I'm never doing wish lists again

[Anonymous]

We spent time pulling together wish lists for our entire family and the only one my in laws bought from was my husband's. Everything on all our lists was under $20 and there were things the kids really wanted on there. Now because I stupidly assumed they would buy things from the wishlist they asked for, my kids aren't getting some of the things that we've said "put it on your Christmas list!". My own parents just give us cash and say "buy them something off their wish list" with it, so their gifts were done weeks ago.

[Anonymous]

I always buy the important things myself, and always have. I never trust anyone else to do it. If your kids are old enough to verbalize what they want, you should have enough experience not to make that mistake.

[Anonymous]

Why didn’t you buy them things off their wish lists? We had the opposite issue, over zealous grandparents who wanted to buy it all so we had to put firm limits on what links the kids put on theirs. We bought the majority of items off our kids wish lists though.

[Anonymous]

That’s so annoying! I feel the same way with the dang lunch box I put on my toddler’s wish list.

[Anonymous]

OP here - I should have been clear. We had the kids make two wish lists. One for us with basically "high priority" items and one for other people to buy them. We do two lists so that they do get all he things they really, really want from us, and the other things are those "add it to your wish list" items that come up throughout the year and holiday season and we reviewed shortly before Christmas because they knew their grandparents were asking about it.

[Anonymous]

Can you go buy the gifts right now ?

[Anonymous]

Did they ask you to share lists? If yes that is annoying. But if they never asked for a list and if you sent it unsolicited that means they had their own ideas and didnt need or want to consult your list and thus you are the annoying one.

[Anonymous]

That is annoying, OP. I learned to just give the ILs a few minor items off the main wishlist. They could supplement with their own ideas or a gift card.

[Anonymous]

Maybe just be grateful for gifts that loved ones took the time to buy and wrap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you go buy the gifts right now ?

Or maybe OP's kids can dig deep and find a way to deal with the supreme disappointment of only getting the "high priority" items that OP did, in fact, purchase for them?

[Anonymous]

OP you sound very, very ungrateful. Some of us get NOTHING from family not even a Christmas card.

[Anonymous]

Why were you relying on everyone else to buy your kids gifts? Sounds very greedy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound very, very ungrateful. Some of us get NOTHING from family not even a Christmas card.

Some of us are orphans; check your privilege for having living relatives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We spent time pulling together wish lists for our entire family and the only one my in laws bought from was my husband's. Everything on all our lists was under $20 and there were things the kids really wanted on there. Now because I stupidly assumed they would buy things from the wishlist they asked for, my kids aren't getting some of the things that we've said "put it on your Christmas list!". My own parents just give us cash and say "buy them something off their wish list" with it, so their gifts were done weeks ago.

So you got the high priority items but you want your kids to have every single thing on their wish list? Gross.

My kids have wish lists that are 1-3 items and they know there is a budget. They need to wish in the budget or ask for cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We spent time pulling together wish lists for our entire family and the only one my in laws bought from was my husband's. Everything on all our lists was under $20 and there were things the kids really wanted on there. Now because I stupidly assumed they would buy things from the wishlist they asked for, my kids aren't getting some of the things that we've said "put it on your Christmas list!". My own parents just give us cash and say "buy them something off their wish list" with it, so their gifts were done weeks ago.

So you got the high priority items but you want your kids to have every single thing on their wish list? Gross.

My kids have wish lists that are 1-3 items and they know there is a budget. They need to wish in the budget or ask for cash.

If someone asks for a $20 gadget, spend the $20 and get them what they want. Don’t spend $25 on a doohickey.