AITA? kid party edition
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Anonymous
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Yesterday afternoon I attended a birthday party at a children's museum with my kid. The party was catered by the museum staff. (Well beyond our family budget, but it was fun to be a guest.) One of the catering staff was a woman I know from high school. We were not close friends then and have not seen or talked to each other for years. The last contact we had ended with her telling me she wasn't interested in friendship since she primarily wanted a "wing man" who would go to bars and pick up guys with her, and I was newly married and don't drink. Ce la vie. We went our separate ways.
Fast forward to yesterday. I recognized this gal immediately when we arrived at the party, but I did not approach her. She was working and it didn't seem like the time or place for a high school reunion. The next time I saw her, she had put on her sunglasses (while working indoors) and appeared not to recognize or see me. We both more-or-less avoided each other for the rest of the party, except towards the end, when we nearly ran into each other. I smiled and nodded, but she looked like she would have happily murdered me. So I just continued the conversation I was having with another mom and left it at that. I used to wait tables and have waited on people I know before. Most of the time it was fun. DH says she was probably embarrassed. Should I have said something? What is the right way to handle a situation like this? |
Anonymous
| You sound annoying and it’s C’EST la vie |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
OP here. I stand corrected on my spelling. Thanks. Now I know. |
Anonymous
| She was embarrassed and you handled it well. |
Anonymous
No. It shows you off as a pretentious fool who acts like she knows French when she doesn’t and thinks she’s better than other people who are single and drink (and btw, I married young and don’t drink but I am not insufferable like you). Just sit down and STFU. |
Anonymous
| She probably assumed you thought you were too rich and cool to talk to her. I wouldn’t waste more time thinking about her if you never liked her. |
Anonymous
| Why is this about you? |
Anonymous
Wow you got that all from a misspelling? |
Anonymous
If sounds like this woman rejected OP, and not the other way around. I imagine she was embarrassed, OP. I probably would have greeted her, but it sounds like she might not have welcomed it. I do t think you are the A - just one of those awkward situations. |
Anonymous
| ^* don’t think |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t have cared enough to give it a second thought. Move on. |
Anonymous
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I think it’s fine to pretend not to see someone - my go to is I make eye contact, do a quick wave/smile but then keep moving/doing whatever I was doing. It acknowledges the other person but doesn’t put pressure on to have a dumb fake conversation that both people hate.
Personally if the situation were reversed I’d prefer to be ignored and left alone as well. Even when I was close with the person, the small talk is painful when it’s been 20+ years. For me anyway. |
Anonymous
You can’t be seriously asking this |
Anonymous
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I think you behaved fine at the event.
Waiting tables for someone you know is a little different, since you are forced to interact/acknowledge each other. This is a little different. I think it was fine to not acknowledge her, giving her the opportunity to do the same, since she is the one who ended the friendship. |