Are Girl Scouts the mean girls?

[Anonymous]

At our school, Girl Scouts account for probably 30% of the girls in the grade. The parents are often the pta moms, the swim team moms, soccer moms, dance moms, etc. The moms and girls are cliquey. My daughter just joined. I have heard from other parents how some kids call the girls mean girls. They are called the Girl Scouts as a clique. I have seen some not kind behavior at the meetings.

[Anonymous]

I would say that more typically, they are not the "mean girls" but they certainly could be in theory, all it takes is a couple of less kind girls and lax or permissive leadership...

Maybe you should find another troop.

[Anonymous]

+1 for finding another troop. Growing up, my troop was all the nerdy kids. It was a good fit for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At our school, Girl Scouts account for probably 30% of the girls in the grade. The parents are often the pta moms, the swim team moms, soccer moms, dance moms, etc. The moms and girls are cliquey. My daughter just joined. I have heard from other parents how some kids call the girls mean girls. They are called the Girl Scouts as a clique. I have seen some not kind behavior at the meetings.

Definitely.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is a brownie. Im the socially awkward poor mom. The girls are generally just regular girls. The parents do overlap with pta, mostly due to being into volunteering. I’m not one of them. I do help with troop and at school when I can. No one is snobby but initially we were all too tired and busy when girls were younger to connect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a brownie. Im the socially awkward poor mom. The girls are generally just regular girls. The parents do overlap with pta, mostly due to being into volunteering. I’m not one of them. I do help with troop and at school when I can. No one is snobby but initially we were all too tired and busy when girls were younger to connect.

Adding we have a good mix of athletes and artsy kids in our troop. Definitely a motley crew.

[Anonymous]

Feel free to form your own troop or thank the other moms for doing the work for you.

[Anonymous]

Um anyone can join. It’s not an exclusive organization. So this sounds ridiculous. I think it just depends on your troop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a brownie. Im the socially awkward poor mom. The girls are generally just regular girls. The parents do overlap with pta, mostly due to being into volunteering. I’m not one of them. I do help with troop and at school when I can. No one is snobby but initially we were all too tired and busy when girls were younger to connect.

Adding we have a good mix of athletes and artsy kids in our troop. Definitely a motley crew.

My older DD is also a Brownie, and this description fits our troop perfectly. However, we have interacted with other troops in our service unit that could certainly be described as clique-ish. As with many other activities in life, it varies. Look for a different troop.

[Anonymous]

Troop Beverly Hills is kind of cliquey.

Maybe the other girls are the mean girls.

[Anonymous]

PTA moms until mid-brownies, nerds thereafter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say that more typically, they are not the "mean girls" but they certainly could be in theory, all it takes is a couple of less kind girls and lax or permissive leadership...

Maybe you should find another troop.

This is good advice. My older daughter's troop has been fantastic from the start. My younger started in a troop at her ES that was run by overgrown mean girls, and it was... unpleasant. We switched to a different troop and it has been great since.

Who leads and how really matters.

[Anonymous]

The kids are all over the place in style and manner. Through the years some girls have tried on attitudes but the mix and attendance doesn't lend itself to cliqueishness. The girls mature out of those stages (maybe they'll revert later). Girls who fall into the more defined "mean girl personality" end up quitting, maybe due to getting called out on it. The leaders are great at making sure each kid is included and respected.

[Anonymous]

It kind of makes sense that it would be a group of "joiners." Also, GS may attract people with more traditional values (and not in the good way in my opinion) which I tend to think = mean girls, or at least more provincial girls and parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It kind of makes sense that it would be a group of "joiners." Also, GS may attract people with more traditional values (and not in the good way in my opinion) which I tend to think = mean girls, or at least more provincial girls and parents

ACtually, not mean girls -but girls who are more into cliques and typical things