Which personality disorder do people start fights or conflict constantly?

[Anonymous]

Always mad at someone and starting a fight in a family or group? Turning people against each other?

I’ll give an example. I invited a friend to a party. She couldn’t attend (childcare issues) but she proceeded to call two other friends and say “Lila invited me to this party. Why didn’t you invite me? Thank God she considered me because you didn’t. How long have you known about it. I’m so disappointed you wouldn’t remember me.” Keep in mind, she can’t even go, just starting trouble in a group of friends.

[Anonymous]

She sucks. You don't need a diagnosis to know that. Stop pathologizing everything.

[Anonymous]

What personality disorder causes people to be “friends” with people whose behavior bothers them to the point where they gossip about it to total internet strangers?

This is your friend, your word: friend? You are friends with a person who deliberately stirs up garbage and resentment in a group? Why? Why are you choosing to keep in contact with her, invite her to things, etc.? What kind of personality disorder do you have that you have not cut ties with a toxic person?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like borderline personality disorder. She feels abandoned and now she is lashing out at people close to her. Some splitting here too.

[Anonymous]

There's not enough information here. The incident described could have a whole other side. For example, maybe based on the timing of your invite she was given to understand that everyone else in the group had been invited earlier, and had spoken to her numerous times since then but not mentioned it. Under those circumstances it would be reasonable for her to be miffed.

[Anonymous]

Borderline personality disorder

[Anonymous]

BPD

[Anonymous]

Since when did we start reclassifying being an a**hole as having borderline personality disorder

[Anonymous]

Someone who is very unhappy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since when did we start reclassifying being an a**hole as having borderline personality disorder

maybe there’s some overlap

[Anonymous]

DCUMism

[Anonymous]

I get it, op. I've had issues with friends/family that at times I just really want to get to the root of. Especially when it's a family member I'm required to be around frequently, or someone in a friend group who is always around. Sometimes understanding why a friend is the way they are helps me decide whether to break the friendship off for good.

I don't have the answers. But I bet she does a lot of vague-booking and often uses the phrase "must be nice" when faced with other people's joys in life.

[Anonymous]

I would just look at it as emotional immaturity and have major boundaries with this person and more distance. Be very careful what you say and find what level of interaction you can have to keep things pleasant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sucks. You don't need a diagnosis to know that. Stop pathologizing everything.

+1 playing arm chair psychologist isn’t necessary

IMO personality is on a spectrum. If everyone popped open the DSM and read the features of the personality clusters you’d likely find one that better matches your personality, just not to a pathological degree. It’s like the spectrum of anger between being miffed and enraged - both anger, just to different degrees.

[Anonymous]

People with borderline personality disorder like to rile things up. They also see rejection everywhere -- hence the "why didn't you invite me?" stuff.

They are a nightmare.