Parent staying versus drop off play date

[Anonymous]

My child has had a few play dates with a classmate (kindergarten). We always drop off, and the two times the friend came over, one parent stayed.

I think I am at the point of no more playdates with this friend because I really don’t like hosting the other parent. Is this rude? Or how do I suggest a drop off play date when at our house?

[Anonymous]

Next time you invite, use the phrase “drop Larlo off.”

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why a parent would want to stay. What purpose does it serve? If the kids need supervision, the host parent is responsible for that. If the kids don’t need supervision the host parent should not have to entertain an adult while the kids play. I would just say no to this - or simply not invite the child over if that’s the only way to avoid the situation.

[Anonymous]

Use your words OP. “Can Larlo come over after school next Friday. You can pick him up from our house around 6”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use your words OP. “Can Larlo come over after school next Friday. You can pick him up from our house around 6”

+1

Just make it clear in the invite. The parent can decline if not comfortable with it.

[Anonymous]

I would not drop off my K child unless I knew the parents very well. FWIW I have three kids and I have never done this. If someone said drop off only I would politely decline and question their motives.

[Anonymous]

I have to wonder about a parent who would drop their 5-6 year old off at someone's home without knowing them or the home. I'd also have to wonder about a parent who would insist they take a child without them knowing the other parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not drop off my K child unless I knew the parents very well. FWIW I have three kids and I have never done this. If someone said drop off only I would politely decline and question their motives.

Question their motives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not drop off my K child unless I knew the parents very well. FWIW I have three kids and I have never done this. If someone said drop off only I would politely decline and question their motives.

This isn't typical. Even if you have 3 kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to wonder about a parent who would drop their 5-6 year old off at someone's home without knowing them or the home. I'd also have to wonder about a parent who would insist they take a child without them knowing the other parent.

What are we talking about here? Op said the other parent always stays. The parents know each other now.

[Anonymous]

She would like to be friends with you. It's ok that you don't want to be friends, but at least have the heart to acknowledge -- that is what this is. Is that so bad?

If you don't want to be social, say beforehand that you will need to work while the girls play.

[Anonymous]

It could be they are uncomfortable with drop off playdates (maybe they don't trust others, maybe their child has some needs you aren't aware of). Or it could be they want to be friends and have some adult time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not drop off my K child unless I knew the parents very well. FWIW I have three kids and I have never done this. If someone said drop off only I would politely decline and question their motives.

Question their motives?

Ooooh those introverts. You gotta watch out for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to wonder about a parent who would drop their 5-6 year old off at someone's home without knowing them or the home. I'd also have to wonder about a parent who would insist they take a child without them knowing the other parent.

Kindergarten is usually when this starts happening. It’s perfectly normal and healthy.

Theres a whole world out there outside of your anxiety!

[Anonymous]

How long are these playdates and how far from the playmate's home? Most parents seem fine with having a parent stay at that age. Are you working in a home office and just letting the kids supervise themselves?