I want my house to be a spot for friends, but self conscious how outdated it is
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Anonymous
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We are a mid-30s couple with two little kids. I really love cooking, hosting, and being social, but we haven't really had friends over in the 6 years we've been here because I'm embarrassed how outdated our house is. All of our friends have bought newer builds or gut renovated their older house and I feel like they'll judge our's. We are clean and tidy, but our kitchen is original from the 60s (including the double oven) and our bathrooms are from the 80s. There's a few marks on the floors that are just permanent at this point even when the floor is freshly scrubbed by hand so I feel like it looks unkempt if you look closely.
Do you judge people for out of date homes? |
Anonymous
| Not at all; is your living room and dining room comfy and a place I'd want to stay for a while? If so, I'm good. |
Anonymous
| I’m someone who loves to decorate and renovate. I don’t judge you at all! I’d rather come to a fun, outdated house than a boring party at a mansion. Just keep it clean and decluttered and people don’t care. Most people are renovating for themselves, not to show off to friends. |
Anonymous
| If your friends are judgmental, consider getting new friends. If you’re insecure about your clean and tidy home, consider the reasons why. |
Anonymous
| No, not at all! You sound like warm and welcoming hosts. |
Anonymous
| If your friends would judge you like this, they're not your friends. |
Anonymous
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No one cares even a little.
Hosting is about a clean space with good (dim) lighting, comfy seating and good food and drink. If the floors are really, really worn replace them with linoleum. No biggie. |
Anonymous
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We have a great outdated house and entertain all the day. No one cares AT all and frankly, if they did they would not be people I’d want to socialize with.
Focus on great food and drinks, and make sure everything is fresh and clean. I always have flowers, clean bathrooms with fresh towels, candles lit (unscented), background music. Use your good dishes. |
Anonymous
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We don’t care!! Just happy to be invited!
-owner of a big new construction house |
Anonymous
| Totally wouldn’t judge you at all. I’d appreciate you so much for hosting! Seriously. |
Anonymous
Or just put down rugs. But really no one cares! If everything is clean and you put out some irresistible food, nobody will think twice about whatever it is you’re focused on. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like the problem isn’t your dated interior, but your “friends” themselves. |
Anonymous
I won't judge you. Will happily come over 
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Anonymous
| I will be so grateful you are hosting and invited me so that I don’t have to host and worry about pets and clean bathrooms and pleasing everyone! |
Anonymous
| No. But I’ve heard people do it. They were jerks though. Start entertaining. |