Attracted to a coworker while married?

[Anonymous]

What happened? How long?

[Anonymous]

The workplace is not your personal dating spot. #metoo

[Anonymous]

Nothing happens. I enjoy having my crush and then go home to my husband each night. I pretty much always have a crush on someone - coworker, cashier at Whole Foods, gay friend, an actor, etc.

[Anonymous]

Only once. Doubtful that will ever happen again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only once. Doubtful that will ever happen again.

Did anything happen?

[Anonymous]

This happened to me. My coworker was young and passionate and had a bit of an obvious crush on me (or I am delusional- totally possible). It was cute and he was more ambitious and moved on from the job within a couple of years. He was very different from my husband and a very interesting person.

[Anonymous]

Before all the fireworks exploded our conversations were so loaded, innuendo flying.

Now what can we say?
Have a nice day. Looks like rain today.

Now I'm in a cab, heading back to my apartment. Everything is drab, and I wish it never started. I've landed in this awkward situation. How can I just avoid a conversation?
So I wait, come in late, it'd be great if you transferred out of state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Before all the fireworks exploded our conversations were so loaded, innuendo flying.

Now what can we say?
Have a nice day. Looks like rain today.

Now I'm in a cab, heading back to my apartment. Everything is drab, and I wish it never started. I've landed in this awkward situation. How can I just avoid a conversation?
So I wait, come in late, it'd be great if you transferred out of state.

Tell us how you really feel…
But seriously, Conventioneers is pretty good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing happens. I enjoy having my crush and then go home to my husband each night. I pretty much always have a crush on someone - coworker, cashier at Whole Foods, gay friend, an actor, etc.

Same for me (a man). With all the workplace harassment training I've taken I err on the side of caution and there's no chance I would act on it.

[Anonymous]

Its a harmless crush, nothing happened. It is completely normal to still find people attractive even when you're married. I love DH and we have a fantastic life together. I have zero interest in blowing up my life because my coworker is hot and friendly

[Anonymous]

Maybe I'm hornier than the average bear, but I'm almost always attracted to someone I'm working with. Nothing happens. I'm married. Sometimes I get a little tongue tied the first time I talk to some new 25 year old in the office but even that stops pretty quickly.

[Anonymous]

Nothin happened for the 8 years we worked together.

Then I took a new job in the same general area. I bumped into her 3 years later at Harris Teeter grabbing groceries at lunch. We traded cell numbers (never had them before) in the name of networking.

She called me three weeks later (in the middle of a weekday) and said she was nearby and wondered if I wanted to get coffee. We had sex in her car and never spoke or texted again.

That was 5 years ago.

[Anonymous]

I told DH about it. We went out as couples a few times. We all got drunk and hooked up once. DH and I are not cool enough to continue in that kind of lifestyle, so we are just friends. If we go out together, we don’t go back to their house or invite them to ours . The man and I are still work friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told DH about it. We went out as couples a few times. We all got drunk and hooked up once. DH and I are not cool enough to continue in that kind of lifestyle, so we are just friends. If we go out together, we don’t go back to their house or invite them to ours . The man and I are still work friends.

How did your husband respond when you first told him? Had he already been down that road in some way with you? We all know couples where one or the other would lose it if something like that came up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothin happened for the 8 years we worked together.

Then I took a new job in the same general area. I bumped into her 3 years later at Harris Teeter grabbing groceries at lunch. We traded cell numbers (never had them before) in the name of networking.

She called me three weeks later (in the middle of a weekday) and said she was nearby and wondered if I wanted to get coffee. We had sex in her car and never spoke or texted again.

That was 5 years ago.

Was it a good experience or do you regret it?