ED Meds

[Anonymous]

Stumbled upon the fact my bf takes ED meds after starting a depression med. he never mentioned it i happened to find a wrapper he left out. We are late 40s and I want to be supportive. my mind goes to cheating because otherwise wouldn’t he have shared with me he’s on them? Trying to be supportive and wondering what other couples experiences have been with sharing something like this with your partner?

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. I think lots of guys hide it at first. It’s kind of a sensitive subject for us. We don’t like to admit we need help.

[Anonymous]

I wish DH would get on medication.

[Anonymous]

Also wish my hubby would consider looking into this but his ego is getting in the way.

[Anonymous]

I definitely wouldn’t jump to thinking he’s cheating. I wish DH would “secretly” look into meds but his ego is there stopping him.

[Anonymous]

40 year old male here. I am not cheating but take meds almost daily for ED and have not disclosed this to my current GF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40 year old male here. I am not cheating but take meds almost daily for ED and have not disclosed this to my current GF.

My wife knows I have them and take them sometimes, but I never tell her when I do. I doubt your BF is cheating (based just on that fact).

[Anonymous]

That’s very unusual thought process, OP. Not sure why you went there rather than shame?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s very unusual thought process, OP. Not sure why you went there rather than shame?

And to be clear, I don’t think a man taking ED meds should feel shame but the response on the board has been kind of harsh at times.

[Anonymous]

My DH takes ED meds. DH knows that I take hormone therapy medications. So what?

Our sex life is great. That’s the key point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s very unusual thought process, OP. Not sure why you went there rather than shame?

OP. Shame did not come to mind since I know a lot of men and I guess women have stuff going on in this department. We have never had a conversation about it. I was trying to be sensitive and not just go in hard and assume but it is not something I have delt with before when it comes to a SO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s very unusual thought process, OP. Not sure why you went there rather than shame?

OP. Shame did not come to mind since I know a lot of men and I guess women have stuff going on in this department. We have never had a conversation about it. I was trying to be sensitive and not just go in hard and assume but it is not something I have delt with before when it comes to a SO.

What's the big deal? Why not just assume physical trouble and move on? I don't even know what there is to discuss.

[Anonymous]

My husband has struggled and I’m hoping he’ll get some help. He’s 68 and until recently he had no problem getting an erection and maintaining it.

[Anonymous]

I don't have ED but take Cialis anyway because I can't go multiple times without it. My wife knows I have it but I don't usually tell her when I've taken it. Sometimes she can tell because I am super hard, and well, for some reason she seems likes it a little better than when I am regular hard. I am surprised her vagina can detect what I would think is a trivial difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stumbled upon the fact my bf takes ED meds after starting a depression med. he never mentioned it i happened to find a wrapper he left out. We are late 40s and I want to be supportive. my mind goes to cheating because otherwise wouldn’t he have shared with me he’s on them? Trying to be supportive and wondering what other couples experiences have been with sharing something like this with your partner?

He hid them because he was embarrassed he uses them.