NYT on the benefits of parenting your adult children

[Anonymous]

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/09/upshot/parenting-young-adults-relationships.html

Land the helicopter? No, call in the aerial refueling drone!

[Anonymous]

I’m going to guess this will end when Gen X have adult kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess this will end when Gen X have adult kids.

And I know the article tries to blame it on Gen X but they are not the parents of the older set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess this will end when Gen X have adult kids.

And I know the article tries to blame it on Gen X but they are not the parents of the older set.

Gen X is 1965-1980. The oldest Gen Xers are turning 60 this year. So, yes, 18-34YOs can and many do have Gen X Parents. We are Gen X, had kids late, and our oldest is 20. My siblings are Gen x and had kids young and their oldest kids are 30.

[Anonymous]

Their definitions are too broad. There is a huge difference between providing advice to an 18 y.o. and providing financial support to a 34 y.o.

There is also a difference between the interdependence in multigenerational households and the situation where all the support only flows one way. Let’s see how it works out in another 10-15 years, whether the perpetual takers will turn into givers.

[Anonymous]

I’m a boomer and my kids millennials and we were not helicopter parents. As soon as they got out of college they were on their own with no parent subsidies. But, we were always available for discussions about careers, dating and with our youngest my husband would have a dad/daughter dinner once a month for a couple of years just to talk about anything. Now they are all married with kids and doing well but we offer advice if they ask on investing or other things because we’ve been there. We have more of that kind of engagement than my parents had with us because today communication is so much easier.

[Anonymous]

Paywall. Post the article.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess this will end when Gen X have adult kids.

We are Gen X and all of us have kids teens and older.

[Anonymous]

Gen X parenting/parented Gen Z.

[Anonymous]

Don't post a link with a paywall. Summarize the article's points instead.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't post a link with a paywall. Summarize the article's points instead.

"New surveys show that today’s intensive parenting has benefits, not just risks, and most young adults seem happy with it, too."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a boomer and my kids millennials and we were not helicopter parents. As soon as they got out of college they were on their own with no parent subsidies. But, we were always available for discussions about careers, dating and with our youngest my husband would have a dad/daughter dinner once a month for a couple of years just to talk about anything. Now they are all married with kids and doing well but we offer advice if they ask on investing or other things because we’ve been there. We have more of that kind of engagement than my parents had with us because today communication is so much easier.

same, my 1944 & 1950 parents are like that for me 1979 and my sibling 1982. they listen, are sounding boards and give great advice. My friends now mid 40s call them for advice or ideas too! And sadly as the 80s approach more funerals of my parents friends and my friends parents.