Family wedding

[Anonymous]

My DH has 6 siblings. A nephew is getting married and two of the siblings are attending, (including us and our 4 kids with two SO) even though everyone was invited.
It’s 3 hours away for everyone, except one Hawaii sibling.
I simply cannot believe three of the siblings aren’t attending. It’s in a major city.
I’d be so mad.
One is a trucker and said he wouldn’t fit in, one thinks the city is a racket (no idea what she means by that) and the other - who knows.
It’s so very odd.

[Anonymous]

For some of them, money is probably an issue. Just let it go, OP. Your husband could offer to defray some of the costs, but then that would set up an unfortunate dynamic for the future.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s odder still that you’re using holiday time to gnash your teeth about what not-even-your-siblings are doing or not doing. You trying to dust up gossip with total strangers is beyond weird. Get a hobby.

[Anonymous]

Good for them. Non-local weddings are always optional.

[Anonymous]

A wedding is not a summons. Other adults to attend wedding or not is none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has 6 siblings. A nephew is getting married and two of the siblings are attending, (including us and our 4 kids with two SO) even though everyone was invited.
It’s 3 hours away for everyone, except one Hawaii sibling.
I simply cannot believe three of the siblings aren’t attending. It’s in a major city.
I’d be so mad.
One is a trucker and said he wouldn’t fit in, one thinks the city is a racket (no idea what she means by that) and the other - who knows.
It’s so very odd.

In this case, you're the odd ball. It is out of line for you to judge this family. In a lot of large families, cousins aren't that close and not everyone will attend a niece or nephews wedding. When families move apart it is less likely that extended family will attend.

You sound like you are from a small village somewhere where no one ever leaves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has 6 siblings. A nephew is getting married and two of the siblings are attending, (including us and our 4 kids with two SO) even though everyone was invited.
It’s 3 hours away for everyone, except one Hawaii sibling.
I simply cannot believe three of the siblings aren’t attending. It’s in a major city.
I’d be so mad.
One is a trucker and said he wouldn’t fit in, one thinks the city is a racket (no idea what she means by that) and the other - who knows.
It’s so very odd.

So.....you're piling on the two siblings who are vocally saying they can't afford this? Truckers don't make a lot, and don't have much time off. Also, these aren't even YOUR siblings. They are your DH's siblings. Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

"Wouldn't fit in" and "the city's a racket" are roundabout ways to say that it's TOO EXPENSIVE FOR THEM to travel, get a hotel, buy nice clothes and gifts, park their cars, etc, in that major city.

How on earth did you miss that, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Wouldn't fit in" and "the city's a racket" are roundabout ways to say that it's TOO EXPENSIVE FOR THEM to travel, get a hotel, buy nice clothes and gifts, park their cars, etc, in that major city.

How on earth did you miss that, OP?

Yes. Pretty obvious. And, as someone noted, an invitation is not a summons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Wouldn't fit in" and "the city's a racket" are roundabout ways to say that it's TOO EXPENSIVE FOR THEM to travel, get a hotel, buy nice clothes and gifts, park their cars, etc, in that major city.

How on earth did you miss that, OP?

The “racket” just returned from a European trip.
The “trucker” does just fine.

I didn’t miss anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH has 6 siblings. A nephew is getting married and two of the siblings are attending, (including us and our 4 kids with two SO) even though everyone was invited.
It’s 3 hours away for everyone, except one Hawaii sibling.
I simply cannot believe three of the siblings aren’t attending. It’s in a major city.
I’d be so mad.
One is a trucker and said he wouldn’t fit in, one thinks the city is a racket (no idea what she means by that) and the other - who knows.
It’s so very odd.

In this case, you're the odd ball. It is out of line for you to judge this family. In a lot of large families, cousins aren't that close and not everyone will attend a niece or nephews wedding. When families move apart it is less likely that extended family will attend.

You sound like you are from a small village somewhere where no one ever leaves.

Oddly enough, we left the hometown and they still live there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Wouldn't fit in" and "the city's a racket" are roundabout ways to say that it's TOO EXPENSIVE FOR THEM to travel, get a hotel, buy nice clothes and gifts, park their cars, etc, in that major city.

How on earth did you miss that, OP?

The “racket” just returned from a European trip.
The “trucker” does just fine.

I didn’t miss anything.

People are allowed to spend their own money on what they want. I’d rather go to Europe than a family wedding too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH has 6 siblings. A nephew is getting married and two of the siblings are attending, (including us and our 4 kids with two SO) even though everyone was invited.
It’s 3 hours away for everyone, except one Hawaii sibling.
I simply cannot believe three of the siblings aren’t attending. It’s in a major city.
I’d be so mad.
One is a trucker and said he wouldn’t fit in, one thinks the city is a racket (no idea what she means by that) and the other - who knows.
It’s so very odd.

In this case, you're the odd ball. It is out of line for you to judge this family. In a lot of large families, cousins aren't that close and not everyone will attend a niece or nephews wedding. When families move apart it is less likely that extended family will attend.

You sound like you are from a small village somewhere where no one ever leaves.

Oddly enough, we left the hometown and they still live there.

NP. Then maybe there’s some hometown drama among family that you aren’t aware of. Don’t sweat it, everyone has priorities and makes choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Wouldn't fit in" and "the city's a racket" are roundabout ways to say that it's TOO EXPENSIVE FOR THEM to travel, get a hotel, buy nice clothes and gifts, park their cars, etc, in that major city.

How on earth did you miss that, OP?

The “racket” just returned from a European trip.
The “trucker” does just fine.

I didn’t miss anything.

People are allowed to spend their own money on what they want. I’d rather go to Europe than a family wedding too.

I’d be pissed if a family member did this.

[Anonymous]

Guarantee there is some family stuff going on. I have a friend whose husband is a trucker and some of the backhanded comments about him are disgusting.