Can I take him/this seriously yet?

[Anonymous]

-I am open invitation at his house
-says he loves me (and said it first)
-said early on he feels like this could be it
-told siblings, parents, buddies about me
-introduced me to oldest friend
-wants me to meet his parents
-has referred to ring shopping more than once
-has asked about timeline and my requirements for deciding to live together
-is asking about details of cohabiting like how I like to keep stuff in the bathroom and how to socialize pets together

It has been 6 months. I consider him trustworthy, reliable, sincere.

What else is there to look for re: signs he’s serious?

[Anonymous]

I do not understand

[Anonymous]

Huh? Sounds like love bombing if anything. SIx months in and he's talking about rings, and you're wondering if you can take the relationship seriously "yet"???

Something is seriously mismatched.

[Anonymous]

If he was serious he would propose and not talk about it. My DH did most of that and proposed at 4 months. He flew me back to his hometown so I could meet his parents too.

He didn’t dangle the “You could be the one! I’m thinking about taking you ring shopping!” thing in my face, he showed me and he did it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he was serious he would propose and not talk about it. My DH did most of that and proposed at 4 months. He flew me back to his hometown so I could meet his parents too.

He didn’t dangle the “You could be the one! I’m thinking about taking you ring shopping!” thing in my face, he showed me and he did it.

And you said yes after just four months of knowing the man? That sounds like jumping the gun on both your parts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was serious he would propose and not talk about it. My DH did most of that and proposed at 4 months. He flew me back to his hometown so I could meet his parents too.

He didn’t dangle the “You could be the one! I’m thinking about taking you ring shopping!” thing in my face, he showed me and he did it.

And you said yes after just four months of knowing the man? That sounds like jumping the gun on both your parts.

It worked out great for us, we’re very happily married and he’s a superb husband. But my point is that he showed and proved, unlike other guys who were all talk and no action.

[Anonymous]

I would not worry about a ring just yet (and hard no to pps situation of getting engaged after 4 months, but that was probably like a million years ago).

Date, talk about real things, not picture painting. Look at financials. Be realistic, and be honest with him too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh? Sounds like love bombing if anything. SIx months in and he's talking about rings, and you're wondering if you can take the relationship seriously "yet"???

Something is seriously mismatched.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP. It’s not love bombing. He’s not like that—very staid and deliberate. Doesn’t make over the top romantic gestures, does make normal ones unasked—bday, Valentine’s Day, holidays, dates. Knows the ropes but also very happy hanging out at home together in cozy clothes playing games/cooking.

[Anonymous]

If you are in this/that area, has he taken you to any of the top places? e.g., Baxter's, The Hop, Prentice Place, Lido Slide, the Fives?

[Anonymous]

Six months in? That's aggressive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was serious he would propose and not talk about it. My DH did most of that and proposed at 4 months. He flew me back to his hometown so I could meet his parents too.

He didn’t dangle the “You could be the one! I’m thinking about taking you ring shopping!” thing in my face, he showed me and he did it.

And you said yes after just four months of knowing the man? That sounds like jumping the gun on both your parts.

It worked out great for us, we’re very happily married and he’s a superb husband. But my point is that he showed and proved, unlike other guys who were all talk and no action.

It's old school, but when I was dating, my grandma told me, "no ring, no thing." In other words, don't be overly committed to or move in with anyone until you are engaged, and married for cohabitating. It worked for me.

[Anonymous]

What are your ages and have you been married before? Do either one of you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. It’s not love bombing. He’s not like that—very staid and deliberate. Doesn’t make over the top romantic gestures, does make normal ones unasked—bday, Valentine’s Day, holidays, dates. Knows the ropes but also very happy hanging out at home together in cozy clothes playing games/cooking.

If you've been dating for 6 months, how do you know how he handles Valentine's Day?

Whole post seems trollish: he's somehow simultaneously not over the top romantic and "staid and deliberate", but also head over heels in love with you and talking marriage at the 6-month mark; you want us to tell you if he means it, but you tell us that he's sincere, trustworthy, reliable, etc. What exactly are you looking for here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:-I am open invitation at his house
-says he loves me (and said it first)
-said early on he feels like this could be it
-told siblings, parents, buddies about me
-introduced me to oldest friend
-wants me to meet his parents
-has referred to ring shopping more than once
-has asked about timeline and my requirements for deciding to live together
-is asking about details of cohabiting like how I like to keep stuff in the bathroom and how to socialize pets together

It has been 6 months. I consider him trustworthy, reliable, sincere.

What else is there to look for re: signs he’s serious?

Six months? LOL, woman...once you get out of the honeymoon phase all those listed items will change. Wait at least one full year and live together for at least 3-5 months so two know how you both are really like. You're both still the "dating showing the best of myself" phase.