I cook dinner 28 days per month
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Anonymous
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We are a family of 4 and DH and I both work FT. I cook dinner for everyone 28 days per month and we get take out once night every other week. I also make everyone's breakfast most mornings unless the kids just want a bagel or yogurt or something else easy.
This morning, we've been up since 6am and kids ate then. DH and I haven't eaten yet. He just spent 30 mins in the kitchen sautéing vegetables and making a big omlette with a side of fresh fruit. Then proceeded to sit down and eat it all by himself, never even asking if I'd like something. How can people be like this? |
Anonymous
| Wow. That was really rude of him! |
Anonymous
| Just stop cooking. Tell your family to fend for themselves. And stop being a doormat and use your words in the meantime. |
Anonymous
| No one is making you cook 28 nights. You are doing it and then complaining about it. |
Anonymous
| Thank you for the daily reminder I always find here at DCUM that the life of singledom is to be cherished. I definitely have regrets at times, but then I think about the servitude and disrespect and the regrets dissipate. |
Anonymous
These sort of women prefer to wallow in their martyrdom. There is no reward in this world or beyond for your domestic sacrifices. |
Anonymous
| How old are the kids? If old enough to cook (even if it is scrambled eggs), start new in 2024. DH cooks once a week and kids cook once a week. They need to request ingredients by X. |
Anonymous
| My husband likes to make himself a nice breakfast while mine gets cold or I shove calories in my face without noticing because I am jumping up every 2 seconds for the kids or being their only conversational partner too. Then when his eggs are done the kids are also done and he gets a nice quiet breakfast by himself at the table. I blew up at him about it this morning and I'm still pissed. And this is a guy who does his share of dinners.... |
Anonymous
I don't understand this. How does this end up happening? |
Anonymous
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Tell him that what he did was selfish and rude, especially given how often you cook for him. You know, communication.
Something similar happened with my DH once, and I told him about it and ever since he has asked me if I want anything when he makes eggs or a hot breakfast of any kind. Communication, OP. Stop being a doormat. |
Anonymous
| Your DH sounds like the “I’m not a mind reader” type of guy. Men like this often appreciate direct instructions and won’t ever pick up on passive aggression or resentment. |
Anonymous
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This totally sounded like me 2 years ago. Then I just started opting out. I now have weekly evening commitments when DH has to handle dinners on his own. Weekends, I just stopped doing most meals. DH started doing a weekend grocery run to do some weekend meals, and at least one meal for during the week. Also, I started telling my kids that they were going to have to learn to pack their own lunches. Started with 1 day a week, and moved up each week, and now my oldest is independently packing lunches 4 days a week.
I also started telling my kids that they need to start learning how to do their own laundry. At first I helped them. Then slowly they have learned to do all the steps on their own. |
Anonymous
| I remember my dad doing this when my mom was out of town or working at the hospital on the weekend. He would make himself a nice meal and forget to feed us. |
Anonymous
| He (they?) have you well trained. Clearly you DH can cook. So you need to have a convo about division of labor. |
Anonymous
| We got Blue Apron for a few months a couple of years ago, and it got my husband a lot more comfortable in the kitchen. He just had no idea how to make a meal for family. |