to get move on no matter how much she thinks she brings to the table. If she truly likes you, she will chase you. At that point the relationship can start on an equal footing. Never start a relationship with the woman if you are the one who desperately chased her.

[Anonymous]

Women want men to meet a long list of requirements. Men have a pretty short list of requirements that need to be met. Women are more picky so that's challenging.